Promises, Promises and more Promises

Hi sweetie. I never make promises i cannot keep. I have broken the most important promise of my life and till today i have trouble coping with it. One should never make a promise and break it, it's just not done as it can hurt a lot of people. TATA.

Hi eureka! some promises like New Year resolutions are meant to be broken. It is also said - "a promise breaker is a shoe maker". You are very right, there are many in this world and whom we come across in our daily life, who do not keep their promises or should I say give false promises, which they do not believe in fulfilling. Be it your tailor, an electrician, a plumber, a mechanic, maid servant, sweeper, milk-man or your grocer. I have observed that people immediately make a promise to do something on a particular time and when the time comes, they start giving you various excuses and if you are not satisfied with excuses, they say - "it is all human, human commit mistakes, so what is the problem?". I dislike those who give false promises and I do not feel like going nearer to these kind of people. It takes one of two meetings or occurances to judge a fellow, whether s/he is reliable or not. If I find someone unreliable, I avoid him/her. I myself do not ever make false promises, if I cannot execute any task, I plainly tell that it is beyond me and I won't be able to do it. Let the other fellow take it otherwise, I do not mind because I feel that if I make a false promise and do not fulfill it at a later stage, it will be more painful than saying 'no' at first stage. How are you doing? have a great day! Deepak

I actually put a lot of value in that "PROMISE" word and I don't use it loosly or often. My girls know that I actually rarely use it and when I do...they can count on it. Short of me dying suddenly of a heart attack or unexpected accident, when I tell them I promise them something then I've always come thru or refrained from using the word. If someone's word isn't good then that says alot about the person and in the long run of things it comes back and bites them you know where. A person's word says a lot about the person.

eurekafemme, When you said that promises are more often made to be broken, I just have to quote the words of Denis Waitley who once said: “Losers make promises they often break. Winners make commitments they always keep.” So, we just have to be careful with people who makes promises because if the person is sincere enough, then he/she does not have to make verbal promises when one is living up the words given. Take care.

A persons reputation is built on what they do, not on what they say. My big preach to my children is don't tell me what you are going to do, do it and then tell me about it. My friendships and the basis of my trust is about honesty through and through. Lie to me and I won't vote for you, I will not call you my friend, and I will not have any respect for you! When I was a kid I noticed adults who lied, to their spouse, their children and to the neighborhood. It's surprising how wealthy these people turned out to be. But their friendships are shallow and they are often divorced. No surprise there!

Same thing in every country.

Hi eureka, Normally I do not make promises if I make something then I will do it. I hate when people broke their promises, it is better not to make it if you want to break. Now I am making promises to my kids but as compensation (if you do well in studies then I can provide this…) How is it?

That is the national motto of making a promise. Yes promise are always be broken in my side it happened. I always say a promise to my son that I will buy him a cellphone so I need to promise to him and has a date. But when the date has come that is the problem. He is insisting the thing that i promised him. And if i failed to give him what i told him he accusing me of being a liar. But that is true I lied. Well really it was hard to say promise and if there was a time that you don't need to say a promise much better. I always failed of promises.