run away as fast as you can....

hello jmwalsh! i used to party too with friends, during my younger days. It was something i thought i have to do right after college, when i was already working and earning, considering that i was very serious during college, prioritizing my studies and other responsibilities than having fun and night outs. I got drunk too but i did know my limits and so had no embarrassing or undesirable experiences regarding that. I believe i am basically good, has a nice sense of humor, smart and fun to be with. I am an introvert at heart, preferring to read, sing, and browse the net rather than go out. But there were things that i need to experience for myself, before i settle down. My point is, not all people you met at bars are drunkards, happy-go-lucky people. They may have just been there when you were there, wanting to experience something that they could still afford to do while young. It does not mean however that they will be forever doing that, just like you, they will also have their moments of insights. A girl who knows how to party hard, but who also works hard does not mean she's irresponsible, not fun and has no goals in life. People go through stages in life. What's bad and unacceptable is for people to remain trapped in a particular stage, even when he's beyond it, physical or age-wise. Anyway, it is also true that, generally speaking, that you cannot find a lamb in a wolves' den. So, it would be advisable for you to frequent places where you could get to meet decent girls whose aspirations are align with what you have in mind for a wife-material. Museums, sports club and the gym could provide you opportunities to meet someone which could be fun in a clean way. Hope you'll meet your partner soon. happy mylotting!

I am always actually very wary of guys that I meet in bars or pubs. Before I met my fiance, I always kept my guard up when going out, I never wanted to meet someone whilst I was drunk or whilst he was! I met my fiance through friends, so again, not a random stranger in some bar or other. When we go out together (we never go out seperately!) I wear my engagement ring with pride, and sometimes guys come over to me when my fiance goes to buy me a drink, but before they have a chance to say hi, I flash them my ring and just say "sorry, not interested". Some people act taken aback, but I think its important to be honest. If you're not, then thats how you get into trouble/fights/or worse. I think I am fun with a sense of humour, but I am also very strict when it comes to monogomy, and I think that if you are going out to parties, trying to meet someone, you're going to find something less serious. Try other things apart from partying now your getting a little more mature. Maybe try going to a unisex gym, or swimming pool. If you play any sports or whatever, you could meet someone that way. Just remember, the way that you meet someone is usually quite significant. If you're out at a bar, and you meet a girl whose dancing with all the guys, and acting very drunk and immature, the chances are, that is how she will behave whether she is in a relationship with you or not.

your story is so true. well, there are a number of places where a potential good partner may not be found in a bar or party place. they may be in a class of graduate studies or working for civil society groups. these women in these places have clear and noble goals in life. they too are responsible. probably, they are there waiting for you. they know what they want in life, and that makes them very attractive for me. that's what i want for my partner.