Married couples: Do you still date your wife/husband?

@staria (2780)
Philippines
February 21, 2011 7:12pm CST
With our minds fixed on our daily routine.. Bringing food to the table, taking care of the kids, doing the household chore. Do you still date your husband and wife?
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@irene66 (1669)
• Philippines
22 Feb 11
Hello staria, yes, I do have time to date my husband. Although not as sweet as we were lovers then. We only go for a date to talk some matters we do not like to discuss in our house. Sometimes it is for recreation purposes. We go somewhere we think is good for us and our children. Sometimes we do it alone, without our children as we wanted to be together alone.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
22 Feb 11
That's great. We seldom date nowadays as we have little kids and it is hard to take the public transportation w/ them.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
24 Feb 11
Ok... What is a date then? Just going out to dinner? How do you 'date' WITH your children there? That doesn't even seem possible, or fun if it was possible.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
Hi, of course it is possible they are a part of you. It may not sound as fun as dating alone w/ your partner, but we still enjoy our date out even if they are w/ us
@anaknitatay (1335)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
yes, I think we should still date our partners as often as we can. Sadly for us,they are a bit far in between but we also appreciate those times better now I think.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
Yes, because we arent doing it so often.. every date seems to be memorable and romantic. :)
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23 Feb 11
hello, yes we still date. This is a way for a relationship to grow stronger. Not a week passes by that we do not go to the mall or some place where we could relax and have a break fron all the problems of life.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
That's good, at least you will have a time out once in a while from all the worries and busy scheds/tasks.
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• United States
23 Feb 11
The best 'dates' I've ever had with my husband came after we were married. We had, 'dates' that cost absolutely nothing, did not involve a trip to any place, nor a walk, just a few minutes of time, often just prior to going to bed, because it was the quiet time, and for this type of date one needs quiet time... One of us would turn to the other, offer a hug and then say..."Dream with me..." We'd tell each other of our most current hopes for our future, for our children, what we might want to do when the children were grown and gone...sometimes these dreams were practical day to day things, such as, 'when the kids are gone I want to take a long peaceful bath' or the not so practical, such as, 'I want to build a house with a bathroom for each person and two for company', of course there were dreams and still are that are simply not meant to be shared with other than my husband. Point is that too often we forget that we too have hopes and dreams, some of them are individual, some are dreams of couples. We need to dream, and dreaming together brings a husband and wife closer together in mind and heart.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
Thanks for sharing this w/ me, oftentimes we do this too. As we only have little of our time to spend w/ each other. We talk over coffee and imagine/dream about things for our little kids. We imagine that when they get bigger we want them to be someone big and that we wanted to send them to a good school and the likes. We consider these as dates too. :)
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• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Am not married but been asking my married friends if they still date. The common answer is NO. I don't know why, but it seems they are more engrossed to working and tending the kids that they forget that aspect in life.. Oh well..
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
Yes, sad truth. Sometimes it is hard to look into minor aspects when you are already busy w/ priorities - kids, work etc.
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• Philippines
23 Feb 11
for me, it is still important to treat each other as if you were still on the stage of being boyfriend and girlfriend..it is important to still let the fire burning because it could help strengthen your relationship as a couple. love each other just like the first time you've met..
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Yes because if one of you turns cold, the relationship might not be as successful as it used to be.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
22 Feb 11
my husband and i try and do date night at least once a month. i think it's important for couples to spend that kind of time together. i love it
@34momma (13882)
• United States
3 Mar 11
yeah just some us time. I love it. Thanks Staria
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
I do hope we (me & my husband) find the time to do the same
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
Once a month's aint bad at all, go girl!
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
If I may. I will always date my wife. But I have no wife to date. This is a good thing to date our wife to stay in a warm relationship which is lasted forever
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• Philippines
26 Feb 11
How sweet of you my friend. Yes its the romance side of marriage should be there to keep the love exciting. We girls loved to be courted again and again and I for my part know what how to appreciate.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
@aerous: well, whoever that girl will be, she's one lucky girl. Yes this is one of the things that should be kept by married people to keep their marriage alive @ara: agree on that, us girls love to know that we are still adored by our husbands and they still love us the way they have loved us when we were still gf/bf.
