Where Would I Be without a Caring Husband?

@KrauseHome (36445)

United States

February 23, 2011 7:04pm CST

Do to my issues with having the migraine now for 5 to 6 days straight and emotionally not feeling much better I am glad to have my husband around. First the issues with my wound on my leg acting up again, then having a rash I cannot seem to shake, and now the Bad migraine makes me want to scream for sure. I know I am diabetic and some of the other issues could be stress related as well, but personally when is enough enough? I have had to miss a lot of work this week because of the pain in my head and just wishing there was a better solution as well. Now money is going to be even more tighter since I cannot get to work as well, and so that will topple onto how I am feeling as well. Many times I cry out to god crying "Enough!! I cannot take it anymore." I just sometimes wish life could get back to an easier status to where I feel more Healthy once again. Can anyone else relate? Do you ever just want to give up and scream "WHY ME AGAIN?" I know everything happens for a reason or so they say, but what do you suggest I could think about trying now? ~~TINA~~

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@cher913 (25781)

• Canada

24 Feb 11

i know what you mean. i have fibromyalgia and my hubby is very concerned, helpful and takes really good care of me.

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

27 Feb 11

Well, they are trying to find the real reasoning behind all of my pain. Part of it could be definately due to being Diabetic but somedays it really hurts to walk, etc. They recently ruled out Rhuemetoid arthritis and I am thinking along the lines of Fibromyalgia as well, but waiting to go get diagnosed to see yes or no. But when you have a Caring helping husband it sure helps on the days you hurt the most for sure.

@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

6 May 11

So True. I know I would not be where I am today if not for him, and god.

@ElicBxn (64169)

• United States

24 Feb 11

I wish I could help. How are your sugars running? I know that my diabetic friends get to feeling bad when their sugars get out of whack. Maggiepie spent 3 days in the hospital because her sugars were high. The roomie has to watch that hers become low because of the gastric bypass. Both have had headaches because of too high or too low sugars and if it isn't bad enough, feeling bad can make your sugars go crazy! I know that my blood pressure has skyrocketed when I had migraines - hospitalization high! And my blood pressure is very normal, normally. I'm suspecting that your wound and the rash are symptomatic of high blood sugars. If it is high, try upping the protein you are eating and try to cut out sugars and carbs... but I'm not a doctor and that is where I would be after so many days of non-stop headaches - I'm not used to them anymore!

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

12 Mar 11

Well, this is some Good advise and at times my Blood sugars and my BP are running fairly well when I get the headaches. But then this last migraine I just got also played a part along with my wound getting worse, etc. so it was off to the Doctor again and got something for everything afflicting me as well.

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@Polly1 (12644)

• United States

24 Feb 11

Tina your so blessed with what you have. I know your having it tough right now. Your head hurts, you have other health issues. Try to count your blessings and do your best not to dwell on the crappy stuff going on. I have been talking to you for a long time so I know your thankful for what you have. Focus on that. We all have crap going on, try not to let it get you down. Good luck, hope you feel better and hope that headache goes away and stays away.

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

6 Mar 11

Thanks for your comments my friend. Now that my head is a lot better, and overall some of the problems we have been dealing with look like they are getting better I can honestly say that overall I know that everything is going to be OK. I have a lot to be Thankful for, yes for sure, and to have friends like you here I know I can count on it makes it all worth while for sure.

@writersedge (22563)

• United States

26 Feb 11

Yeah, I feel dragged out from loosing blood and popping iron pills just makes me constipated and makes my hemorhoids worse (more loss of blood). So now the bills for tests and everything are rolling in, still no closer to finding out what's wrong with me. As the bills come in the mail, I have that feeling. I wish my husband was at least working. He's still getting unemployment, but for how much longer? Makes you want to scream. I hope things get better for us soon. Take care.

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

21 Apr 11

Well my friend, even with your more recent Health issues just remember no matter what happens from here, you do have a husband who Loves you, and a god who cares. That is all we can hope for sometimes.

