it's Been 18 Years...and I miss my Dad

Philippines
February 16, 2011 7:55am CST
My mother asked me to buy a cake earlier. I thought she was craving for something sweet again, but nonetheless I did get a cake and brought it home. When I got home, she told me that it was my Dad's birthday today that's why she asked me to buy a cake. My Dad died 18 years ago from diabetes (complications). At the time of his death we were not really talking to each other and I did feel bad about this when he died. I was already working when he died and I was always out of the house. I have always planned on visiting his grave, but have never gone about doing so up to now. I just miss him, that's all.
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17 responses
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 11
Hi, So sad to hear that your dad has passed away. Both you and your mother should be strong and stay happily now. That was the past and I believe your father does not want to see you guys look sad. If you really miss your dad, pay him a visit at his cemetery. I believe he must be happy to see you there too.
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
I plan to visit this weekend. I have been putting this off for quite some time now. Thank you for your response.
• China
19 Apr 11
God bless you!
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
Hello Anne25, I miss my grandpa, but if he wasn't a regular smoker he would have lived to this day. as for your Dad, i guess my brother should start dieting soon, knowing that he might risk having a diabetes as well. it's not loosing some one we cared for, specially if they're parents. but we should cherish the things we used to have with them
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
Hello LK. If you come from a family of diabetics then you should take care of your diet so that you don't get the disease. I am very lucky not to have diabetes or hypertension unlike my brothers who were diagnosed with these illnesses in their 30's. I just had a rough day, and I miss my dad that's all. Thank you for your response.
@thatgirl13 (7304)
• South Korea
16 Feb 11
It must be so hard without one of your parents. I can't imagine my life without them. I'm glad you had the strength to carry on during your tough days. God bless you
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
It was hard especially during the first few years. Holidays are very dismal or sentimental because we are missing our dad. Thank you for your response.
@louievill (27515)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
oh your post made me very sad because I remember my dad too, it's been 17 years now since he passed away,My parents celebrated their anniversary this Valentine's day and my dad's birthday is on the 19th which is also my wedding anniversary. He taught me a lot of things and a lot of what I know I owe to him. He was such a good provider to his children and always valued the importance of education. Always wished I could have been a better son, so to return the good things he gave us I try to do in the best of my ability to emulate him in raising a family
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
My dad also taught me a lot of things which I still carry up to now in terms of money. Thank you for your response.
• Oman
16 Feb 11
I somehow share the same situation as yours. Actually, I've last seen my dad in 1996 when I was still a sophomore high school student. Its been 15 long years since I havent heard of his whereabouts. But I have some source that he's back in his home country. Im a half Filipino and an half Portuguese-Sri lankan. He's quite old now and Im still looking forward to meet him him. I somehow have hurts why he left me and my family but I will always remain as his boy, as many say, Im his carbon copy. I really miss him to the extent of seeing him even in my dreams. I know there will come a time when I will meet him and that all depends in God's proper time.
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
I do hope that someday, somehow you will get to see your dad. Thank you for your response.
@Jennlk84 (4216)
• United States
16 Feb 11
I am so sorry. That is really sad. I can understand you missing him, of course, he was your dad! I think it can be really hard to get over missing someone you love, no matter how many years it has been. I hope you enjoyed the cake and celebrating his day. Hopefully you and your mom were able to talk about the good times and some wonderful memories you have of your father. :-)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
My mom had a small slice and went to bed early. I guess she knows I forgot. The cake is virtually untouched but I hope we do get to enjoy tomorrow. Thank you for your response.
@sender621 (14933)
• United States
16 Feb 11
I lost my husband to cancer almost five years. he was helped by hospice care near the end. some members of the hospice staff offered that when loved ones pass, their birthdays are often remembered by family and friends with a cake., it is a way to honor and celebrate the one they miss.
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
That's nice that the hospice sends a cake to remember your husband's birthday. I usually don't forget occasions such as these, but I have been through a lot lately. Thank you for your response.
• United States
16 Feb 11
Well you just take day by day and do what you need to do. I know its a sad thing for you and i know you wish it never happened and you rmom probably made your day not to much better by having you bring a cake home to remember the past and how things were. I hope you have a better day or week ahead of you and just do what you have to do. Be strong.
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
I don't mind buying the cake. What bothered me was that I totally forgot that today is my dad's birthday and my mom was probably thinking that I knew what the cake was for. Thank you for your response.
16 Feb 11
Thats very sad. I miss mine too. It has been about the same time for me. My mum now lives with us and it was sad to celebrate Valentine's Day with my husband knowing that she was sad missing my dad. He used to really spoil her on Valentine's Day.
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
My mom hasn't really said anything much today. I am sure she misses him. Thank you for your response.
@AmbiePam (56901)
• United States
20 Feb 11
I'm so sorry you lost your dad so soon. I don't know what I would do without my dad. I'm glad though that your relationship with your mom seems close.
@raj7shot (842)
• India
18 Feb 11
Sorry and deep sorrow dear friend... There is nothing to tell you to come out of the feeling... Anyway take care of your mom and don't feel about what happened.. Parents are very precious in the world than anything..
@aerous (13457)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
Well, It's really misses our Dad. Because it's really hard for having no Dad. I am 12 year's old when my dad past away... Were trying to survive in difficult times and we manage to success it. But if I think about my Dad. I still feeling lonely because he never see us on our statute in life to day...
@jb78000 (15163)
17 Feb 11
i am sorry. i've lost several family members and friends and when dates like that come around it hurts. i think you should visit the grave to say goodbye.
@semus9x (47)
• Vietnam
17 Feb 11
A sad memory will haunt you very long. You need to have a plan to visit grave your father. Please visit him to comfort his soul ! You will escape from the obsession that. You will live better. He will bless you !!!
@cher913 (25859)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
i dont think that feeling ever goes away to be honest. my dad has only been gone 2 years and i still miss him lots.
@NicoZieg (591)
• Denmark
16 Feb 11
I'm sorry to hear about this. I understand 100% that you feel sorry and miss him a lot. I have a friend, who lost his dad, when he was 15 years, so it's only one year ago. It was a hard time for him, and he was very sorry months later.
@murtaza45 (173)
• India
16 Feb 11
18 year old me but out suffering me better me for good job type our child me 18 year old me for better help for alone time period me.so life change for mother good dicision me so your 18 year old thank you for good question for myloat friends.