I don't know how to love him...what to do,i don't know how to take this :(

By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39142)
Philippines
January 30, 2011 10:50pm CST
I was in my most down moment last night; I want to sleep and never wakes up. Then all of the sudden,i received a call from him. Yes,of all people why he? and here he is saying,he feels what i feel...that he is bothered and feels uneasy. Why?...why he can feel it. (i can't believed it,i already end up what's between us) I don't know how to take things between us,we are like two different world apart.(different culture,beliefs and tradition) I don't know how to love him,and i've been changed (by his kind/way of love)when i see myself,it's like i've seen someone else. What's this is all about? Yet,he said he loves me...i've been lost again, I couldn't cope,it returned my hope...and it scares me so Should i scream and shout,should i speak of love, Let my feelings out,i never thought i've come to this.(i'm tired of loving him,his way)
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12 responses
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
hi jaiho, What else i can say that you will not take it that i am really against him , in our life even how much we love that person we come to the point that we are tired of loving them as they say ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS he can say all that he wants to say but the question is do you still believe him? i think he cannot settle this over skype or yahoo. I know how you feel the you feel confused because once you love him or maybe you've been crazy in love with him (lucky zoo keeper hahahaha!) miss you! chill
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
hello bhaby, I know you hate him,eversince. I am not crazy over him...i want to get crazy why each time i am down,he always calls in (as if he feels what i feel) This is not the first time that this happened. The guts claiming as if nothing wrong,as if everything is normal (ughhhh...okay he is insensitive ,but why he is so sensitive when i am down why he feels it) Was he a charmer,a voodoo expert or what lucky...lucky zoo ....shessshh miz yah
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
yup...i am bitter now (not better)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
hahahaha!i never said that i hate him but does my actions tells i really hate him?, for him everything is normal because you still do entertain his calls or message if you really don't want any attachment with him try to close his chapter in your life oh come on don't tell me you do believe in voodoo now?it's not you . He is really insensitive but i don't believe that he feels it when you are down maybe he saw your status or maybe it was just a coincidence. hope you feel better now
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
31 Jan 11
Hi dear, I told you last day, you are a great person and it is the great people who have problems... Hold on for some more time before deciding on this - Should i scream and shout,should i speak of love, Let my feelings out - let the things settle down... Good luck to you.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
hello thesids, But what scares me dear is,i don't want to love him anymore (i'm tired) And he,still full of hopes and security (authority)claiming that,love will find it's way back to me . It scares me,i admit,he still has a room in my heart,but i don't want to give any hope (im desperately confused )
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
hello again dear, pallak :p ugh!! it's bhaby who loves Indian foods (asks her what happened the first time she took me to an Indian restaurant
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
31 Jan 11
I wish it was a computer program and I could edit the codes as I wanted. But this is real life - a place where situations can get complex and even lead to change in people. I do not know the base reason why the two of you split (the 3rd woman if I remember from another discussion... but if I was honest to you why did he had the 3rd woman et all?)... that being said, he cannot change for good is also not something impossible so the change... Or is he playing some game again with you? This is why I suggest that you wait for some time before you take any decision because life doesnt give second chances - you are lucky to have one here - but then also - life's second chances are not as great as the first one. Love, Want And Trust are 3 separate things and if you weigh him on these and your priorities, I think you can find some respite. Take Care Dear.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
31 Jan 11
Hello dear sister, I am not getting enough information from this post to give my suggestions. I wish to say one thing, if you decided to stop, means you are not satisfied or something lacks in the relationship. I think it will be better if you can firm on your decision so that you can avoid the hurts in future. Think deeply and reach a wise decision. Best of luck to you always dear sister.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
hello Sree It really hurts and confusing (ugh...what loves got to do) i am trying to be firm and i already end what's between us,but he can't accept it and still keep calling me and hoping to start all over again. Anyway,nothing to regret for,love is one of the sweetest thing that always happen in our lives. And i never regretted loving and losing someone. thanks for always being here dear
@akangirl (2436)
• India
31 Jan 11
He is a weak guy.He says he loves you but cheats you.He will never ever support you ever because he is a weakling.You have to be strong for your kids because it would be very difficult for them to see their father love many different women in his life.Now they are small so they don't understand.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
hello akan, Thanks for being here and participating to my discussion dear. Yes,i know i should not exert much to think someone who is weakling and don't even care for my feelings. my kids are my strength during times like this. Have a great day always
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@bird123 (10632)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Everybody wants a love just like themselves but they don't realize it's our differences that makes and keeps life interesting.That's why opposites attract. Life is about learning and growing as people. This takes differences as well. Communication is a must in all relationships. DO LET THEM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND WHAT YOU THINK!!!! Relationships need to be 50-50. That means compromise. Meet in the middle. People should never let one dominate over another. Insist on 50-50. I do.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
hello bird, Love knows no boundaries,never knew any race nor color or beliefs. Love only knows happiness not sorrow nor pain. What makes love bitter are people who broke promises. Yes,love must be a two way road...and met halfway ,with consideration. Thanks for your response and have a great day always
2 Feb 11
Seems you meet the cross-culture love relationship,the same problem i have. It's hard. If that relationship really makes you unhappy even the people surround you feel the same, you may think about give it up. But if you two really fall in love, then just go for it,love can solve so much problem, don't make it so complex
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
hello emil, Yes,it's hard to met half way,thu i've tried ,i really tried. I wish it is easier than what i think of,but it's not. Love will find a way if it ours to hug,so i am just waiting for it (if it really fits or not) thanks for your response and have a good day
@shibham (16977)
• India
8 Feb 11
I am always in trouble in detecting your problem. Are still in a relationship with someone except him. If you do believe that your satisfaction is with him, then proceed. Have a great day.
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Why should he keep on calling you... Just ignore her sis. Anyway, sorry for it's been a long time when I didn't come.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 11
You must be confident in your decision ... Whatever your decision, love will find its own way, love will find the best someone for you .... stay strong and stay motivated through life your love
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
hello advokatku, Yes,you are right,i must be confident with my decision and firm. I hope that love will find it's way,and i hope that this time it's for real. Thanks for your response and have a great day
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
nice song... it was Mary singing to Jesus if i remember it right... only proves that love changes anyone despite of conflict or differences.. the only question would being happy, stay in love and be happy with all the hassles or stay out of love, be miserable full of regret, break your spirit, move on and have a life not thinking of the lost love you wish you have...
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
hello obe, The title is from the song "i don't know how to love him" I stay in love ,and want to stay that way,but i am afraid of loving him his way. It's hard for our two different world to meet each differences. I've tried to,i really do. thanks for your response and have a great day always
@beeh13u (1038)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
Hey Jaiho2009, I think you should talk to him straight. If it's not bound to be, both of you should agree to let go and move on. I know it's sad, initially. But if you find love again, you'll forget and forgive the past.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
Hello beeh, I've learn to moved on,i already did. But he keeps coming back. I know he loves me,but our world is far different. At first i thought i can change things,but i was wrong. I really don't know how to love him. thanks for your response and have a great day
@DuPlis (11)
31 Jan 11
Sounds to be like you should leave him.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
hello duplis, I already did,but he keeps coming back. I still loved him,but i don't know how to love him again. thanks for your response and have a good day. welcome to mylot and enjoy mylotting