Just keep your mouth shut
By Milkypink26
@Milkypink26 (324)
Philippines
January 21, 2011 1:59am CST
Why does people never keep their mouth shut even though they don't have anything good to say?
Some people blame others of their misfortune because they help those people. Why blame your divorce to people whom you have helped?
Why not let go of things that made you feel sad or failures that was like ages ago?
How can someone live a happy life if their living from their awful past memory?
How can someone live peacefully if you can't forgive others?
I've lived my life taking the good traits of my parents and leaving all bad things about them. I've been observing different attitude and point of views of those people who are related to me. Somehow, I feel the anger that I would have to just suck all of those bad things about them and I feel sad about what's happening around.
I'm not perfect and I'm not trying to be one, I have my own shortcomings but I don't blame it to others. Whatever happens to me is all my fault and God forbid it to happen.
"you can't have a better tomorrow if you are thinking about yesterday all the time" -Charles Kettering
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12 responses
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
22 Jan 11
forgiveness is not an easy thing
some people love and trust deeply, that they give everything to the other person
when they are betrayed, they can't get over it easily
it can take years to get over some thing and until they do, they will keep venting about it
I can't get over some things easily either, but I don't stop working on brighter future and I have found many great and wise friends and teachers this way
so I did vent now and then, especially about bigots and cheaters
but I also do not get sidetracked on continuous learning from wise souls
@Milkypink26 (324)
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
Hi LittleMel!
You have a point there, it might be one reason why my aunt has always been like that and complained about the existence of her life.
Thanks for that! It made somehow clear to me. I sometimes just can't understand them and does also hurt my feelings to whatever negative things they say. I would really appreciate if they forget about their past but as you have said it would not be an easy thing.
I really appreciate your response! :)
@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
Well hello dear, i think you are in Planet Earth.(^_^)
Seriously, it happens, happened to you, happened to him , happened to her, and yes it happened to me.
The bottomline, don't ..don't ever let negative things let you down.Get over it and tell yourself, i am not perfect just like anybody else.
Look the other way, and you will the rose blooms somewhere and see beauty that will refresh your soul.
@Milkypink26 (324)
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
Short but very vell said. :)
It would just make you frustrated sometimes but yeah we just need to look other way around. :)
Thank you so much!
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
This is what makes me think most of the time as well. Why people just don't shut up?
And I realized that it is easier to said negative things than to sing praises and words of encouragement or compliment. There is seems a lot of negative energies toward everybody and everything that we do not just seek about the flaws but we tend to speak about it.
One factor I can think of is the anger, envy, bitterness and frustrations that are hidden deep down inside us. Now, I'm talking about factors already.
Those feelings could be very bad especially when they exist for no valid reasons at all.
So we criticize, we rant, we nag , we talk a lot to help ourselves feel better. That is, if we indeed feel better by doing so.
And I realized that it is easier to said negative things than to sing praises and words of encouragement or compliment. There is seems a lot of negative energies toward everybody and everything that we do not just seek about the flaws but we tend to speak about it.
One factor I can think of is the anger, envy, bitterness and frustrations that are hidden deep down inside us. Now, I'm talking about factors already.Those feelings could be very bad especially when they exist for no valid reasons at all.
So we criticize, we rant, we nag , we talk a lot to help ourselves feel better. That is, if we indeed feel better by doing so.@Milkypink26 (324)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
It is true, we tend to look on all the negative things around us.
You have a point that those factors that are being kept inside us are just bad and will just make us sick.
Sometimes they just love to repeat everything that they've say over and over again every time they see you. Too much of something is not good either. :(
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Some people feel better when they could speak out what's inside them. This I guess is one defensive reflex so that one would not break or freak out. Understanding makes this world at peace so why not join in, let it in , then let it out from the other. 
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@Milkypink26 (324)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
I'm trying to understand those people.
I'm keeping my mouth shut in order not hurt their feelings and I also take in consideration that they're older than I am.
It's just sad because if you try to insert your comment they will think you're disrespectful.
So sad. :(
@xinshunhe (132)
• China
21 Jan 11
Thanks for sharing. you live so peaceful and harmonious.
Perhaps,you got to understand those people who always want to complain about.
we are trying to be ourselves,and do it in our own way. GOD bless us,if we are able to help those different people,and maybe change their views of recognizing the world and seeing things.
otherwise,there is not faults exsit in our eyes.
@denydungrani (359)
• India
21 Jan 11
We humans share out thoughts by communicating. So i dont think they will achieve anything by just keeping their mouths shut. Even if you do not have any good ideas you should participate in the discussion to share your opinions. In that way there can be flow of ideas from many side rather than a single person who puts forward his idea everytime.
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@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
21 Jan 11
In my opinion it takes years to learn to do all that your suggesting. Plus there are alot of emotional people who just can't let things go, especially if the hurt is really close to the heart and deep. And yes at certain times you can blame others for what happens in your life but only if they took some kind of role in what happened. I can agree with you and I actually do but it took me a while to get to that point in my life.
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@sparky3dfan (599)
•
22 Jan 11
Simply put in my opinion, it comes down to others A: thinking their better than others and B: sometimes their afraid or even embarrassed to admit something is their own fault, shortcoming etc.
As far as I can see in people everyone has their faults, everyone has their shortcomings they should be big and adult enough to stand up and say 'hey you're right it is my fault and im going to try and fix it instead of blaming others.' But that would be more of a perfect world scenario.
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Jan 11
Some times you don't have any choice to shut your mouth and for that kind of situation I think its better to open your mouth and get everything out from your inside. If others don't care about there wrong doings than why you or me.
After that atleast I feel peace of mind, whatever.....
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@murtaza45 (173)
• India
21 Jan 11
keep the shut mouth for good says to people share to enjoy for think life about mistake what my mistake take our so solve problems to our shut mouths to one chance ot solve my problem i am mistake what should to me says to shut mouth i not next time to talk me.
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@arvind_mangal2002 (124)
• India
21 Jan 11
hey dear,
ya sometime we people should keep our mouth shut. Other wise we have to pay more. i think we should speak only when
"WHEN OUR WORDS ARE BETTER THAN OUR SILENT THEN ONLY WE SHOULD SPEAK".
Hope you will find it good
Thanks
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@jasper40t (468)
•
21 Jan 11
You should become mylot's Agony Aunt!!, you are so, so right!. Some people just cannot Help themselves and at times really show how Wrong they really are. What we should all do, is mind our business and get on with our own lives the way we should and then maybe more people wouldn't start mouthing off just to hear themselves go-on.
Yes, you are so right why do people blame other's for their own missfortune's?, it's crazy ain't it, but will it ever Stop, i don't think so. For now most of us just have to Suck it up. We should all Live for the Day!!......
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