We get nervous hearing sad news.
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58679)
Delhi, India
February 16, 2011 1:15am CST
Hi friends!
Joys and sorrows are part of life. Most of us do not want to hear any sad news 
about any relative/friend's death or serious accidents. However, even if we do not like, sometimes we get to hear sad news at odd hours. Whenever someone passes on the sad news to me I feel nervous and my heart start pounding and throbbing and my pulse rate increases. What about you do you also feel nervous initially when you receive any sad news or you take it on your stride and do not feel disturbed and how do you cope with it when someone breaks the sad news to you?
about any relative/friend's death or serious accidents. However, even if we do not like, sometimes we get to hear sad news at odd hours. Whenever someone passes on the sad news to me I feel nervous and my heart start pounding and throbbing and my pulse rate increases. What about you do you also feel nervous initially when you receive any sad news or you take it on your stride and do not feel disturbed and how do you cope with it when someone breaks the sad news to you?7 people like this
9 responses
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
16 Feb 11
I too get very upset and nervous if I come to hear of such news and that too if it is sudden it takes quite some time for me to get my pulse rate to normal. I have seen the trauma of my parents when my brother passed away suddenly at the age of 17. If the person is close to you you feel quite upset and it takes a while to calm down.EVen if it is any accident or some major calamity where none of your own people are involved, I get quite upset. I pray to God but it does take time for me to get back.
WHat happened Deepak? Did some mishap take place in your known circle?
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
17 Feb 11
Hi Kala!
What can I write, it appeared to me that you read my mind on seeing this post, as back of your hand.
. You concluded that Deepak would not start a discussion, without any reason. So you are more or less like me and you too feel disturbed hearing any sad news and it takes time to calm down. In quick succession I lost two of my Uncles recently and it was I who got the sad news first.
. You concluded that Deepak would not start a discussion, without any reason. So you are more or less like me and you too feel disturbed hearing any sad news and it takes time to calm down. In quick succession I lost two of my Uncles recently and it was I who got the sad news first.@kalav56 (11464)
• India
17 Feb 11
I understand how upset you must have felt Deepak. We belong to a generation where we we had a good time with some uncles or aunts and we feel intensely for them.Actually I was on the verge of writing how my maternal uncle passed away on September 29th 2010 recently. He was also a lawyer and used to spend a considerable amount of time with my father and naturally I used to chat with him as though we were friends. I was shocked and was quite upset,when I heard the news.
May your uncles' souls rest in peace. Are their children grown up? Your father and mom would have been pretty upset.
@allknowing (153530)
• India
16 Feb 11
Not any more. Having experienced losses in the family, such news no longer affect me.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
16 Feb 11
Hi all ! You appear to have become stoical and sad news does not disturb you. Was it so in the past too?
Thanks for kick starting the discussion.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
16 Feb 11
Hi all ! You appear to have become stoical and sad news does not disturb you. Was it so in the past too?
Thanks for kick starting the discussion.
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@allknowing (153530)
• India
16 Feb 11
I was never like this. But life's experiences teach one to accept such news without getting ruffled as that attitude in a way makes things easier to handle.
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@lhenpaule (495)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
I have the same initial feeling when i learn something bad happen to family and close relative, i get nervous and weak. To calm down myself, i take a series of deep breath and once i get back to my senses, i talk it out to a close and trusted friend near me. In that way, i loosen the baggage within me and was able to hear advices and comfort from people around me.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
16 Feb 11
Hi !
Taking deep breadth and talking to a friend understandably gives you courage to cushion the blow of shocking news. Thanks for sharing and joining us.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
18 Feb 11
I received such news not long ago and I did not feel anything for quite a while because I was very shocked by the unexpected news. I did feel all the things you describe a few hours later and I eventually started shedding tears the next day! I think that everybody reacts differently to different circumstances, for example I knew my dear sick mother in law was dying and when I received the call informing me that she had passed I went into the crying, grieving stage immediately. My guess is that it was as shocking to me...
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
21 Feb 11
Hi Paula!
It means you went blank when you received the unexpected sad news. I think, this could also happen that on hearing a news, our mind stops working and goes blank absolutely and we do not know, what to do next.
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@rameshchow (4426)
• India
16 Feb 11
I have many sad moments in my life, less marks in exams in my tenth class(2005) it hurted me alot, that day i am suffering with heavy fever and i was in a long journey at that time i heart the sad news, that i got less marks. I was totally collapsed.
Really a person(a friend, a companion, a partner) we need to share our feelings. It will reduces our half of the tensions and sad moments.
have a nice day.
godbless your family.
specila prayers from your friend remo(hey its me).
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@polaris77 (2039)
• Bacau, Romania
16 Feb 11
When I hear sad news I certainly don't feel well at all,and first I have to cope with the initial shock.We all know that one day sad news are inevitable and we all have to go throgh those difficult moments,but I don't think I could ever get used to hearing them.But I do my best to be strong and stay calm,though it's very,very difficult to do that on such moments.
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@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
I get nervous when people be around the bush.
"You might want to sit down for this...."
"I...umm...have to tell you...."
"I hate to break it to you but..."
Even if it only takes less than 10 seconds to utter those phrases, they make the nervousness last longer. I wish people would just spit it out, and let me deal with it when I hear it. I'd be less nervous that way.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
20 Feb 11
My heart sinks to my stomach and I get very upset. Then I try to cope.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
21 Feb 11
Hi Sarah!
It is a normal reaction, when we receive some sad news.
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