@writersedge (22563)

• United States

24 Apr 11

Very true

@maygodblessu44 (7336)

• India

26 Feb 11

Hello my friend KrauseHome Tina Ji, I would like to add that both 'HUSBANDS AND WIVES' are complementary to each other and as per our customs and traditions we take oath going around fire seven times that we would take care of each other throughout our life. Next remember after nighjt 'DAY' always falls. This is a natural cycle, so just do not worry, try and resist the situation given by Almighty and you will recover soon so taht you can pay back your hubby in same coin. Cheer up. Just do not pay attention towards yupour sickness. Thanks. May God bless You and have a great time.

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

17 Apr 11

Yes, I do believe in what they say in the Marriage vows, and if you really do Love someone you will want to Honor those until the day you die. I know my husband was brought to me for a reason and there are good days. Just glad he is around and willing to help the days that things are not the Best as well.

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@maygodblessu44 (7336)

• India

18 Apr 11

Hello my friend KrauseHome Ji, So nice of you for your immediate and prompt positive comments. I remeber a movie entitled 'DIFFIANT ONE'S' in 1955-56, where two prisoners chined together , one being British and other being African, escaped during transit. They were so much opposite in their behaviour that tyhey usred to spit at each other, but aftyer lioving tigether under Natyural conditions oin jungles, they were so much attatched that when parted, wept for each other. Then compare spouses. It may be little time taht sufferings are tyhere , but a DAWN is certain to come. waity for your chance. hjave patience. Who knows, all your worries must5 have been obver bny now. Thanks. May God bless You and have a great time.

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@macdingolinger (10385)

• United States

24 Feb 11

I am so very sorry that you are going through a tough time. At least you are here at MyLot trying to make some money instead of doing absolutely nothing. I do not have a husband to help me through this tough time I am in so you are actually very fortunate. And if he's working maybe that is something coming in too. I hope you get better soon!

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

27 Feb 11

Thanks for the well wishes. Things are going a lot better for me now, and my head is more back to normal. We are in the process of working on some solutions to some of our Financial stressors and know in time everything will be a lot better for sure. It just takes time and a lot of extra prayer, but thank my husband for the help he can offer everyday for sure.

@Thoroughrob (11742)

• United States

24 Feb 11

I can relate, but you need to calm down and not let yourself get so upset. I am sure the stress is not helping that migraine. I have felt that way, I am glad your husband is there for you. My parents both had a rash that would not go away. It turned out to be a spider bite. They treated them for scabies, hives, nerves. My mom was put on steroids and antibiotics 3 x a day because it had been so long. I hope things turn around soon.

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

28 Feb 11

Well, the migraine seems to be a lot better lately even though I still have a little bit of a stress headache and I think the rash is feeling and looking a little better as well. I know some of this worrying etc, is causing my Blood Pressure to be up, and my nerves to be on edge as well. I just wish for one yr. I could have a stress free health free yr. but know that only God is in charge to bring upon that.

@gabs8513 (48686)

• United Kingdom

26 Feb 11

Yes there can be times I feel like shouting it and have done But I never get an answer Tina I do hope that you will get to feel better soon Hugs

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

21 Apr 11

Thanks my friend. I know with all the many things you go thru in life you are grateful for yours as well. One of these days we can all look back and say it was worth it all, but I never quit telling my husband Thanks for sure.

@jillhill (37353)

• United States

24 Feb 11

Yup...this winter had been so hard on my arthritis....with all the dampness....snow...rain etc my legs hurt so bad sometimes I just want to cry. And it seems like there is nothing to take away the pain...but I can still walk..somedays it's easier then others...you are lucky to have someone to help you through it....just hang in there.....things will get better!

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

17 Apr 11

Thanks for the encouraging words my friend. Yes, this does make it a lot easier since many times the Doctors I have seen seem to not want to take my problems too serious for sure. Hope your problems could get better as well.

@dragon54u (31633)

• United States

24 Feb 11

When I am overwhelmed (and I'm getting to that point again) I remind myself that God never gives me more than He and I can handle together. Read "Footprints", I'm sure you've read it before but do so again. God will help you through this if you ask. And remember, there is ALWAYS someone worse off than you. "I cried because I had no shoes until I saw a man who had no feet"

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

26 Mar 11

Well this is so true. When looking at things in life God does never give us more than we can handle before stepping in. Sometimes you wonder when, but it does happen. And yes, there is always someone out there who is less fortunate than I am as well, and it does make me truly appreciate what I have as well.

