in-laws family are difficult

Hi friend! This is a very usual thing in most of the houses. Well, things can be taken in a positive way too. If they point out something negative about you, then you should think about why they are telling you that and see their point in it. Simply nobody will point out on others. First you need to feel them as your family. Its not your husband's family, its your family too now once you have been married to your husband. Once you get this feeling completely in you, i don't think you will have any problem with them pointing at you. Obviously you don't feel so bad if your own mom or dad point at you. They are the same to you. You need to listen to them. Not that you are wrong, but the thing is, practices change from house to house, so you need to learn the practices in that house because you are going to live with them here after and you have the responsibility of taking the pride of the family further. Comparison does happen with the other in-law. Its just that, they want you to be better than the other. Take things positively! Everything will be fine! You need to understand all these and most importantly, you need to not have yourself thinking who are they to me, why the hell are they pointing out to me! Be happy that they are concerned with what you are and how you are. I'm sure they have concerns for you, just that you need to understand it rather than complaining! Even after doing all these, if you feel haunted by them, if you feel they are unfair with you, just let it go. Smile at them, they will surely come your way one or the other day! Little a lot of patience will surely help you! :) Cheers! Happy Mylotting!

Hey, ur lucky to have a wonderful husband who supports and encourages you. My wife too is facing a tough time wid my mother... Guess its not easy for some parents to accept that there is someone else in their son's life who is a bigger priority... My only advice to you is be calm, patient and continue doing good things for them. If they say something to you that is not acceptable, ur husband should stand up for you. If you argue and answer back, it may make things worse. So be good, they will definitely change their perception about you!

You are very lucky dear, You have a life partner who takes such a good care of you. I really appreciate him and wish you both a great life together. Well, my one simple advice, its very difficult to digest and very difficult to follow. Forgive them. beware it required great strength and patience. Simple way to follow it, is to consider them like a small kids, then it will be very easy to forgive them. On contrary, give all your respect and care to them. Love, thats the trick. This advice won't work very fast but it will definitely work like a miracle. It all depends how honestly and patiently you apply it in real life situations like yours. Best of luck.

Hi! I can relate to you my friend. I for one experienced it. Up until now i guess my in-laws doesn't want me to be the wife of their only son. It is hard and difficult to accept the fact that mothers will want their child to stay longer or until their last breath with the children. My husband is the only son so i understand his mom and dad. I always pray and think that time will heal and it will surely come when in-laws would learn at once to accept and love us daughters-in-law. Continue to pray & don't loose hope. It is right when you talk to them and freely speak from your heart the things that bothers you. Make peace to your second family and realease the burden in your heart. Be honest and things will soon be ok. God bless you!

Mostly it is difficult to adjust with in-laws.Any how if one is calm and patient the mood and behaviour of in-laws may change.If it is beyond tolerance move away from the in-laws may be solution.