do you consider yourself lucky
By hotsummer
@hotsummer (13835)
Philippines
February 22, 2011 5:46am CST
I can not consider myself lucky. there are so many things I can't do in life. I can't just go out and have good time with some friends. my family won't understand despite I'm past 30 years old. I'm single however. I'm here at home to take care of my father. I love caring for my father. but I dont like my situation cause I'm obligated to tell where I will go sometimes when I feel going out. and I dont like this situation where my every movement is being monitored . im not allowed to think for myself. I'm not yet independent financially but my earnings online give me a feeling of being independent somehow. I can buy some things for myself which I can't before and just be content with what I receive by staying at home like free food and other basic things. I wanna feel free like a bird. go out over night for some fun or go traveling for a few days with some friends once a year with some friends with the money I earned online. but I feel its hard to tell them I want to go out and do it because there will be lot of objections for sure and I need to have a big fight with them if I insists on it. or I may get what I want but will get a cold treatment or they will may make me feel like the prodigal one or the black sheep of the family. I want to stay at home but I want to occasionally do what i want and enjoy my life and decided. for myself. and this is my choice too stay at home to care for my father and have occasional fun. but they only allow me to care for my father and not to have occasional fun. like traveling to some over night to enjoy traveling in some tourist place in my country though I can pay for it already from my online earning.
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10 responses
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
24 Feb 11
Can someone stay with your Father once a month? Like do you have other relatives?
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
my relatives have their own lives. only immediately are staying at home. and they don't stay here permanently as they are working in other countries. only me and my sister stay at home with my father . my mom would go back to another country again cause she does not want to stay home. she still wants to do what she wants cause she feels there is nothing happening good in her life if she just stay at home. so i do care for my father. but stays now here for a vacation till end of march. wish that they would let take a vacation too.
@nareene (7)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
definitely a big YES!I do consider my self as lucky as some people think of there selves too.Even if i don't have or i don't experienced a luxurious life but i have so many things to thank for..i came from a poor family,my parents couldn't afford to send me to school.i was able to finished my studies being a working student and now i am proud to say that i have those things which i don't have before.i can buy things which i like, i could eat foods which i don't or rare to eat before and most of all i have now the power to help others..I have God in me,love which all we need,people to care of us,family,friends,and a peaceful society.being lucky depends also on how we handle it,on how we brought out.it depends in our self..gud day!!! :-)
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
it is nice to hear that you can live independently now not only because you can buy your own food. and most important is you are happy.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
23 Feb 11
At 30, its really sad that you feel like a prisoner in your own home. I think for this situation, both your parents and yourself are to blame for. Your parents have been a little immature and selfish in wanting to cling on to you forever and you too have been too soft and respectful in dealing with your parents. However, its high time you take a decision on this and it will have to be from your side, whether pleasant or unpleasant. Either you accept your situation and stop whining or you face up to your parents and claim your own personal life.... its not that you are going to abandon them, but once you start going out and mixing on your own, gradually they too will accept the situation.
Also, get a job!!! Its really unfortunate that at 30, you are not independent financially. Maybe that’s why your parents don’t feel that you are responsible enough...also you are financially dependent on them, so you cant risk their wrath.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
yeah it feels like a prisoner at my own home. that is how i wished i live somewhere else.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
22 Feb 11
You should be enjoying life as you only pass this world but once. Go out and see the world. Do not bother what the others think of you. Being single and free is the best part of life. You aren't answerable to anyone and it is all under your own expense.
I still consider myself lucky. Being a married woman I am as free as a bird. I can go anywhere I wish as I am a very independent woman. At the end of the day, I still come back to our marital home in one piece. 
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
you are indeed lucky.seems you are person who is lucky in every thing. and contented in every thing you have now. how many people who are not contented would just be like you. happy and free .
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
22 Feb 11
My life has been dificult since the day I was born and sometimes the hardships cloud the blessing, I say blessings because I dont believe in luck I only use the word luck as a figure of speech only.
But to answer your question yes once the clouds clear away and can see clearly I do consider myself blessed because there still so much to experience and do with my life, and I have been given many other gifts, and life is still very much an adventure for me, even though my adventures are turbulent and stressful sometimes I still have hope for better days to come. so yes I am very lucky as you put it but blessed is what I say and feel to spite my personal hardships.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
yes it's important. to consider trials as a way to bRing us blessings. but it's hard to go trials.accepting our situations it's the most difficult part of it.acceptance can or is a big struggle in my life. wish it could have been easier for me to accept my situation or struggles in life. but I believe that there is light at the end of the rAinbow.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
23 Feb 11
Consider yourself lucky because u do have another 30 years or more to have fun, but they might not have another 30 years to spend their time with u. COnsider a blessing that they care for u, and they are still loving u as much. Being their child, u should let them know about your feelings, your thoughts and what u should be doing at this age now. Talk to them nicely and overtime they should understand.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
i would consider myself lucky it i can live happy this remaining years of my life. with what's happening in this world i hope i can find some source of comfort and shelter and happiness.
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
22 Feb 11
I don't have the faith in the saying of luck. There are certain things happening in our life and if it favours to us, we will call them luck and unfavour, we say unlucky. I don't related any incident or happening in my life with luck and it is meaning less. Whatever is to be happened will happen as per its own way. That is all.
Thank-s
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
22 Feb 11
Actually i do consider myself lucky. I have parents who let me go towards the career i want, I have a sister who understands me like no one does, I have friends who are always with me no matter what, and I have so many opportunities to grab. I love my life. Sometimes life is difficult but then again good times make me forget about those hardships.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
22 Feb 11
you are very lucky indeed. i wish i can be that lucky as you.
@fjclolazy (859)
• China
23 Feb 11
Hi,my friend,
I consider myself lucky.
At least.I didn't lack of love.I have a family which love me a lot.I have a beautiful oder sister and she is really nice for me.In a word,we depend on each other.I have two handsome brothers.I have many cool friends.And any other things I get...So I think I'm really lucky.
What do u want to know more?^_^
@hemlockspruce25 (501)
• Philippines
22 Feb 11
My asnwer is YES. I am lucky...
I am lucky because...
..I have great parents who worked hard just to send to a university.
..I don't have to worry about not having anything to eat the next day or the day after that.
..I have a wonderful husband-to-be who understands me cares for me more than anyone else can.
..I don't have any disability. I can freely run, walk, and talk.
..I have nice and lovable people around me who are worthy of my trust.
..I am still alive and is able to witness the beauty of each day.
..I have a great love story.. :)
BE LUCKY IN YOUR OWN SPECIAL WAY!
