Talking without thinking

@eil_noz (963)
Philippines
February 19, 2011 2:55am CST
Hello Mylotters! Have you actually tried talking without thinking of the consequences or simply answering something without even thinking or planning what would be the next thing to do...Well, I did tried this a lot of times already and I usually ended up being hated by a friend or not having the attention or response that I needed. If you do thried the same thing. can you please help me on how to avoid such problem?
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21 responses
• South Africa
22 Feb 11
oh ...i have done that many times and always find it comes back later to bite me in the butt ....there is actually a name for it and it is called "foot in mouth disease" ....in my case I think its a chronic disease ....does anyone out there have a cure have a good day
• Slovenia
20 Feb 11
not that I+d be aware of. I'm a type of person who thinks twice before blurting out something I lknow will make no sense or anything. I'd say try to think before you say anything, it helps. maybe at first it's kind of weird, but you'll get used to it. :]
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@aerous (13452)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Well, there is no solutions with that problem. The best things you should do must be to learn who really you are. Then you realize that your more things which is not suitable to say
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@KrauseHome (36637)
• United States
22 Feb 11
Personally I think at one time or another, many of us have done this, and the outcome may not always be like we had hoped. If we could only go back and think about what we have said and resay it all in a different way the outcome could be so much different as well. That is why saying something to someone usually before you have time to think about it, even though it might seem right at the time could be detrimental to all later on. So the Best thing is let it go and try and apologize and show her or him who you really are, and hope in time they decide to come around.
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@beamer88 (4262)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
I haven't done that actually. But there were times that I misunderstood what was being talked about and ended up arguing with the person. But in both our situations, the best advice is always to listen first before voicing out your thoughts.
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• United Arab Emirates
20 Feb 11
true very true and on the whole the point is to control your emotions to think before speak ...rest goes smooth easily..
@eil_noz (963)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
Wow I do agree with this too! and yeah it's good that you actually got my point. Thanks for the advice mezsalman and beamer. So it's just a matter of controlling your emotions and listening to what others say first before reacting. Thanks again!
@winzpc (2356)
• Indonesia
19 Feb 11
Sometimes I do that but only with my best friend. With other people I was afraid of offending them and make the conversation become ambiguous. But I have some friends who can speak without thinking and do it well. They can respond quickly what other people say and of course not out of the conversation area.
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@eil_noz (963)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
Wow you had friends such as that?! hope I can be like them as well. It can be a good remedy if I'm hard up in avoiding such habit. But then, I guess your best friend were too good for not being affected by your words though. Thanks for your response winzpc!
@mark98 (567)
• China
19 Feb 11
How should I say, this habit is not easy to change, in fact, you say the wrong thing your friends would not blame you, just be yourself on the line.
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@eil_noz (963)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
Well, your right!such habit is hard to avoid since i'm the type of person who used to talk a lot.Anyway, thanks for the comment but hope you expounded your thoughts more.
@sender621 (14923)
• United States
19 Feb 11
It really is not difficult to talk without thinking. All you have to do is open your mouth and the words will fall right out. The only problem is that once you have uttered these words, you can't take them back.
@eil_noz (963)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I certainly agree with you! it's so easy to do such thing as if your a person without nothing to worry when you did this but if in case you'd be misinterpreted by your listener that thing get harder. well, it's good to hear your side regarding this subject. Thanks sender!
@raj7shot (839)
• India
5 Mar 11
Even i had do this 2 r 3 times in my life.. 1 time i get success and 2 times i got failure... anyway planned one is good but we can face many situations and learn many things while speaking without thinking... After failure due to that i had learnt many things in my life... i am going in success part of my career..
