You Were Polite In Your Response....But, Your Thoughts Were Anything But, True?

So, you will go ahead and speak your mind, which i feel is a very healthy way to respond to anyone you disagree with.of course in a way that doesn't offend or ridicule anyone personally.i just feel there are members here who don't realize that you can speak your mind without cussing, without insulting anyone and still stay within the guidelines of what a discussion should be about. In my opinion ,i think one can tend to be "overly" polite with anyone they disagree with and so, their true feelings and thoughts are not represented in their responses.

You are right about that sometimes people do try to be over polite it sounds funny to even say because it almost makes no sense but its very True. People worry to much and just to to over do it and they will never really express themselves. You are right about that haha.

it does sound "funny" but, i'm glad you understood what i meant by being "too polite" i think if one would really think about it, it would make sense.in my opinion being nasty and rude or, being overly polite is not getting your point across in any way.

as long as you don't go as far as starting an argument or offending the poster,your rating shouldn't be a worry for you You're too new here to know how your reputation may fall down in just a day. I hadn't known it either until a few weeks ago. For a different view I had on a matter, I went down from 95 to 91 in only one day. This surely wasn't the work of only one user. Luckily the person who's anger I stirred did other bad things here and her account was canceled.

Yes ,i would agree i'm new here but not unaware of how your rating can go down out of nowhere since mine went down 2 points overnight.and if you read any of my responses you would see that i'm never rude or insulting to anyone, even if i may disagree with them. Also, i did mention in my previous response to you, that by simply disagreeing can stir up enough anger in someone and of course they may rate you negative because of this. So what i meant and should have made more clear is, you "shouldn't" worry about your rating every time you respond and give a opposing opinio,nespecially if your not rude or argumentative. and not that some people "won't" negative rate you despite this.and since we have no control over anyone who decides to this , why worry over it?why hesitate to give your opinion?since we have no idea what motivated them to do this in the first place.

As i mentioned previously, there are ways to get your point across without resorting to insults and rudeness.And of course, it is better to skip over a discussion if you don't feel you would be able to respond in a respectable way. But if you do feel the need to respond, i do think you should state your point of view and be honest in your opinion, no matter how much you may disagree with the discussion.and as long as you don't go as far as starting an argument or offending the poster,your rating shouldn't be a worry for you.Although i do agree wtih those who say that sometimes, simply disagreeing with someone is enough to stir up their anger, go figure.

"i posted the first thing that came to mind" I've done this a couple of times myself.but, not for silly questions(i just pass them by) i seem to have no patience with those who post discussions and make matter of fact statements about a certain subject,like when someone says, "this is a fact" and yet, they offer no explanation as to how they know this and just expect everyone to agree with them.i don't respond in a nasty way, but i will get somewhat sarcastic in my reponse,just to let them know they are not the authority on the subject and should understand why some people will come at them for being a "know it all"

I have had a couple situations like that I find that I would be wasting my efforts and loosing my temper, so I have gone back and stated, sorry you and I disagree but this is how I see it and I bold the I and say what I have to say then I let it go as if I continue to entertain it the bad side of me would wreak out and I do not want to do that with anyone online as I am one who likes to sleep good at night. LOL.. I have honestly said to members in my own discussions who strong disagreed with me, I would say I appreciate your response, and I wish you well. This way I responded and I do not take further because I do a great deal of reading here and many do not know how healthy debate. I have seen a great many flame wars, which later turns into trolling. Although for me the reader finds it very entertaining, I somehow do not see as a good example to new members.

Hi Friend: I agree with everything you've said here, i really do.i myself tend to skip over discussions whre i know the potential for an argument is very apparent. But, what i'm trying to convey here is, if and when you "do" respond to a discussion where you totally disagree with the poster, what are your very "first" thoughts and feelings? do you feel angry, irritated, or frustrated and wish you could just type the first things that come to mind? and let me stress here that i don't mean with ridicule or insults, but just something that displays your true feelings? i really don't know if what i'm trying to say makes sense to you. Maybe i should have added people who are "already" in the midst of responding, not one you would simply skip over.which of course would be the best thing to do.

Great! that's exactly what i tried to convey in this discussion, you "say what you have to say"and are done with it.but, your true thoughts are there regardless. I feel you can express your true thoughts and feelings without being rude or insulting, even when you totally disagree with someone but, some people don't understand this.and so there's no middle ground, they either go out of their way to be rude and insulting, or,they go the other way and type a response that you just know they did it for the sake of responding and has nothing to do with how they truly felt.

Yes, avoiding controversial discussions is the best thing to do and our purpose for being here should be to "relax" and enjoy interacting with other members. but, you also mention that you will respond with whatever comes into your mind and if you're doing this in a way that doesn't offend anyone, i think it's quite healthy to do so. Afterall as you mentioned why go away knowing you didn't respond with your "true" feelings and thoughts? Waht can be worse than not being true to yourself?

Once again i do agree, one should merely just skip the discussion altogether. what i meant was, the discussion is one that sparks your interest, but you disagree with the posters point of view. you are already in the discussion and feel the need to respond.the question is, do you type the first things that come to mind.?in other words, do you type what your true feelings and thoughts were at that moment? or do take the time to think about waht you should say?

It may be best to just leave the discussion if it truly "disgusted" you, but don't you think one can respond to discussions without being rude or nasty in your response?but still be able your point of view across? you don't have to be overly nice and you don't have to be nasty either, but, at least you will be tellng the person your true feelings about their post, and how much you disagree with what they said.but, i do agree, that if the topic or discussion is not interesting to you or you don't feel deeply about the subject then it s best to pass it by.

Absolutely agree with you who wants arguments?especially with those who start them for no good reason.

Exactly,You don't have to say rude or insulting things to express your views or opinions. What"s the use of responding to a post you disagree with, if your true feelings are not being expressed.Even though i do understand why some people are afraid to speak their mind, especially here, where so many things can affect your rating and other things,they don't realize that so much as simply disagreeing with someone can do this.so if they feel this way why not just be honest or skip the discusson altogether.

Sorry,i didn't notice you were a newbie here, so let me welcome you to Mylot i hope you continue to enjoy your stay here. i'm also glad you havent read or got into discussos with certain people who are just looking for an argument. That could be because most of the members here are very supportive and friendly and it's always great to discuss and interact with them.it isn't necessary to get into a war or argument with anyone here and it's best to avoid those discussions where people are just looking to argue even if you no more than disagree with their opinion.if you just stay within your interests and try to avoid controversial subjects such as religion and politics, your time here will be very worthwhile.Anyway, again, welcome to Mylot and have a great day.

I've only been here for a few weeks but so far I haven't read anybody saying any nasty things or anybody getting into arguments. So far I've only seen friendly and thoughtful conversations.

you don't want to argue and i agree this is best.i do think it's possible to respond to someone without getting into one, but everyone has their own way of dealing with these things.i really don't know why anyone would post a discussion, just to start an argument and stir trouble.but,some people do and when they do,i agree it's best to avoid them.