Mother more close with their boys

Indonesia
February 2, 2011 3:02am CST
many times i see that mothers have more attention to their boys at home. what do you think? Are you agree with that?
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10 responses
• United States
3 Feb 11
This is a fact of nature. Women are attracted to power. Men are more powerful by nature. So naturally, a mother has a certain attraction that causes her to be closer to her sons. Now on the other hand that is why daughters are closer to their fathers, they are attracted to the power from their father. It is nothing at all wrong with that. When it is done right it prepares each child to find and receive the proper mate. The sons learn what to look for in a wife and the daughters learn what to look for in a husband by how each parent treats them. It is truly wonderful to be in harmony with nature.
4 Feb 11
Sorry, I don't mean to be disrespectful or anything but where do you get this from? How is this a fact of nature? I don't think this is true at all. This sounds like some really outdated freudism.
• United States
4 Feb 11
No disrespect taken. Where do you think the saying "mommy's little boy and daddy's little girl" came from? By nature the boy child is attracted to that which is opposite than him until such time he can be turned over to his Father to be taught the things that a man is to teach his son. Now the daughter is attracted to her Father because in him she finds security and stability. Until such time she is then turned over to a man, her husband. It is in every culture. Society is topsy turvy upside down so I understand why some may have difficulty seeing it. Now this is not to say that the girl and her mother will not be close, or the son and his father will not be close at an early age.
@sigriol (39)
4 Feb 11
I don't think that's true. I don't think mothers deliberately pay more attention to their boys. I think boys might demand more attention from their mothers and might be more attached to their mothers, so that might be the reason.
4 Feb 11
I have to add that I only have a boy so this is just speculation.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Hi. ericunion. Welcome to myLot! I guess that this has to a lot to do with a mother looking at the boy as he is a man. She wants to see him as male that is strong and not girlish. It is all about maturity. I don't really give my son more attention than I do with my girls. I give them all attention because I look at them all in a unique kind of way.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Overall I really don't think that this is the case. Right now, I will say that I am closer to my son than I am to my daughter. However, the reason for that is because of the fact that my daughter goes to school while my son is not old enough to go to school. In addition to that, my daughter prefers to spend time with her friends as opposed to staying at home with the family. That said, I think as my son grows older that I will be as close to his sister as I am to him.
@samaveda (25)
• India
3 Feb 11
The mothers who pay much attention to their sons are selfish and immature. Being women they don't realise the importance of a girl is their ignorance.Thinking that boys r more important and capable of everything is their immature attitude of future vision. The correct mother is the one that treats both boy and with equal love and affection. This behaviour makes children, boy and girl to know their responsibilities and the correct path to lead the life. That helps the family, makes the relationships stronger and thus they become good citizens of the country. That is how we fulfil our duty towards of country.
@margeryann (1845)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I don't know if they do or not.I've never noticed that.All of the situations I see the moms are closer to their daughters since they can have more in common with them since they were a girl once and can dress them up and all the girl stuff. I have two sons so I don't know I try to be fair and not show favoritism to either one of my kids.So, they don't get jealous and get their feelings hurt.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
2 Feb 11
Of Course, you are the baby's mom so you will pay a lot of attention to your own baby. I always pay attnetion to my baby, play with him and stuff,; I think boys and girls are the same, they love your attention.
@jamzy19 (72)
• United States
3 Feb 11
i don't know if i will agree with you or not. I think boys are more attached to their mother. as for my experience i have a daughter which is the eldest and a son which is the youngest. They both are close to me, but i have to pay more attention to son since he is the youngest and he needs more of my attention. i do love my kids so much than any other things on earth :)
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
2 Feb 11
yes i totally agree with you.most of the mother have more attention to their boys.but i don't have any brother that's why my mom always pay attention on me and my sister.my mom is the greatest mom in the world.i love her so much.i want to give her all happiness. LOVE YOU MA
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hi I agree with that. I have two boys and they are the sweetest ever!! I believe that boys are really closest to their moms. My brother is much closer to my mom too. I just hope that my boys will be the same for me. :)