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@ElicBxn (61189)
• United States
26 Feb 11
I'm not much on talking without thinking, part of being an introvert.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
23 Feb 11
Hello Eil_noz, I know unfourtunatelly of what you are talking about. I used to talk like you did. And I also loose a very intelligent friend. Well, we underwent on rebates... both... and this all hurted me... that I just let him go away. This is very sad... and is also tired. You spent time and effort. So, just love you a little bit more. And try to avoid this kind of nonsense energy wasting situations. Blessings!... Dainy
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@derek_a (10891)
20 Feb 11
I think we all do this from time to time. I tend to do it when my wife asks me a question when I am involved in doing something. It can be quite funny as the way I reply to her often doesn't make any sense at all! _Derek
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@stk40m (1119)
• Koeln, Germany
19 Feb 11
one should think that if you have nothing bad on your mind, i.e. if you try to be honest, truthful and tolerant nothing should go wrong. Unfortunately 'accidents happen'. So you cannot really avoid being misunderstood or even disliked. You simply cannot suit everyone, especially when there are people around who have nothing but bad intentions anyway. But at least if you keep to the above you won't have to regret something that you said Cheers
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@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
This sometimes could happened to anyone even to those who are very careful with their words and to those who we consider as people of few words. This is always my scenario with my husband especially when I am emotionally overwhelmed with anger. I keep talking of the things that I haven't thought of the consequence first and before I realize , the whole thing became berserk already. How to avoid it? Well, there is one lesson I have learned though. Do not speak when you are angry.Do not speak when you have nothing good to say especially when you are not sure if you're friends or the people around you can take what you'd say. Suppress the urge to speak up when you know that the issue will only generate heated argument or it is too sensitive enough. This is often the problem of tactless people. If you have words for others that criticize , keep it to yourself. Better that way, unless, you need to say it.
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@thanks1961 (7036)
• India
19 Feb 11
Hi dear, We need to think a while before start talking. For a casual talk it is alright. But when we talking to a group, especially if there is fresh faces around, we need to keep our identity clean and while talking we should be cautious about what we are talking. If we concentrate 2-3 basic things about the topic, it is easy to handle. Suppose you are talking about a show, just think for a while what is the important thinga bout the show, and if you talking to someone, present it with a order use better words and present with an approprite body language also. If these basic things come together you can catch the attention of the audience may be 1-2 or 10-15 or more. Sometime it may be silly. But if you try and make it as a practice, later on it will help you to become a professional person in communcation and all other feileds. Rebards, Thank-s
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• Hong Kong
19 Feb 11
I have the same problem too. Sometimes I just feel like I cant control myself. I speak before I actually think about it. But I think my friends have already gotten used to it and they would understand. I dont really think you have to change about it. If you are being hated by a friend, thats not really your problem. As a friend, s/he should accept it but not hating you. P.S dont feel bad about it;)
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@cream97 (29146)
• United States
19 Feb 11
Hi. eil_ noz. I am sure that you are not the only person that has suffered from this mistake. And you won't be the last one either. To make this easier for you, simply think before you speak. I have to apply this golden rule to my daily life. If you follow my advice, then you won't have to worry about being misunderstood. Take care.
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@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
I guess you need to have a lot of self-awareness to overcome this. Though I don't experience this because I'm not really more on talking but more on listening but I have noticed that many people are doing it. Sometimes we want to act cool in front of other people and not becoming aware that we are already getting offensive with them. I guess you might be too centered with yourself that is why you often end up being hated. I believe that it's not easy to change this but if you are really willing to change then you must do any possible way. Self-discipline is one of the keys here. Without self-discipline we will not be able to teach ourselves the right way. Be sensitive as well to other people. Yes be yourself but too much of yourself is not good either.
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@dodo19 (42882)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
19 Feb 11
It does happen that sometimes I have said something without thinking about what I was saying and/or to whom I was saying it too. Usually, it wasn't anything really very mean or anything, but I'm sure that, at times, they were a little confused. I do try to explain at times, when i feel that an explanation is needed. I'm sure that a lot of people have been in this type of situation.
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@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
20 Feb 11
Before the talk, we better think about it first. In order not to offend people who talk to us. If we always think positively, definitely our words, can we watch.