Why do we disparage happy people?

United States
February 13, 2011 12:58am CST
I've noticed that it has become encouraged to put down people who are kind, happy, and or good-natured. They're not cool. They don't have an edge. They're annoying, stupid, naive, etc. But these are the people who make our lives better, with a smile or a word. And yet, as a culture we relegate them to stereotypes of idiots. Why?
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@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
13 Feb 11
I remember doing this before especially when I felt sad and so low. I guess it's more of envy or jealousy why we do this. Sometimes we feel bitter inside and seeing someone so happy makes us annoyed by them. Every time I put down someone it's also as if I'm putting my self down and would feel really worse. Now I'm happy because that feeling has changed already and I understand the feeling of being happy. So every time I see someone so happy I felt happy too.
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• United States
13 Feb 11
That's good that you are responding to others happiness with your own. It can be hard and the greatest test of this is to do it even when we are low. Nobody can be happy and bright all the time, but it's the times when they are prone to the darker emotions that shows what kind of person they are. If they are bombarded with images telling them to resent those who are happy at that moment, does that really help to get out of their low and move back to their happiness?
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
14 Feb 11
Yes it could help a lot. But the difficult part is how to be able to do it. I actually find this difficult also and I don't assure that it could be done all the time. What I just know is that when we are on the dark side we should at least try to look at the bright side. I will just say that it has helped me, though not all the time. Sometimes we know that it's wrong but doesn't know what to do to prevent or stop. So because at least I have an idea as to how to stop or prevent it then there are times that I was able to surpass it. Maybe it just depends on the person if he really wants to get rid of such kind of attitude then he must do something and try all possible remedy that he could found.
@JohnMach (550)
• Philippines
13 Feb 11
We may not admit it but we're all jealous if someone is happy. We feel jealous about this and start to talk bad of that person. This is one attitude of humans we should change to make us better persons.
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• United States
13 Feb 11
Definitely. How much more could be achieved if we focused on helping each other rather than tearing each other down? There is much good to be found in almost all of us and if, as a society, we were more concentrated on bringing out that individual good rather than forcing people to conform to a universal portrait, a lot more could be done for all of us.
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
13 Feb 11
Hi. DoriLentrich. All of my life, I have fallen victim to being put down. People enjoy hurting me. They just do. They love to try me and get under my skin. I try not to let them, but they know how to. I have no time for people that act childish. I completely ignore them, because someday, just one day, their entire world and all of their bad deeds will come crashing down upon them.
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• United States
13 Feb 11
Karma is a ... True enough. Sometimes I wonder if people who hurt others don't realize how much harm they are actually doing. To enjoy inflicting pain isn't right or natural. As a species, we are supposed to build each other up for the good of us all. To enjoy destroying other humans defeats this purpose. In the end, we're in it together and if people don't see that, they need to open their eyes.
@picjim (3002)
• India
13 Feb 11
Probably we can't understand them.Or there is a tinge of jealousy in us.The sooner we get rid of such thoughts,i feel its better for us.It'll be good if we can better understand such people and emulate them.
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• United States
13 Feb 11
I think jealousy does play a role in it. For good or for ill, people tend to want to bring down people they are jealous of instead of trying to achieve what those people have. When people see that there are those who are happier than themselves, something inside them feels the need to retaliate. But emulation will bring greater satisfaction than mockery. By bringing everyone down, nobody is raised up.
• United States
13 Feb 11
Yeah I used to do that until I realized that being happy is the meaning of life. Anytime I judged or put people down I felt worse, so I started asking how to feel better. By loving how happy other people are really makes you feel happier and better. I think its because of movies and general media nowadays that people think sufferers and those with an edge are cooler, but in actuality their on the wrong path. Those that are purely joyous are living their life to the fullest and that should be cheered on by everyone.
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• United States
13 Feb 11
You're right. Finding a path that makes you truly happy is what life is about. It's not about hurting or destroying but building and being content. Why the media seems to want to hurt that, I don't know. Perhaps they are jealous of those who have found a different path? Perhaps it threatens them in some way that there are people who refuse to allow the cynical world view dominate.