Your parent would help you to buy a house?

Actually still we are living in my old home which is so big and so historical. In india many of the homes are like that only. Coming to new house construction, yes, we are ready to do it, but it will be starts upto my marriage. Now i and my parents are fully concentrated on my studies and career development only. They have been spending lot of money for my engineering studies. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day, God bless you and your family.

I don't know if it is a good idea to live with parents after one marries. One can wait until one is stable before getting married don't you think? But if parents are able to help and want to help, I don't see anything wrong with them helping. When I was growing up, my parents were in no condition financially to help but i know they would have if they could have.

My parents made me save a little from my pay every week, and it was my mother who encouraged me to put a deposite of a flat when I was going to rent a place, I would never have had the courage so I now own my own little house because my parents didn't believe in renting...and it is a good thing as now I have been made redundant it is easier for me because I don't have to pay rent...

Hi dears, In fact I was living the life just like that. Was not from a so well to do family and after my graduation, I was teaching in a school and college for 2 years and when I found there are a lots of internal politics, I left my dream profession and move from my village to the city and where I got a job as technical assistant [in computer awareness] in a women’s university. It was really a nice time, you know – a women’s university with 1000s of girls around. 6 wonderful years I spend there and when I got much difference in salary, I move out from there. Then totally changed my career line and moved to a multinational (worldwide) consulting company. I found good and still pursuing here. But I totally messed up with my financial side. That is why, when people like you all are come with life plans and dram of good life, I always enthusiastically come to your subject to give your insights. I totally failed with my plans as I did a lots of help to others. I took bank loans more than what I can bear and helped some of my friends. They ditched and cheated heavily and run away. So that what I earn is not enough and I have to manage other source to sustain my personal life now. I don’t want to make you people badly saying my levels and it is not the time for it. As you asked, I just I said upto this much. I think I can plan things properly in the coming years and be stable by learning my past experience. Even though I am getting a nice salary, I have to face so much of problems. So, I request you to handle money so carefully and don’t waste it. Whatever you earn is your hard earned money and whenever you spend it, do it wisely and only purchase/shopping, think twice whether it is needed or not. Because we will get whatever we want from the market. So, buy only most needed ones and useful things only. We always keep money reserve in our hands for emergency and urgent needs. I think it is too much to tell a at once and as long as you are here, we can communicate more in detail in the coming discussions. As you said, here is my real photo, I used to replace my avatar for a change and depend on my mood I will post different ones. This is my real photo in avatar. Thank-s

I dont think so, I worked for them and they never saved my money for me and I got out with nothing, no college, no nothing. Now they can't help also because they don't have the money but even if they did I doubt they would help now

hi fjclolazy! i have graduate from university for three years and now i am working far away from my parents.i have a boy friend and we may get married this year.we bought a small department last year with his parents'help. in these days,it's nearly impossible for young people to get a house just by their own earnings in one or two years.if your parents were wealthy enough that it's not hard for them to help ,you could ask them for help.otherwise,it's better to wait until you two have the ability to buy yourselves a house. for the question whether live with parents together,i think ,i prefer not to.but ,i don't want to leave far away,either.for time goes by ,parents grow older and older,i want to take good care of them,spend more time with them.

i would like to stay with parents because we have to look after them in their oldage we cant leave them alone they loved us so much from our childhood and they gave us whatever we wanted they fulfilled our requirements so i would like to say to stay with your parents and i for any reason you go away to stay and buy a new house then you should buy of your own dont ask parents for money because their money they will be needing in their oldage so dont ask them for money for buying house you do it on your own!!

I did not entirely depend on my parents to help me to buy a house but it has become a tradition in our culture that we inherit properties from our parents. My mother gave me landed properties where I build my house even before I got married. Luckily I was born into a well to do grandparents where we did not have to worry about buying houses. Mom in her capacity as the only child is the beneficiaries of all her parents properties and in turn she gave to us what she inherited. She is now in her 70s and last year she gave each one of us two units of town houses which I think will be her final gift to all her 10 children. In turn I gave the houses to my two sons so they don't have to worry about buying a house.

