Am I neglecting my children ?

greetings! as long you can handle everything all at the same time, then you're good. otherwise, might be better to think about what's really important to you at this moment. your career or your family issues? if you feel that your kids need your guidance and undivided attention now, then you can postpone working for the mean time. pursue it again when you have the free time. it doesn't necessarily mean that you need to stop pursuing what you want right now.

Hi sunshine37, I am a mother too of a 5 year old kid, yes sometimes we asks ourselves if we are neglecting our children or in my case my child, this happens when we don't spend quality time with them, but since on your case they are already on the pre teens they say that is the most difficult time, and you should be hands-on to them. It's just a matter of time management anyways, you can work while they are away and be there for them when they are at home, that's what I do, I work when my son is asleep you can give time for them 100% you just need to manage it correctly although there are really times when yo neglect them that's ok, you can apologize. I hope I help you a little bit.

Honey, let me tell that if you think you have it hard now wait until your girls are real teen agers. If you are aware of what your kids are doing and listen to them Then every thing will be fine. Kids are smarter than we usually give them credit for. We can't all be the great parent we pictured we wanted to be. Some how with all our mistakes those kids turn out just fine. How much easier it would be if each child came with instructions, but they don't so we do the best we can. I know that I made lot of mistakes when raising my kids plus two grandkids but I did the best that I could and they are all great kids

Hi, sunshine,i am also a mother, so i can fully understand you. I only have one kid, but i feel very busy at home. And as you have said, you got two preteen girls,and 3 other big ones. It is easy to image how busy you are. You know, kids are our most valuable things in our life. Raising kids is the most important and also meaningful job. We can do lots of thing later, but we can not turn the time back after we see regrets in our kids. Since you need working at home, so you think you can not take good care of your two girls. I have experienced the same situation before. And i think when these two things interfere each other, actually you can not do either of them well. I mean the efficiency of your work will be very low. And you said, you are writing at home, which related to mental work. If so, don't you think its efficiency is particular low when you got other things to care? Maybe we can do some labor work while we are taking care of our kids, but we can't do well on mental work at the same time. So my advice is, just do one thing with your heart. I think your girls are all pupils now, so it is much easier than taking care of babies. You just focus on them, answer their questions with your heart. And then you can give them some thing to do, and told them that you need work for two or three hours, after that your time is theirs. Of course, having two lovely girls with you, i am sure you can got abundant sources for your writing. And of course you can write out wonderful articals. Do you think so. Just adjust your mood. Turn the negative points into positive ones. Wish you can succeed both in writing and in raising two terrific girls.

I am not a parent yet and really have not much idea about this stuff but may I suggest that maybe you could cut down a little of your work time for time with children. I think that with the right setting of schedule and maintaining the balance of online work and house work, things would work out good. I do know it's not an easy task, so I wish you good luck on that!

Do you not use the services of a housemaid to help you supervise your children or assist you in care your house while you focus on your desire to work at home ? I think, working at home is more flexible, both in terms of time and concentration. And most importantly, by working at home, you need not feel guilty because you can still focus on both. When you work at home, you do not continually focus on your job, right?