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
22 Feb 11
We do go out on our own sometimes but not as often as we should. Yes, life does get in the way. Finding babysitters for the children or trying to get out during the day while they are at school can be tough at times and there are always things that need doing or things that need paying more urgently. As we work from home, we do get out on our own sometimes during the day, but it is hard to have a relaxing time when we have to rush off to get the kids from school or to go back to work. Still, it is nice when we do get out and it should become easier to do as the kids get older and we can leave them at home alone longer.
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
23 Feb 11
Wow, that is really frightening to hear that one tried to hurt your child! We never had any bad experiences with babysitters as we always used people that we knew, but it was just the added expense to each outing having to pay the sitter and sometimes we had to pick them up and then drive them home afterwards which resulted in lots of extra time wasted.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
You said it right, it is hard to look for babysitters whom you can trust. I have hired several babysitters before and it ended up badly. One of them even tried to hurt my kid. So I never really entrust my sons to other person when I am not around.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
Yeah, really bad experience for us, considering that I was just there. Sleeping. Oh my, she had all the guts to do that while I am in the same roof?! I never really considered having a stay-home babysitter w/ us. I can do w/o them, even if it's hard. Anyway, yeah it can be a real torture on the budget too.
• India
26 Feb 11
I have been very busy from last 1 months and did not go out with my wife. I am looking forward to go out with my wife sometime.
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• India
10 Mar 11
Good suggestion, I will definitely take care of your suggestion.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
Do spend some time for your wife, I'm sure that she'll be happy about that. Girls love to be pampered from time to time.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
Thanks ajay! You and your wife enjoy your date when it happens! :D
• United States
22 Feb 11
Yes we date all the time. But we are country people. We just do everything together anyway...weather it's a movie or a fishing trip.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
22 Feb 11
It's nice to do things together, like we do that too as long as we can. At least we can still catch up w/ what's happening w/ each other. Since we cant afford to go out on dates, we just do things happily w/ the kids. :)
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
22 Feb 11
Yes spending some quality time together develops a deeper understanding between the two of you. And strengthens other aspects like trust too, because you get to tell him/her every little thing that you do and spend time w/ your partner too. :)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
No money, no date. Financially, we cannot afford to have once or twice a month date, no way but i love to have a date even once a month, I'd like to bring the memories before when we are still single, i love that. We go out every Saturday evening but with our 2 kids but not a date but going to churc As a married couple, we are happy the way what we are doing. Make it our Creator, the center of everything, He will make the difference in our struggling period. A lot of dates happening in every country but I noticed some Filipinos has all the time (always) to have a date at least once a month but upon arriving in their home, what is waiting for them? Eat dried fish, sardines, mackerel together with your kids, that's crazy date, kids first before you go to a date. Go to a date as long as you have the money, i love to see a dad and mom holding together in a park or in a mall even they are old already.
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
It's a big difference since i got married, i should priorities eveything especially the expenses. You know what, If I will go to a mall, strolling is not complete without the kids, yes, of course i love it very much if my wife is also in the mall. What a happy family!!!! Also, my wife is a homebody, she is at ease when she's home, she wants a more time in the bed rather than malling.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
I love it when we are w/ our kids too. The day isnt complete w/o them and they are w/ us no matter where we go. I am more of a homebody too, but i wouldnt mind going out once in a while, esp when my husband ask me :)
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
Yes, somehow financial stability can be a factor. But hey you do not really need to spend a lot. Go on an ice cream date or any cheap thrills there is. The most important thing is that you enjoy each other's company (or even when the kids are around). :) yes very true, those were who splurged in a one day event. you have to prioritize the basic necessities 1st.