For me yes so that you feel good and your parents too because they know you are good child.

Hi dear, Every country and place there are cultural difference. In our place, once the girl got married, she will be living with the husbands place. Mostly for 1 or 2 year or till they settle down, they will be living the family alongwith other family members and parents. The trend is now changing but still the situation is more or less the same. Also, in our country there are a lot of cultural diversities and depend on community and family the concept is again varies. But now-a-days, all are prefer to be independent. Even parent also would help them to settle down if they require. All depend on person to person. What is your plans after the graduation. So, in short you would pass the exams, look for a job and find a match for you and try to settle down. Good idea and I think you are still matured enough to become a best person still now. Good night. Thank-s

In my culture it is acceptable to live with your parents even if you're past 18 years old or even get married if you can't afford to buy yourself a house. Parents continue to support their children even if they already have a family of their own. We believe charity begins at home. Who would help each other better than our own family? When we were married, my in-laws gave us some money as a gift to spend to our wedding. Half of the expenditures are from our savings. Then when we were married, my mom gave us a piece of land which we built our house. We borrowed some money from my in-laws, relatives and friends to raise the equity required for us to avail of a home loan. My in-laws are really supportive of their children. So, we'll make sure we'll also be that way with our kids. Well you really shouldn't force your parents to give when they aren't capable. So what you can do is look for a good job that will enable you to save for your dream home.

Living with parents after marriage is accepted in most Asian cultures although it is also accepted and well praised if you have the ability to buy your own house or separate from them. Most Asian parents, if they have the means will help their children acquire a house by giving it directly to them, lending money, or thru their connections, but most Asians are also expected to take care of their parents and take them into their homes when they reach old age as sign of gratitude and respect, failure to do so is frowned upon and could be misinterpreted as ingratitude and disrespect. I know some readers would find this a little bit strange especially if you are not familiar with Asian culture but that is just the way it goes for most of us here. I guess you are Asian so I think you can answer the question based on what is accepted in your culture, good luck on your decision after graduation.

As for China, I think buy a house depends on a new couple is not an easy thing. Nowadays, the price of the house rapidly increasing and in some big city, like Beijing and Shanghai, it is nearly impossible to buy a house through one's life! But, I think most Chinese parents are will to help their children to buy a house, especially for the boys. Sometimes there is a saying, that if you don't have a house, you can not get a wife...

When we got married, we bought a house w/c we think would be really affordable for us. So that we can keep up w/ the monthly amortization and need not to ask for help from our parents. We just want our house to result from our own hardwork and since we wanted to start our own family in this house, we want it filled w/ love and bought w/ our hard earned money. :)

I have graduated from college two years ago and i moved out once but have moved back in because i truly cant afford to live on my own. I hope this year me and my boyfriend can geta house of our own and start living together and not having to travel back and forth to each others houses. He now owns his own business and i hope to strt saving money to be ableto put on a down payment for a house this year. It will help us and my parents as well.

Ya,young working adults should save money for 3 things..House , car and health card or insurance , this are important.however house saving can be combine with future husband.Of course girls like to find guys with house and car for stability.It quite normal for parents to help the children for housing.Maybe like down payment either by loan or gift from parents.Loan without interests that it.

Well it is okay to seek help. But my personal stand in that matter is this, before you even step to the life of a married person you should be more than responsible. Marriage is not a game. I would relate myself and my fiance as an example. We are in a relationship for three years now. We are both teachers by then and up to present. These are the reasons why we don't immediately take a leap into marrying: 1. We earn money of our own for the wedding. It isn't nice to get married and still ask from parents. 2. We want to be emotionally and psychologically ready. 3. If we can't afford to buy a house at least be able to rent one at our expense. I personally don't like to live with in-laws or my parents. You know there are family issues that crops up and it's really noisy.... :)

My parents have made it very clear that when i want to buy a house they will not help me as they did it on their own and i will have to as well. I am already saving up money for a house but as i dont make much to begin with it will take some years if i did meat a guy and wanted to get married i think a house would come first rather then spending all the money on a wedding