Sorry - Another Rant About The Neighbour!
By Janey1966
@Janey1966 (24170)
Carlisle, England
January 23, 2011 5:53am CST
Deary me, I don't know where to start!
After the visit from the ladies at Impact Housing we thought, "right, that's it, the neighbour is gonna behave from now on.."
WRONG!!
I won't bore you with it all for fear of repeating myself but a new thing we are doing (and we were told to do this) is ringing the Out Of Hours Anti-Social Behaviour Line. Since Thursday we've rang it 4 times!
I suspect the tenant herself is relatively OK, it's the daughter and the boyfriend bringing their mates round..THEY are the problem. I also think the mother even left the house last night because she couldn't handle them anymore.
The thing is, if this carries on for the next month or so the mother WILL be evicted and it will all be the fault of other people if she is.
I mean, how disrespectful can one family member be to another? In a few minutes we shall go round to the other neighbours to see if they heard the noise as well. If they didn't they're bloody well deaf lol.
After the visit from the ladies at Impact Housing we thought, "right, that's it, the neighbour is gonna behave from now on.."
WRONG!!
I won't bore you with it all for fear of repeating myself but a new thing we are doing (and we were told to do this) is ringing the Out Of Hours Anti-Social Behaviour Line. Since Thursday we've rang it 4 times!
I suspect the tenant herself is relatively OK, it's the daughter and the boyfriend bringing their mates round..THEY are the problem. I also think the mother even left the house last night because she couldn't handle them anymore.
The thing is, if this carries on for the next month or so the mother WILL be evicted and it will all be the fault of other people if she is.
I mean, how disrespectful can one family member be to another? In a few minutes we shall go round to the other neighbours to see if they heard the noise as well. If they didn't they're bloody well deaf lol.1 person likes this
4 responses
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
23 Jan 11
Oh... Neighbors, at least such ones, have always been a problem to decent people... It can be understood once, everyone has a time to celebrate... But you can't go on celebrating... I mean, you rang the authorities 4 times!!! That is awful... Why don't you talk to the mother and try to settle it.. It'd be grieving to know that the mom lost her house coz of her daughter....
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
23 Jan 11
I will chat to Caroline from Impact Housing and see if it's a good idea to talk to Barbara (the tenant). She's allowing the house to be used for partying (not every night) but if she's not there it's like "out of sight, out of mind" which isn't good for anybody, herself included.
I wish John could win the lottery. I dreamed we won last night and - when asked at the Press Conference what the money meant I broke down and said, "We can buy a house now and get away from our horrible neighbours!" and I remember, in the dream, a godawful pic of me crying on the front page.
Hope it doesn't come true now lol.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
25 Jan 11
Yes, I think, talking to the lady is the best idea. It would grieving to see her lose the place coz of her daughter...
By the way, the dream is wonderful... Janey, I hope you really wouldn't cry if you win a big sum, would you? Tears of happiness??? 
Such dreams are really wonderful n help us carry on...
Such dreams are really wonderful n help us carry on...@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Feb 11
Yes, they were tears of happiness my friend, which are the best tears right?
Anyway, the neighbour is moving out this week (nothing to do with me, she volunteered, apparently) so watch this space to see who our new neighbour is going to be. Should be an improvement, though!
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
23 Jan 11
Oh Janey I sympathize with you as I have a similar situation upstairs from me. It is so horrible that people can not be considerate to others. Unfortunately in my situation it is the husband and wife who cause all the racket.
The other day, there was like pounding at 2 am and not hammering but like if they are stomping on the floor. Music was loud and it certainly did not sound like dancing.
They don't care, I keep telling my boyfriend if they did they would not be playing that cr@p music so loud. It is to the point where I know all the lyrics to their song as they play same one over and over.
Unfortunately for the mother by you she has to get hold of this situation, her enabling them is going to cost her apartment and the sad part is that they others simply do not care.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
23 Jan 11
It's terrible when a neighbour plays a song over and over again..we've experienced that.
The log I am keeping is quite detailed. The thing is, the noise doesn't happen every night. If I rang Impact tomorrow I would want to know what the criteria is for this "28 days and out" scenario. Does the noise have to happen all day, every day, for example. If there's a break in the noise during the week would that favour the tenant, even though when the noise DOES happen it affects us and the neighbour on the other side.
I shouldn't stress out over it as my health will suffer. I never used to be this "stressed." In fact, a few years ago I'd be round to tell them all to "f*cking shut up!" Too terrified of people to do that now.
I feel such a wuss.
The log I am keeping is quite detailed. The thing is, the noise doesn't happen every night. If I rang Impact tomorrow I would want to know what the criteria is for this "28 days and out" scenario. Does the noise have to happen all day, every day, for example. If there's a break in the noise during the week would that favour the tenant, even though when the noise DOES happen it affects us and the neighbour on the other side.
I shouldn't stress out over it as my health will suffer. I never used to be this "stressed." In fact, a few years ago I'd be round to tell them all to "f*cking shut up!" Too terrified of people to do that now.
I feel such a wuss.
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
23 Jan 11
If they continue though you will surprise yourself one day. 
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
23 Jan 11
Hi Janey,
Technically, it is her fault. She is allowing her daughter to walk all over her and put her housing at risk rather than to be pro-active in putting a stop to it. Not sure how old the daughter is but she has to set some rules down in her home and enforce them. If she is having trouble enforcing them then she should call someone who can help her. I know it is hard when it is your own child but you do have to put your foot down. It's called tough-love and it does work. If she doesn't do something about it now, she will find that this problem will follow her everywhere she goes.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
24 Jan 11
You might give her a friendly warning that all the neighbors are complaining and that she could lose her home if she doesn't be more aggressive in stopping the noise. You'd think she would know this and worry about it enough to do something. If it continues and she loses her place well, it's really her own fault. At least maybe you all can get a decent nights sleep.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
23 Jan 11
Hi sid556,
I agree with you. I'm torn between talking to her or ringing up Impact Housing..not to slag the woman off, just to get some advice on whether or not I should speak to her at all. No-one is telling me what the real set-up is in that house. I mean, the mother is supposed to be the tenant but last night she left it so her daughter could do as she pleased. The daughter looks about 20 at the most.
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@hofferp (4734)
• United States
24 Jan 11
The mother is going to have to solve this. Either her daughter straighten up or get the heck out. It sounds like she is old enough to be out on her own anyway. I'd continue to work with the authorities and let them talk to the daughter/mother. I don't think talking to the mother or daughter is going to do any good, so let the authorities do it.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Jan 11
Well, I rang Caroline from Impact (one of the ladies who visited the other day) but it went to voicemail. She hasn't rang me back either but I did air my concerns over the daughter and her friends, as the noise happens when they are in the house. The mother is quiet.
