Is that your partner really understand you?

India
January 24, 2011 5:59am CST
When we done some mistakes at that time is our wish our life has to understand us. But sometimes they never understand us. Is that happen with you? Which was that mistake? Is that your partner understand you?
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@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
he does.. i guess almost all the time. recently, we've had our confrontations about what we like to happen for both of us. we've been together for a year now and i kind of like understand every negative side he showed me. because that's what he is and to think, i kind of like handle it just fine if i'm going to understand and adjust. but lately i realized, i wanted to be with him for long.. so i made a move and it didn't come out right. so i got sad and told him i am. he asked why and i said 'i don't know..' women sometimes.. but still, he didnt do anything.. just let me calm and he thought that maybe i'll just let it go after a while.. that's one of the things i don't like about him. but i still feel the same for days and i asked him to sit down and talk to me. i cried, burst out and all.. he realized something.. because all this time, we're like getting to know each other as always. understand, understand and understand.. i'm the type that doesn't share much about things. i let people observe me. he's the kind of person who talks and makes you feel good. now, he's like back to zero. he's like courting me. trying to please me in every way and i'm like smiling all the time 'cause it's funny as it turns out.
@kirthy (383)
• India
27 Jan 11
i feel that he is not understand me. with n few minutes he shows the real. then he ll give me a good solution. i m very lucky.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
24 Jan 11
If the partner is convinced of the sincerity of the other one and is hundred percent sure that there are no lies or deceit involved, then time would take care of it.But some people do have stringent standards[my husband being one of them in certain areas]and if we have that small element of fear in us then we would see to it thta we won't do things that they do not like. If somethihng happens inadvertently and they blow their top then we do feel bad about it but we wou;d be doubly careful the next time.SO, Wish you all the best.
@la_chique (1498)
24 Jan 11
We've been through the argument phase and come out shining from the other end. Theres no one else I could love as much, and no one else I could trust with any decision. Sure we disagree from time to time but we have a very mutual understanding of the things that matter.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
24 Jan 11
I think it varies from one relation to other. Sometimes when you are a good match then your partner will be understanding and you will love the relation. The important thing is this that your personality combination should be matching to each other. When you meet someone like that you will feel it from the first day itself and you will enjoy it. I hope you have found someone like that, have a nice love life.
@kkavya36 (35)
24 Jan 11
hi mylotter... till now i did n't come across these things in my life,as i m still studying and don't have any partner...but i have an idea by seeing my mom and dad's relationship as my mom understands my a dad a lot,but she is very short temper...she use to scold him for each and every silly thing,even he understands her and don't argue much...some time even he looses his patients.... there relationship is so sweet that they understand each other,some times she don't care me but she never forgot my dad till now.... i m very happy for that and i can say that they are made for each other......
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
I'm very lucky with my girlfriend right now. We argue too often but she knows when she's wrong. You know how arguments between couples go, right? We guys always lose and I can't stress enough that arguments are petty. I just let her win whenever but I still state my point. After a while, though, she'll snuggle up to me and say she's sorry. That's only when we both know that she's wrong. Whenever I'm wrong, of course I apologize too.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
24 Jan 11
I take it you're asking whether our partner understands us even though we make mistakes or not? First and foremost before love or even friendship can begin there must be respect. Respect is the very foundation of deep, committed bonding of any kind. Without it I don't know how two people can get along for as long as they do sometimes. Mistakes come with the whole human package. I've been blessed as my husband recognizes we both make mistakes! So what? Irritating yes, earth shattering no. I have no respect for anyone however who just sees the world as their playground with no respect for others. Their mistakes are not mistakes in their eyes. That's the difference! So the question is: do you deserve respect even though you make mistakes? YES!
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
hi there. that depends. my partner tries her best to understand most of my mistakes. but she's strict when it comes to befriending some other girls. she wants me to focus with being friends with guys. i think it's just for a simple reason that she doesn't want to take risk to lose me. anyway when it comes to life situational problems of course my partner is the one who tries her best to understand me in every way... tries to correct my mistakes... and support me whatever happens. my partner is the ideal one. she's really understanding, though sometimes things may be that tough for the both of us, but we consider things to come naturally and we become stronger because of those. there are several people that can never understand you, but your partner MUST be always there by your side, supporting your side no matter what. but of course if mistakes are done repeatedly, then that would be the time your partner feels repelling at you. see you around.
• India
24 Jan 11
Ya you are right. Our life partner should understand us at times for the mistakes that we commit, as we never commit them intentionally. However some mistake are unpardonable so actually we cant expect them forgive us all the time. So we should always make efforts not to repeat them even if we make mistakes. And to Err is human, to forgive is divine. If you get a partner who understands you and forgives for every mistake you commit, you are blessed.