If you love two people at once what would you do?

@gengeni (3308)
Indonesia
January 24, 2011 7:14pm CST
In terms of character / nature they almost have the same character, namely: equally good, caring, understanding, patience and they both love you and are willing to do anything for you .. That which distinguishes only where they are now. But you can not lie to yourself, if you think love is the same for both. And that which makes you confused is to choose, because they both are the person right for you What would you do?
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@dong88 (795)
• China
25 Jan 11
Ah,This is indeed a bit tricky.However,I think the time can help you.Give it to time to time to answer.Because love is the best time to test.
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@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
25 Jan 11
yea, it is indeed a bit tricky.
@Bloonana (36)
• United States
25 Jan 11
In a situation like that, I, personally, would stop communicating with each of them for a while. During this time, I would think about which I liked more. Also, the time I had known each of them and how many other girls they had been with would be key factors. Also during my time away from them, I would see which one would wait for me to begin speaking to them again, or if one of them would just forget about me and move on to another girl.
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
25 Jan 11
aha, so basically you need a test of patience for them? I think it's a good idea.
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@pals101 (2010)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
If you both love these person, i think its ok but if you want to spend a lifetime with them then its unacceptable, you have to chose from them. Choose the right one.. coz believe it hurts more if you don't chose among from them.. :) Good Luck!...
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@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
25 Jan 11
his name is less sincere romance. One key to romance is to receive love is and do not expect much in the romance. A good lover does not obtrude, but better to offer solutions. Respect their decision. Relation to love, they must remember that love does not always mean having, love is a feeling. Pain can not be imposed
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• Indonesia
25 Jan 11
If I must choose to which one, I'd better choose a nearby course. Although when you're dating can be easy to watch than a distant, even though we love him, not necessarily he also loves us. Love the people who love you than to love people who do not necessarily have the same feelings with you.
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• India
25 Jan 11
In such a case, it finally depends on you as to whom you want to be with. Two people may have same characters you mentioned, but finally your heart will feel for only one if you really are going to fall in love with any. If you feel for both, to me its just liking for the other person and not true love. Think over it.
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• United States
25 Jan 11
I think that no matter how much you love each guy and no matter how wonderful they both are, you will just KNOW who the right choice is. I think that is the way it goes...you will just have a feeling, whether it be in the back of your mind or right up in front. No matter how long it takes you to figure it out, I think you will figure out there is one that is your 'meant to be.'
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
Heard of the song "Torn Between Two Lovers" ? Well, this is not possible, I mean loving two persons at the same time because you either love the other more and despise the another. What to do? Set the other one free or set them both free.Besides, you will never be happy staying with the other knowing that you have let go of another person who is equally special and important to you. See, it is a foolish thing to share love with someone else when someone is already owning it.The three of you will end up getting hurt. This is not a win win situation, unless you are a Muslim.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
25 Jan 11
Loving two people at the same time would tear me apart. I wouldn't know how to be devoted to each one. Having to choose between them would be the most difficult thing for my heart to take.
@rifnee (1713)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 11
Oh no ........ heavy choice ..... good, I never experienced a situation like this. Maybe if I was, I would choose the closest lover, because we will never know what to do if we are too far away and difficult to meet. sometimes close lover who still can cheat, lol ...
@murtaza45 (173)
• India
25 Jan 11
some times caryy to friends for love desire for friends and i see me for some colloegeous to student to love for college girls to love me.what do you how can possible to love for each other matter.some times for good thing for several time love for me.
@lizmik143 (137)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
I experienced the same situation. I felt in love with an officemate before I met my boyfriend. Despite the mutual understanding we didn't come up to a conclusion. At least he didn't. I was head over heels in love with him when I met this new guy who is now my boyfriend. I was not able to get over the attraction and love that I felt for officemate. But I entertained new guy. All at once I felt in love for both of them. They both have the qualities I look for in a guy. I love them both but not in the same degree. But a decision has to be made. New guy has better qualities that I overlooked because of the heady feeling for officemate. New guy is my guy now, and I never regret. I love him in spite of.
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
MMMMMMM, good question. Now this is the time for bidding. hahaha.... The truth is, i do not believe,(well, at least for me...)that it is possible to love 2 women at the same time. The reason is, love is something you do. However, you may be attracted to more than 2 women at the same time. I believe love has patience. This means that one is willing to spend his life with her for the rest of live. This means that even when she is already old and ugly, the love is still there. With this, i do not think this will be possible for 2 old women and just one guy.
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
Frankly speaking, you cannot love two people at the same time publicly. You can do that secretly, right? So, secret undertakings are hindrance to what you've been expected to each of them. The truth is how could they both right for you, when you don't know fully the personality of that person? Don't tell me that you have to choose your lover just for character only? As for me, knowing him/her fully from "head to toe" means that you have the ability to size-u your future partner in life. If it's the way you wanted for this question, I have to extend my time in choosing, give a situation wherein problems exist - where you'll find them in an embarrassing situation and get their reaction/s on how to solve that problems. That way, you can determine a person personality when in crisis, the way he/she handles the situation. As I said, give some more time to conclude about their goodness, caring, understanding, patience, and the most vital is love. Does he/she truly loves you? or he/she only uses these behavior as a front to entice you to his/her bad intention.