the art of letting go

I am lucky not to be in such situation and think that it would be too painful to accept this. When I think such think to happen in my life, feel very bad and divert my mind to do something else so that such thoughts are not encouraged. I just hope that everyone is happy in their life. Thank You for sharing.

hello mikkopogiv1, letting go someone you love is really difficult but you have to face it. my heart is broken several times but i have to move on, and finally now i have someone that will be my future husband. once, 7 years ago, i met a gorgeous boy. he is amazing, he's a perfect partner i thought. because i was a girl that can do everything, i got 1st rank in acaemic school, won a lot of contest, active at organization, active at band and active at sport. so many times i saw boys as a weak creature, no body can beat me in all section. maybe 1 boy smart at academic but weak at sport, and the other strong at sport but weak at academic. nobody can defeat me in all sector. and this boy from other school came up to my life. a boy that is really defeat me in all sector and made me fell in love. i love him. he has talents at so many sector as i do, and he is handsome, and so so gentleman. and then we lose contact for 1 year because he is older than me a year, and has to continue his study to other city university. but one year later, i continue my study at the same city with him, and like a miracle, we continue our friendship with love. i thought i could be happy with him because he's everything for me, but then he told me a secret that his friends never knew. that he is sick. he got lung cancer and there's no way that he can be healthy again. so many misery and tears for him. i decided to be his girlfriend and take care of him, but he refused it hardly because he didnt want to see me suffer if he die someday. so many people ask me to let him go so he didnt have to suffer by seeing me as a hope. and i have to let him go. it takes years for me to forget about him. but i learn my lesson. now i respect all boys with weakness, and i learn how to let him go eeventhough it is really hard for you,now it's time to let her go. it is better to see someone that you love go in a healthy condition rather than see someone you love go in a bad condition. someday, you will find your soulmate and forget about this girl. just be cheer up, my friend

Because it's an addiction when you have been with someone and it feels good. Something bad causes you to break up, but then you miss the good and want it back. Only time and distance will solve it for you.

hi there. i can relate to that too when my girlfriend and i broke up months ago. we never talked for about two to three days but when we started to talk over the phone again, the feeling is really inevitable and so we gave each other another chance. well, yours perhaps has a reason why it coul never just work out between the two of you, and that really hits you hard on your chest right there. i know how that felt. why don't you just hang out with your best pals and plan more activities to make yourself busy? i'm sure you'll get over her soon when you don't even realize you're not affected to her any longer. try to avoid having communnication with her like changing your mobile number, stuff like that. good luck and cheer up. it hurts in the beginning, but pain doesn't last. it'll get away soon.

Oh i can totally relate to what you are talking about. I have a couple different people who have basically ripped my heart out and done the mexican hat dance on it, but let me hear a song that was "our song" or see a tv program that reminds me of them, and i go back to how much i truly loved them. My heart knows i can never be with these people because as you mentioned they didn't truly love me for me, or just the fact they are no good for me, but my head doesn't let it go. Sometimes I think that it's almost like the grief cycle when letting go of someone or of a relationship....You have to go through all the stages before you can truly and totally let go.