Am I willing to live with his family?
By freymind
@freymind (1351)
Philippines
January 31, 2011 5:14pm CST
Most of the young couples right now who got hiked too early in life is living with their in-laws since they can't afford a house or to rent on their own. Sadly most of marriages that started like this ends up breaking apart because sometimes the relatives of the couples do meddle on the young couples quarrels or their the reason why the couple are having the fight in the first place.
If I was to be in this situation and I'm still young, I would work hard to leave our house or my partners house so that we could live together and make decisions in our lives as husband and wife. I've tried to live with relatives for the past ten plus years of my life and its not a walk in the park. You can't please everyone not even your own in-laws.
Have you guys encountered this situation or know someone with this kind of dilemma? Please do share your thoughts.
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5 responses
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
22 Feb 11
Hiya freymind,
Like many others we have had to live like that. We could not have waited to have got married anyway. I got married when you had to have your Papers in order otherwise you would have had to left the Country. That´s the way it was then.
We have lived like others with our Families from both sides being careful not to have any more children at that time.
Neither thing worked out as soon as we started making enough money they would make our life so unbearable that we had to go from each House before we could even get any money together.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Feb 11
I think having a relationship is one thing, but deciding to live together when one still lives with their family is definitely wrong. If one is all too grown up to have a relationship in the first place, then they should also be too grown up to have a place of their own. And that includes marriage. No one needs to get into another complication by getting married if they can't live on their own yet.
@calajane (1003)
• Poland
1 Feb 11
I don't think it's a good idea to live with the in-laws. You want to start a new family, not join the already excisting one. Plus, if you move in with the in-laws you will be required to defer to your mother-in-law and you won't have all that much say in what's going on, what dinner is being done and how stuff works around the house. Unlike if you were to live on your own. I think that's the reason why so many marriages break up.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
2 Feb 11
It's common for wives to live with in laws. It's been a traditional since the olden days. It's not easy due to conflicts on a lot of things, especially when it comes to children's upbringing and how things work in the family. However, there are a lot of times whereby both parents and wife neglect the feelings of husband in the family. Husband is usually stuck between the both and they have to please both without complaints. It would be good for all to sit down, talk it out.
@juniorstringbean08 (455)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
yes, you're indeed right. and it's very well-said. i knew a lot of people with the same situation. they tend to live at their partner's place because they do not have anything to start their own lives with. sadly, this is true with most of this generation's youth. they make their own decisions and think that they could handle every thing in their lives, but their poor decisions lead them to nowhere, and ends up like making their own mess. as for me, i'll do the same thing you've mentioned. i will find ways just to escape from his family and would rather work and decide for our own. couples should always decide for themselves, without the help of anybody else. so they should be separated from either of their relatives to avoid certain conflicts. anyway, things should normally be that way.
