Is criticize will make me be your enemy ?

@advokatku (4033)
Indonesia
January 24, 2011 1:15am CST
Is criticize will make me be your enemy, and with praise will make me became your friend ...? I would never criticize someone if he was not wrong and I also do not praise if he does not ever do good ... I do not want to praise or criticism that I have to say just a metaphor .... So, be your own self .. Do not ever ask to be praised and do not ever bad behave too
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5 responses
@mark98 (567)
• China
24 Jan 11
When people praise you, of course, modesty is the best low-key. when others criticize you, you sure there is any reason that can silence yourself and make a review.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
24 Jan 11
simplicity, low self-esteem and silence to contemplate ... hmm ... I seem to find answers that are important in terms of criticism and praise.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
It really depends on the criticism being given to a person, and the way it is being delivered to her/him. And certainly, as to who it is being delivered, whether she/he is a friend or an officemate matters too. In my case, when i criticize i see to it, that we are just by ourselves , where no one could eavesdrop. Before i deliver the criticism, i would even mitigate it by saying, "because you are my friend, i would like you to know my opinion . . . or what i am going to say is for your own good. . . . " More or less , by saying that you can sense if he/she will take it nicely or not. But as to praises , i am so generous with it. But only to those who really deserve it.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
24 Jan 11
I agree with you. Criticism is painful, but if delivered with a kind word and said politely, of course, critics would be a sweet thing
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Jan 11
hi not necessarily as there is constructive criticism that helps you to improve something like how to write a better short story but then there is the bitter criticism that hurts as the person really wants to stick it to you and make you weep if he or she can. that makes he or she my enemy as I learn nothing from that but anger back at that person. I have been helped in my writing by my teacher who told me what was great in my writing and what was not great. this was really helpful and I learned from that. I do not ask for either one but will accept constructive criticism from anyone.Praise is something I am leary of as there are two kinds of praise, meaniful praise and patronizing praise. A friend will praise you and mean it. A snob will give you a left handed praise like you did not do that very good but I appreciate your trying. oh yeah pat pat on the head, good little stupido, I will give you a crumb. those kind of people I just ignore. Those who mean it I will say thanks.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Actually yes if we can put into percentage 80% will be possible become enemy if you will criticize somebody or even your friend. Then 100% you will become a friend if you are always praising somebody, but be careful of praising somebody may even their works are wrong you can praise them it is wrong anyway.. see you around
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
24 Jan 11
it means you want to say, MANY PEOPLE ARE NOT LIKE criticized ... right?
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
hi, when i was on the job training in college, i had a critic teacher who will give my grades on teaching, but this criticism have reason, to know what i should to develop.