@bunnybon7 (50970)

• Holiday, Florida

24 Feb 11

i will pray for you dear. yes i think most everyone here can relate. seems very few people have it good here on earth. probably why so many hold on to a belief in a better life after life.

you know what i mean? yes, my son says that same stupid thing. everything happens for a reason. and if i ever get to see God, im asking why he took my John. so no hubby here to help. life was so much better when he was here.

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

17 Apr 11

Well, there will be many questions a lot of us will want to ask God when we get to Heaven. I think personally this is why Praying and reaching out for others is a plus as well. Even when something happens you have to remember God is in control and praying about something never hurts for sure.

@piya84 (2580)

• India

24 Feb 11

I am sorry you are going through this but atlist you have caring husband on you side.

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

26 Mar 11

That is for sure. I know that no matter what comes my way or our in the end it will be worth it all, and he was able to stand there by my side.

@dorannmwin (36392)

• United States

27 Feb 11

For our family it is actually kind of the opposite of the way that it is for your family. It has been my husband that has been dealing with a lot of health issues over the last year. This involved two surgeries and now ongoing chronic pain (he finally has an appointment with a specialist for this on Wednesday). Well, the last year has been difficult to us because of the medical issues, bills and loss of time at work. I honestly believe that a lesser woman would not have been able to handle this, but I've been supportive through it all.

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

21 Apr 11

Personally it does take a special person to be married and stay married to people who have a lot of Medical issues like this. I hear a lot of people all the time saying they could not do like my husband does. I know what you do for your husband is valued and great things will continue to come.

hardworkinggurl

@hardworkinggurl (37062)

• United States

24 Feb 11

Firstly I am sorry to hear that the darn migraine is a continual flare up for you.

as I know how hard that is to function and have to muddle through just to keep sane. I did not know you were diabetic and do hope your leg issue clears for good. As for you hubby I am happy for you sweetie that he is there supporting you in more ways, especially emotionally as so much stress and tension is enough to drive us mad. I do know what you mean about wanting to completely throw in the towel but I am so mentally exhausted that I simply scream out for strenght. I suppose I feel like I have given up, but to a sense I realize that issues will be a never ending dilemma for more so I will not be able to control them, so I guess when I scream out for strength is so I can cope easier daily. Do that sweeties ask for strength as if we both can get stronger we could actually cope a bit better. I do hope your migraine gets relieved soon as I know that lingering dull pain makes us so mentally exhausted.

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

12 Mar 11

Many times lately I find myself crying out to God for strength and the endurance to help get me thru this. I know that personally this is a lot to handle with everything I have to endure and put my husband thru, and wonder how can we ever get thru it. Have had another episode of migraines again even and life just seems so unfair. But one day looking back I hope it will be worth it all.

@BarBaraPrz (51828)

• St. Catharines, Ontario

24 Feb 11

Sorry to hear your migraine is still hanging on.

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@salonga (27775)

• Philippines

24 Feb 11

That is why your spouse is called your better half. He is there for you and will be with you in good times and in bad. At least despite your health issues your husband is around to care. How much more if your husband is not that caring? At any rate, we should treasure our health so we have to take care of what we eat and our lifestyle as well. You are diabetic and I feel for you. It is hard as I've often heard other diabetic friends of mine and I just could not do anything but pray for them. Anyway,I have one diabetic friend who was able to get over by daily exercise and right diet. I hope you too.

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

28 Feb 11

Well, I am comparable to Type 1, due to other Health issues that have happened in my life, so unless God chooses to heal me I will need Insulin for the rest of my life. I just continue to try and find things to help better my chances of survival and to help lower my sugar levels as well. I am just glad I have a husband who is quite aware and very helpful when need be for sure.

@SIMPLYD (90717)

• Philippines

24 Feb 11

Hush! Don't fret so much! Husbands are made for us , so that when the inevitable happens, they could pitch in to what we cannot do , in addition to caring for us. Just make sure you are taking those medications needed for you diabetes and follow your doctor's advise religiously on how to better manage your diabetes. My father is a diabetic too, but he is able to manage it well.

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@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

28 Feb 11

Thanks for your comments. As for taking the meds for my Diabetes I do take them daily as directed. I have also learned that many times it is Best to be proactive and keep on top of things no matter what happens for then it is Best time to report on it as well.