If a stranger upset you in public would you get mad and say something back?

United States
January 26, 2011 11:23pm CST
There are many scenarios that this happened.. here are some examples: While driving and someone honks at you for no reason, going above speed limit a little and minding your own business and a car just tail gates you & honks.. My boyfriend gets really mad, sometimes flicks the person off and I'd be like who cares especially how there are crazy people in this world, what if they have a gun in their car or something. I am usually nice when it comes to road rage but it depends. Or sometimes, someone bumps your leg with the shopping cart and doesn't say sorry, do you say anything? Or sometimes, people cut you in line. When scenarios like that do you leave it alone or do something?
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• United States
27 Jan 11
Normally I would be prompted to saying something as I would be upset about rudeness. But like most responses I would be apt to be cautious about where and with who I was dealing with. As you never know if a psycho goes ballistic and a simple bump turns into cutting.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Very true, I've seen my American and German friends discuss and argue, sometimes even shouting at each other but I had been assured it's just that,guess they are more emotionally mature, but in the Philippines, we avoid eye contact when arguing, we even avoid eye contact with a person on the next table that we do not know while in the bar
28 Jan 11
Well, I wouldn't do any thing if I were in these cases. First case: These are the some fools want to make you feel angry, shout at them, hit them so they have the reason to hit you back Second case: They bump your leg - They didn't mean it (I'm quite sure, 'cause they are strangers) Other cases: Just let them do what they want to, when they are tired of it, they will just go away. You know, in Vietnamese, there is an Idiom: "You endure once, you get twice the benefit"
• United States
28 Jan 11
I didn't know that in Vietnamese but i'm Vietnamese :P Maybe I might know it in vietnamese translation but not english translation but yeah. Those are just examples. I know I blow up when I'm mad but if I'm having a good day I don't. Btw, Thanks for sharing! :)
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
27 Jan 11
This would have to depend on what the stranger has said to me. If it wasn't something life threatening, I would try to ignore it and walk away. Sayng something back could bring an altercation I really don't need.
• United States
28 Jan 11
Agreed! Thanks for sharing. :)
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
28 Jan 11
Well actually yes this one guy he looked like a teen he honked his horn because we were crossing to get to Wal-mart and I guess he was distracted by some girls or something because he admitted it when I was asked why you honk your horn at us and he got all mad and he was like look at you girl and go check yourself stuff like that being rude, but he totally misunderstood what I was trying to say. I was trying to say why you honk your horn, so that we can get out of your way that's what I was thinking, but that guy really got me mad because if it was just me whatever, but my baby sis was their and that is not cool he should be driving more carefully instead of speeding, but yeah I just asked him that and he went off on me. Whatever I didn't have time so I just walked away, but he should be the one to check himself he has no right to tell me that because he did not look like no Brad Pitt. I guess it's just better to ignore people like that, but sometimes it's to much when people do rude things to my family that's when I can't take it and I blow up. I guess because before I used to let people get away with it, but not anymore. I do not like people that like to be rude because they think that they can do whatever they want and instead they should be respectful and kind to others, but that will never happen.
• United States
28 Jan 11
Yeah, I definitely agree. My parents and I were going to Target and we walked across the cross walk to go to our car. We walked in the area designated for you to cross the street, not like j-walking or anything and this lady just didn't stop she kept going.. My dad was like SLOW DOWN and she was about to hit my mom. My dad stomped on her car and she stopped. My dad was also bit*ching too because people are trying to walk and she was so close on hitting my mom. That lady was dumb, I was pretty much in her face too infront of her car. There are times when people are inconsiderate. What if that lady was the one walking what would she do if shes almost hit. At least STOP wait for the people to go. Thanks for sharing! :)
@laura27 (74)
• United States
27 Jan 11
It depends on how critical the situation was, but if I feel that I can let it slide I will. If the stranger acts as if they're trying to do it on purpose then thats when I'll have to take action to stand up for myself and blow my horn back at them. Sometimes after they've done all that acting a fool in the back of me tailgating, then finally goes around, I honk my horn right back. I will be thinking to myself they could of been went around me. Same with the cart in the store.
