how to say i love you to the person you love?

January 19, 2011 9:13am CST
i have a student and he is adorable and cute. i like him so much. we had a great time in communicating on phone and even in online messenger. last week, i feel that i'm in love with him. i don't even know if i should tell him that i love him or i'll just keep it to myself. i want to say "I LOVE HIM", but i found it so hard. i do have lots of fears if i'll do it. i'm afraid that he might not want me to do it. i'm also afraid that he will stop the communication that we had and live in our own lives. And MOSTLY, i'm afraid to loose a friend like him. How will i say that i love him? Would i just keep it to myself and preserve the friendship that we had? or take a risk to loose our friendship?
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@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
19 Jan 11
Ask him to do something nice for you,think about what you and you, some trinkets, and after say: thank you dear, I love you ... and he can say: really?and you say that: yes. At first everything will be a joke, but with time maybe it will turn this all into something more serious.Good luck...!
22 Jan 11
that's cool. thank you. I'll try to do that. There is no harm in trying. :)
22 Jan 11
That's cool. I'll try to do it. There is no harm in trying, right?
@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
Hi its normal to feel in love with somebody, and its normal to feel shy to let the one you love that you have that special feeling for him.I can say that it is better if you tell him and let him know that you love him.Because life is so short who knows one day he will be gone and you left with sad feeling for not letting him know of your feeling.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Emotion matters is really unpredictable issue because of individual differences..in beliefs, views, thoughts, among many others. First, being a teacher and student, you never know or sure if the reason why he keeps the connection is because you are his teacher. It might be out of respect, idealism, or who knows, you might have the right thinking? But as I have said, not sure. If you're going to tell him without assuring that he feels the same, you certainly will get hurt. On your part..you might just had developed that feeling because of having constant communication with him which happened for you to know more about him. For me, I have nothing against a relationship regardless of age, status in life, professions or whatever, you know him better than I, it's only you too who could analyze your feelings towards him. Better to buy ample time and analyze the best way you can. Asking how to tell him the magic 3 words? For me, if you love a person, no need to utter such words, you can let that person feel you if it's really love that comes from the heart.
22 Jan 11
Thank you. I like the way you say that I'm not yet sure if the feeling is mutual. You're right, I still don't know why we have this fun discussions and productive communications. I can't still assure that he loves me too. Maybe because I'm his teacher and she should keep the communication for respect or whatsoever. Thank you, this made me realized that I must avoid assuming things because the real thing maybe the opposite of what I assumed.
@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
in some countries, teacher-student romances are considered taboos. in some countries that are less conservative, it's the school management which often impose this rule for whatever reasons. i am not sure about your school's take on this since you have not mentioned this. but personally though i am okay with this as long as they retain a semblance of respect of their school relationship as a student and a teacher. i know of a friend who was once an object of affection by her teacher. they did become a couple, as i know, after she graduated. i'm not sure though if it was her personal decision to avoid ugly talks in their school, but i do know that they stayed together for many years when she was already out of school and got her own job. telling that student of yours how you feel is ultimately up to you. as long as you know what you may have to sacrifice or face up to when you do, then it's fine.
22 Jan 11
Thank you. You're right, if I'll pursue my plans in telling my feelings to him, my job might be in serious condition. I'll just think about it more. God bless.
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Greetings! I'm also having a problem like that. I fell in love on someone without knowing the reason why and I don't know how can I tell him. The reason why we're afraid to tell someone that we love them its because we're afraid to be rejected. We're afraid to loose them. Well, I've read this from many sources just recently and I'll share what I've read. Its hard to love somebody without letting them know. We can tell them that we love them in so many ways. We can say it directly to them but just have the right timing. Another is you can tell it to him in a special occasion wherein you're dressed really pretty. You can also tell it to him in a romantic way while watching a romantic movie. Another is you can tell it him wherein he will be shocked! In a way he wouldn't be expecting you'd say that but the most important thing, we can say in in any way but it takes a lot of courage. Sometimes guys do like the courage that a girl has. Just forget about "rejection" it would make us feel better if we say how we feel but then don't feel desperate because sometimes guys need time to think about it. Give him time. After doing your part by telling him you love him, let him be the first to approach you. That's what I'm going to do. I'm just waiting for the right timing. No matter how risky it is, I'm willing to do it even after telling it that he would just reject me. At least I tried. :)
22 Jan 11
You're right. There is really no harm in trying :)
@lizmik143 (137)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Think it over because you might jeopardize your job and you student's stay in the school. And as for me, if you think your student has the same feeling, wait until he says it so. And you take it from there. A teacher announcing love to a student seems inappropriate.
@koikei (206)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
greetings! you mentioned that he's your student. may i know what you exactly teach him? is he in college, high school, or pre-school (LOL)? and what is your age difference? i'd like to assume that he's above 18 years old right? and your age is somewhat near that age? hehe. if yes, then just tell him directly that you love him. otherwise, stop before it's too late.
22 Jan 11
I'm 2 years older than him. He's in college. Rejection is what I'm afraid of. :( I don't have yet enough courage to say that I love him.