Should i still be friend with my ex-boyfriend?

Malaysia
February 20, 2011 8:35pm CST
My friend Mandy have a relationship, and have been talking and texting each other for 4 month and it was really great for her. She started to feel their relationship doesn't work beat her and break up with her on the valentine day. However , he says he still want to be friends and go to movies and hang out. Do she have to be friend with him again? It feel really uneasy and awkward.
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15 responses
@nj_1022 (251)
21 Feb 11
I dont think that can be possible -- being friends with your ex. Especially going to movies and hanging out. Not now that she is recuperating her broken heart.
@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
18 Mar 11
it is absolutely possible. i have been friends with two of my exes. not the flirting kind of relationship but more of a best friend. would you believe i even tell them of my current bf and they tell me about theirs so its all good. so how is this possible? the reason of the breakup is mutual and we have no ill feelings towards each other. we went on separate ways light-heartedly.
• Philippines
18 Mar 11
well if she accepts his friendship then i guess she's not ready to move on and she's still waiting for them to get back together
@alindobre (148)
• Romania
22 Feb 11
If he hit her once she'll suffer it again. She should get as far away as possible.
• United States
22 Feb 11
For me a break up with a boyfriend would be awkward to be friends as I would have a constant reminder that I am not with the person. I would say that if the feeling is awkward for you but you still value the friendship then give it time and maybe you will feel differently. Best of luck.
@raj7shot (838)
• India
5 Mar 11
R u mad. Do u know the meaning of LOve.. Friends can become lovers but at any cost lovers cant become friend..
@jeyeem (55)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
It may feel awkward to befriend an ex-bf/gf, in fact it feels very awkward when you hang out with the ex doing stuff together like what you would always do when the relationship still existed, only in a very light scale. But she can still befriend her ex if they want to be friends. It doesn't hurt to befriend the ones you've hate, in fact it is better to befriend the ones you hate instead of keeping a grudge or something. But do be careful to recreate the same relationship because it might not work again...MIGHT. good luck with your friend and the ex. I hope they get along well.
@AmbiePam (85440)
• United States
21 Feb 11
That IS awkward. I don't know if I could be close friends with an ex-boyfriend. Maybe it we hadn't been together long it wouldn't be really hard. But I can't imagine loving someone, breaking up, and then hanging out pretending we hadn't been so close. Because when they started dating someone else, it might become extra hard.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
In this case, it is not a wise thing to be frind with her ex yet, at least , in the meantime. They can be friends in the future when awkwardness and pains hace already subsided and healed.:) For exes it is not easy to treat each other casually as if nothing happened between you. no matter what you do, it'll feel awkward because you used to be lovers, intimate and all but then being friends with each other now needs adjustment. The being mushy, sweet and intimate should be left behind, unless they are friends with benefits of which they can still do what they did when they were st8ll lovers but only this time, it has no string attached. But if your girlfriend is not into that kind of friendship, better go on her way and never look back until she is ready again to face him.
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
21 Feb 11
hello friend! i do not know what happen with them and why they break up but if they want to be friend then it is ok they can.but it is not good for both of them i think so.anyway best of luck.
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
It really depends on you. If you fell awkwardness towards it then at the moment you should refrain from being his friend. But if you don't feel any uneasy feeling, then you could be friend with your ex boyfriend. Besides the only thing that has stopped is you boyfriend - girlfriend relationship and not your friendship.
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
if she's really serious about her decision then she should be aware of the situation that they are in. how can she feel comfortable knowing in the first place she doesn't want their relationship to continue, she should have at least give themselves both time to recover or to cool off things. to be honest its really hard to become friends with your ex- , because no matter how much you say you already forget everything that's happened, eventually there will be that time where-in you'll feel like all the pain are starting to hurt again. Its not wrong to build a relationship with your ex-its just that, you can't do all things all of a sudden. Time heals all wounds as they say, start fresh!
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
I don't think there is anything wrong with being friends with a past lover. It is not really unethical, not unless your present partner does not feel comfortable with it. What's unethical is for one to be lovers again with an ex-lover, and yet still have a relationship with a present lover.
• United States
21 Feb 11
by your title you said if you should be friends with your ex.. you it actually depends on what kind of relationship you had, and depends on your break up..sometimes, its an awkward break up, or painful break up.. or ect.. understand? i mean im friends with some of my ex's.. you know we play sports, hang out, like regular friends, because the feeling isnt there anymore, and like i said, it all depends on those to things that i said... and i ddnt understand your detail. below...
@fjclolazy (859)
• China
21 Feb 11
hi,my friend! if i was broken up with my boyfriend,it's hard to be friends with him again,coz i would think he is still be my boyfriend.it's bad!i'm afraid to see the scene!:D
@djoyce71 (2511)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
If it feels uneasy and awkward for the moment, then I think she should avoid it first and have space... Time will just tell and both of them could be friends and be comfortable with each other again.... Good day mylotter....