What to do if you hurt your best friend?? Help!!!
By chaos123
@chaos123 (132)
February 10, 2011 8:00pm CST
Hi, everyone, my best friend told me yesterday she wanted to be a saller, but in China, saller is not a good job for girl. Also she is a teacher in her hometown, she teaches well and students also love her. I reject her views, even she doesn't know real society. She hang up my phone and i feel i hurt her. What should i do? I don't want to lose my best friend!!
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4 responses
@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
If she is your best friend then she would understand you are just telling the truth . Its this time that your best friend needs your understanding so you have to be patient. Call her back again even if she will ignore you, just kept on calling or visiting her. She would eventually be on her senses and accept your opinions.
@chaos123 (132)
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14 Feb 11
Chavezrmc, thank you for your suggestion. This is the second time we told about this event, but she still said i was very pessimistic. I was so sad to hear that. I just telling the turth, but she didn't accept. I don't know how to talk with her. I sant a message to her that night, but she didn't response, neither online. Were i not patient? I trust that our friendship never break by such stupid thing..
@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
14 Feb 11
well if that is the case then, give her a little space for her to think what is right or what is wrong. You can send her a message telling her that so she will not think that you have given up on her. Tell her that you will always be there for her and that you are making a distance for her to think what is right and what is wrong. Assure her that whatever your opinion is, your interest is always for her best. I think if she wouldn't melt on what you are going to say then she is still blinded. What i have said, if you are really friends then she will come into senses... you both will be fine
@chaos123 (132)
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15 Feb 11
Thanks a lot!! Chavezrmc. I will support her. We are in different cities, i work in a developed city, but she worked in a small town. She wanna going out, and i think what i need to do now is support her. I don't want to lose my best friend. Thanks for your suggestion. It's really hard for me to make a decision, but now i know what should i do!!!
@getbiswa2000 (5545)
• India
11 Feb 11
Call her up, open up all your feelings to her. Tell her that you're no less hurt than she is. Tell her everything about how you felt after she hung up your phone. Tell her that you're sorry. Be honest and sincere in your expressions. Don't even think about saying something that's not true. Just tell her exactly what you felt. You did not mention here what caused such a disturbance. However, if it's something too bitter to discuss, you better wait until time reduces it's sharpness from her memory. Remember, you don't have to reject her views. She may be wrong in her view, but you are not the best person to judge that. What if you have a flawed view yourself? None of us is perfect. None of us ever makes any statement that's absolutely correct. Why embitter your relationships just because of your views?
@chaos123 (132)
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14 Feb 11
Getbiswa2000, thanks for your suggestion. My fiend and i always stick view of ourselves, sometimes this discussion improve our friendship. But i think this time was not. The most important thing for a friendship is not how outstanding you are, trust and support her maybe most important. Now what i need to do is support my best friend. You are right. If someone didn't do things she want to, she didn't know what her life will be, and have pity in her mind and affect our friendship. So i change my mind and support her now! Thnaks. But a pity that when i sent a message to her, she neither reply and online. Saddddddddd!!
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
11 Feb 11
I am not sure what a saller is but I know friends are precious...a few years ago I had a huge fight with my best friend and we didn't speak for a long time until one day she showed up on my door step and said she cared for me too much to let this continue well I being as stubborn as I was felt what courage that took for her to do that and of course we made up and our friendship was back on track and how lucky I was she did that because about 2 years later she passed away suddenly, how would I have felt if we had have left the wedge between us...Go make up with your friend, be the big one..Friends are precious and we don't know how long we have them..
@chaos123 (132)
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14 Feb 11
Hi, lilaclady, thank you for sharing your story with me. I hope your friend is happy in heaven. Really, i think friends are precious. Three years ago, i usually ignore my friends, because i thought i have a lot things to do. But it was her that me know how stupid i were. So i concern her more than me. I send her a message that day, but she didn't response. I don't know what happened!!
@wallygator22 (84)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
i feel bad about it. sometimes our views which is right for us might be wrong for them. so you have to make it up both. losing a friendship is quick but making up is a long process... so have time and good luck.
