Avoiding someone because of politics

Hi sweetie. That's not only stupid, it's freaky. What kind of people do you work with? I think your boss should grow up then if he cannot put a stop to this. TATA.

I cannot believe that is permitted to go on. Do you have an HR department? Can you bring it up to them or is it a small company? People sometimes get to a high enough position that they can and will make life miserable for others. It is unfortunate that this is going on where you work. I am sure it is hard for you deciding on being friends or keeping your job. Hang in there!

Personally, this is so True. Office politics are anywhere you go, and sometimes worse than others. Where I work now it is always having to worry about who is stabbing who and kissing butt in the meantime. We have a couple people who I am friendly with but that is it. Can never Trust them more than I could Throw them. I try and avoid conflict with them, and for that matter wanting to confide in them in anything as well.

This is an unfortunate situation but it happens in every office where there is always one person who is used by the management to spy on the staff and see that nobody becomes popular.I had this experience in my very first job where there was a senior person who was appointed by the boss for this very task.He used to report to the boss what happened during the day after the staff had left.On my very first day he took me out for lunch during the break and spoke very nicely to me and i was impressed with him. However i was warned by the new friends i made to keep my distance from him and not to report anything to him as he would use the info to get back on other members. I maintained my distance from him but at the same time i saw to it that i was in his good books.He soon realized that he could not get me on his side and then did not bother me.However things started getting so bad for other staff that one day all of us stormed the bosses cabin and told him pointblank about this persons activities. The boss was taken aback at our joint action and was forced to keep him under tabs.After a couple of months this man left on his own. Another person was appointed in his place but at that time i left the job.In the subsequent offices where i worked i noticed the same thing. I believe it is human nature for some people to ingratiate themselves to the management and work against the others for their own selfish reasons and better prospects. As for you it would be better to keep a little distance from your friend and colleague while in the office but be close to each other out of it.Or else you all could do what we had done and jointly take action against that woman and see that she is either sacked or has her powers curtailed to a great extent.

They have NO right to do that? who are they to intervene with friendships as long as you do your job, no one has the right to tell you whom you should friend with.. I think this is the opportunity for you to make your stand, work while you chose who you friend with. this secretary thinks they are at their kingdom choosing whom we should have friends with.

Hi ddaguno, From the above, I believe the boss is aware and has given the Exec Secretary the Permission to do what she is doing. Otherwise he would have intervened and stopped this altogether. Watch out dear... you may be next. People have to be cruel to save their souls and also save their business... Business is mostly a heartless thing and you have to accept it this way... Harsh but true... and there is no escape as long as you are working or even having a business of your own

Hi dear, You are absolutely right. Especially in the corporate field, the exe. secys. are thinking that they are ruling the executives. Especially, someone in a senior level have that kind of head weight and it is because of their attitude only. Even I am one of the worst victim of such a exe. secy. When she joined as a fresher, she was absolutely ‘0’ with our company formalities. When the earlier secy. Left the job, I used to assist the manage. Once she joined, I handed over all the process and everything and made here efficient to work with maximum efficiency with 2-3 month, apart from the company trainings. After the manger become partner, and senior partner etc. mean time she become leveled up along with the positions. Unfortunately she got more and more head weight. Though I keep a good relation, she got attitude and she become the reporting person. She used to acting as boos for me and she was the person to evaluate for me. She did the words and it continued for 3-4 years. One day the partner quit and joined with another company and she had to resign and leave the office when the new partner were found no good with this secy. Only because her I am still drawing my salary nearly 25% less, and I could have get a better rating if someone else could have done it. Now she is down with sugar complaints and lost her job also. One day when I offered my blood to her (as blood required her for some reasons) and she was crying and said deep sorry to me. I said, ok no prob., but be like a human being whatever and who ever we are. She understood what I mean and now I am not in contact with her. Also she had so much of issues with other secys. and all had complaints with her as she was assisting for the top level person with the company. But the power goes off when the reporting person changes, that they never realizes. Thank-s

It is normal in the work place to have politics. We should be always be aware that it is so hard to develop true friendship in the work place but sometimes it do so happens. If this is the case we should choose what is more important for us. Is it our work or is it our friend.

Office Politics is not an avoidable issue. But coming to your predicament, I feel , the onus is on the Management to analyze why so many staff members resigned from the organization. Further , your Boss being in a Managerial cadre and fully aware of the traits if the executive secretary should take the matter with higher level and put a tab on the lady. saritan123