• United States
28 Jan 11
Yeah it depends on the situation, if I'm cranky already I probably will say something but if I'm in a good mood I might. all depends. Thanks for sharing! :)
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
it depends. When a male driver insists himself to me while on the road like really making small space for me to get in when its really my right of way but he would insists himself.. I revv up and really zoom way past him.like " eat my dirt dude!" when someone bumps me and apologizes, I smile to sign the person that its ok. If someone bumps me and not say sorry, I say " has anybody taught you to say sorry? I guess not! im so sorry that you did not learn anything from school!"
• United States
28 Jan 11
LOL. Thanks for sharing. :)
• India
27 Jan 11
It depends on some things. you should have time to reply them. when you are in huryy you really don't care what is happenining around and what any stranger saying you. now-a-days, it is becoming part and parcel of life. there are lots of bad people around you and you really can't teach them how to treat others. so be right do the right thing.
• United States
28 Jan 11
Yeah, good point. Thanks for sharing. :)
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
27 Jan 11
The really depends on my mood on that particular day though. If they really offended me without an apology, I would definitely do something. But still, we are living in a civilized world, I probably talk to him cilvizedly, before I really have to do something to him. I don't want to cause any big scene in the public though.
• United States
28 Jan 11
Same here. Thanks for sharing. :)
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
I don't get mad at once, I try to collect my cool then act how I should . If the injury is bad, Of course I will demand not only proper excuse but proper thing to be done. I guess people need to be reminded always of what to do or not.
• United States
28 Jan 11
Yup. Thanks for sharing. :)
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Personally when there are things like that I keep my cool,but my advice to people visiting or want to visit the Philippines especially the busy streets of metro Manila is to stay out or avoid traffic altercations,maybe because of the hot weather combined with the traffic jam, I don't know, people are just too hot headed, there had been more than one incident of senseless shootings just because of simple or minor traffic altercations.
• United States
28 Jan 11
Yeah, I try to stay cool too. Wow that is crazy, being shoot because of simple or minor traffic. Yeah, that could happen especially if someones mad and you're missing with the wrong person.. I live in the USA though, but thanks for the tip & whoever plans on visiting the Philipines. Thanks for sharing. :)
@kramsgir (146)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
If i'm in good mood, i wouldn't do anything, but when i'm not, the devil in me goes out. I'll just let the person know that i'm not happy with what he has done. There's no fight though, i'll just merely say something-----not so bad.
• United States
28 Jan 11
I agree, it depends on my mood as well. When I'm in a good mood I'd ignore it but if I'm not then I will say something. Thanks for sharing. :)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
For me, I ignore people who upset me. However I am pissed off, I am still controlling myself. I am always thinking that they do not know what they are doing. When someone honks to me, I'd better ignore it, let it be. He will receive his/her karma anyway. When someone hurt me without apologizing, I will just ease the pain if it wasn't serious. They will learn from it I think. And when someone cuts my line, I'll just let him/her, it depends on mu current situation; if I am in a hurry or not. Avenging myself to them to them is not a good idea. It will just make the situation worse. I don't want such things to happen.
• United States
28 Jan 11
I try to ignore too sometimes it doesn't work and I speak up but it depends on the scenario. The ones I listed were just examples. Thanks for sharing & I believe it is best to ignore too! :)
@mark98 (567)
• China
27 Jan 11
Please ignore such people. I think anyone encountered such a thing. What I can do is keep my own emotions and make me happy.
• United States
28 Jan 11
Yup, I agree. Thanks for sharing. :)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
I probably won't as long as I'm not hurt or harmed by anyone. I can still deal with it. I usually ignore those kind of people. I just don't like to create drama in public places. That is so true that you might not know what those people have that might just kill you if they get more pissed off than you are. As long as you're not doing the "bad thing", you can just let it go.
• United States
28 Jan 11
I definitely agree & in this society, its hard to trust any stranger in the street. Criminals look like everyone, who do we know who we're messing with.. Thanks for sharing. :)
• United States
28 Jan 11
I agree with you, i leave it alone because i dont know what othe people are capable of. A lot of people are sorta crazy so i try my best to not upset them. when strangers get me mad, most of the time they say sorry so i dont have to do anything drastic. but i have seen fights over people cutting in line and minor bumping.