@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
22 Feb 11
Of course we need to have a date with our spouses, though we are already married and always see each other everyday every minute in the house but being on a date with your spouse is a different thing, it is a way taking care of your love to each other reminiscing what you are doing when you are still lovers and or just keeping your love alive. Before my husband and i got married we talk about it, on how we could make our relationship grow stronger even when we are married so we agreed on to have a scheduled date once a week and so far inspite of the routines we are doing daily and taking care of our 5month old baby,we were doing great on having our date... I think it should be done to every couple, and husband should still court their wife even after for how many years of staying together...
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
You got me there! My husband isnt really the thoughtful type of guy, though I am confident that he loves me and that he is just not really showy about how he feels about me. Yes, I agree there were those who dont know how to take care of their wife.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
I have to agree that husbands should still make their wives feel that they are sought after by them. This way, this will somehow strengthen her security and do away w/ her insecurities. :)
@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Yes indeed, and i feel that always in my husband and i increase my confident because of him. It's just sad that there are husband who do not know how to pamper their wife and even do not know how to love her, some husbands are just using their wife for some reason.
• Oman
26 Feb 11
Yes and I frequently bring her out not just during the love month but I always make sure that I bring her out for a date at least once or twice a month. I find it relieving and beneficial for our relationship since I learn to love her today better than yesterday.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
But sadly, couples who hold on till the end are hard to find nowadays I really admire couples who still hold hands and walk together even though they are already old. Evidence of love doesnt come overnight, you should hold on till the end.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
That's really sweet. Love should develop through time. Some people love in the beginning but fails in the end. The more we spend time/years w/ our loved one the more should we love and appreciate them for being there for us
• Oman
27 Feb 11
Yeah, you're certainly right and that's a surprising fact nowadays! It's when unconditional love comes in. Through the years we must learn to grow up and grow old with each other regardless of the gray hairs, wrinkled skin, and frail bodies. All the more love should be exemplified and expressed to the fullest because one is considered strong and potent with the presence of his/her spouse.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
22 Feb 11
Yes! Dating needs not stop just because we are already married or just because we are too busy. No one could be busy if want to do something. So if we wanna date, we can always find time. I and my husband always find time to date at least twice a month and during special occasions such as wedding anniversary, birthday, valentines day and any day we find special for us. That is one way to keep the romance going actually.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
I actually wish that we can go out even during special occasions like anniversaries, but sometimes we never really get to do that, well starting when we had our 1st baby. But as the kids get older by the day, we'll have our time alone soon :)
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
24 Feb 11
Yes Staria! Hello! It is a "must" in my life. I try to get him to the movies, once a month. (At least) Or he invites me for lunch... what you say is really true. We have too much things on the daily routine that may blow the loveĀ“s flame! Blessings! ... Dainy
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
Hi Dainy! Glad to hear that you are really spending quality time w/ your partner. I think that really contributes to a more open and fun relationship and yes it keeps the flame alive! Cheers!
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
Couple should date each other to maintain the relationship stronger. Yes, I would date my partner to develop warm and warm relationship to avoid any discouragement...between the two of us
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
True! Dating can open up deeper discussions of things that you dont usually discuss around the house.
@alindobre (148)
• Romania
22 Feb 11
Going out with the wife is a very important thing. Makes life more fun. I also bring her flowers or small, inexpensive gifts from time to time. It is a must to do a lot of stuff together, even with all the daily routine.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Yes, giving gifts from time to time even though they are inexpensive works, I often tell my husband that he isnt that thoughtful as before. I love receiving small things, sometimes even a flower picked from the neighborhood would truly make me smile. The thought that he remembered to at least give me something that he thinks that would truly make me happy is really important to me.
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
No. I'm afraid we don't date anymore. It's just because my husband's always busy at work and I alone take care of my three kids, ages 4,3 and 1. I guess we just didn't have the time for it. But now that you've mentioned it, I think it's high time we MAKE time for it, right?
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
Yeah, never too late to spend some quality time w/ your loved one :)
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
I always date my partner. Come to think of it, thanks for reminding me. I think i should date my wife. LOL
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
Go and date your wife, it'll make a huge difference! :)