how should i behave with this classmate? (please read, need help)
By sebastian94
@sebastian94 (34)
Romania
February 9, 2011 3:35pm CST
Hi! There's a guy in my class that really takes the piss out of me! Whenever i have my back turned or whenever im not aware (like whrn i deeply think about something) he literally jumps on my head or gently slaps me across the back of my head or pushes me... Now you should know im physically much well built (i even was close last year to break his wrist in an arm wrestle match last year, he challenged me) than him (freakin skinny loser)im taking kickboxing classes (altough im still a beginner) i do a lot of strength exercises (like 100 knuckle push-ups a day or pull ups unil exhaustion, weightlifting etc). I'm saying all this not to show off but in order for you to see that im not a complet loser or someone who is bullied or someone which people can easily pick on. I'm simply confused with this guy because we're in tge same class for almost 2 years and i still didn't understand what he actually wants from me because he's not really hitting me in order to injure me he gives gentle punches or pushes just like he would want to provoke me. But he knows im stronger than him, maybe im not a great fighter but a well aimed punched with my right would be disastrous for him and he knows that as well. He just hits me and when i turn my head he runs away. It's just like when you poke a sleeping tiger with a stick and run away. I try to do my best not to fight back because im afraid i'll eriously injure him. I don't know what to think, sometimes he's quite nice to me and starts discussions. Is he just joking around and it's me who is over reacting? Please, i need some advice because i don't know what to do, i know this is a long and i apologize but please if you wish to help please read the whole discussion so you can understand my situation. I canot pay for your help but whoever wishes to lend me hand has my gratitude for life.
Thank you!
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7 responses
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
4 Apr 11
You should do the same to him, and see how he reacts. If he laughs, then he probably sees it all as fun in games. If he gets mad then it would seem he was trying to provoke your anger.
If he does it so often that it's annoying, tell your friends about it while he's listening or tell him off in front of the class. That should embarass him.
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
21 Feb 11
Sounds to me as though he's desperately seeking your attention!!! Reminds me of when I was younger & young boys did things just to get the attention of the girl they loved. Have you ever considered that he might want to be your boyfriend & just doesn't know how to ask???
Maybe he feels like a tough guy & enjoys the attention he receives when everybody laughs. Maybe you should just confront him & tell him you're tired of his games & you don't want to hurt him; but if he doesn't stop, you'll embarrass him in front of ALL his friends!!! Then if he does it again...embarrass him!!!!
@1corner (744)
• Canada
9 Feb 11
Hmmm...he does seem to want something from you. Have you tried asking him point blank what he wants? Or more direct to the point, tell him to stop. Let him know it really bugs you that he keeps getting physical. I'm not sure he wants to bully you either, or he wouldn't have those "nice" discussions with you. Could it be he actually wants to be your friend? Or, is it possible he's hitting on you (is he homosexual by any chance? Sorry, I had to ask)
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
This guy is trying to prove something to his classmates. Why not try a trick on him when hes not looking, just as he does on you? Jump on him and get him in a headlock. Make him promise to stop bugging you before you let him go. This won't hurt him, but will give him a small dose of his own medicine!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
If you're much stronger than him then punch him. Make him respect your strength.
@letski07 (38)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Hi there! Sometimes there are people who just love to tease their friends. Maybe he just want's to play with you around. But just talk to him if you really can't stand it. Tell him what you felt and the circumstances if he'll not follow you. A little talk will do since your friends right? Hope that issue will be solve. =)
