would you take back a cheater?

People change you know. Maybe he has realized his mistakes and is willing to make up for all his wrongs. Maybe he has realized how much he truly loves you. put your legs in his shoes. All i am saying is, just give it a try, say put him on some kind of probation.

Its a very difficult situation,to take any decision. Because you mind will say that "No,I will not give him chance." ,but still your heart will say " I think he is saying truth , and has changed forever.I may and should give him a chance." So there are two opposite answers deriving,which make the fial decision hard to take. I will suggest you, don't take any decisions at hurry.Just observe him , notice him , ask for time from him, and in that judge him totally and completely.After that, it will be somwhat better to know then, what to do next. Hope it helps.

hi chiyosan, Uhmmm... that's hard to answer since I don't know your boyfriend personally.. even if I know him it won't be easy to instantly say, yes! take him back. The past will lose your trust in him and you will always have suspicion and all. It could also be a topic and debate whenever you both have misunderstanding, in other words the past will always be brought up in the present. It is hard to say yes to a cheater even if he said he is a change man. The question is, are you willing to give him a chance? If you really really do love him then, yes it is still worth a try. But if you're starting to have doubts then, think twice or maybe thrice. Happy Lotting!

Never, I find girls who does it really stupid, specially if they don't have kids. I would of course try to forgive or I would be the one to suffer cause hate doesn't take us anywhere, but not forget, and I'm sure a cheater always strikes again.

I could not forgive him, even if we have one child together, I would not forgive him, and maybe I break us immediately so that I could not watch it too. .Perhaps there are women who are maintained by their men, and if they would part with them, could not survive alone and then must "forgive" but I do not think they really and truly sorry that I can love you "after "- the man next to them.

I would never take back a cheater. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Learn from your mistakes. Be wiser, know better. Save yourself from the heartaches. Don't take him back. It's like picking a huge rock to whack your own head. Second chances doesn't work...believe me.

I've been in this situation. I've dated a cheater than broke up and went back to him again. not a good idea without proof that he/she has truly changed. I just took his word for it. that was dumb on my part.

Hi. chiyosan. No. I can't do it. I can't give him another chance, it just would not be right for me to.

my answer depends on me and my situation and my personality. i think decisions vary because there are many factors in every relationship. no two is perfectly alike. if that happens to me, i would not take him back anymore. i would just give him a chance to possibly do that to me again.

Hi sweetie. For me, no. I won't. I believe if they cheated you once they will do it again. Just my feelings about this. TATA.

I won't take him back just like that. I don't buy the "I'll do this just for you" drama. If he wants to change, then he'll change because it's the right thing to do and because that is good for himself. Let him fix himself first before he shares himself with me. Everybody deserves a second chance anyway. And he's got to earn my trust first.

I will never ever in a million years take someone who cheated on me. I really feel strongly about this because my father cheated The on my mother. I feel no respect for any man who cheats. People who say that they just made a mistake and say that you are the one who they truly love are a bunch of of you know what. Cheating is just not a mistake. It's not like you crashed the car and saying sorry will make everything OK. It a betrayal and once the trust is ruined then it will never really be the same. It's very rare for a relationship to overcome cheating. You will always be reminded of what he did and you will never get to trust him again even if you want to.

It would depend on the individula situation, but I do believe that sometimes people change. Maybe when you walked out of his life, that was enough to make him want to be a better person and he realized what he had in you and maybe he genuinely wants to try to make it work out. The bottome line for me is that people can and do change for the better.

Before you consider the "cheating" part, ask yourself if you really love him that much to let him enter your carefree life again. If you still love the person, check your heart if you are really willing to start all over again and forget the bad things (cheating) that happened, because if you will only dwell w/ the bad things of the past, it'll be not worth it and it would just be a waste of time and effort for the both of you.

I tend to think once a cheeter always a cheater so no if someone cheated on me I would never take them back. Being cheated on would hurt horrible I wouldnt want to risk going through that again. If they cheat on me its their fault if I take them back and they do it again then its sort of my fault for allowing them back in my life and expecting that they will change.

Personally, I think that I might have a hard time doing it. It's really difficult for me to say, as I've never really been in this situation. I would still probably think that I wouldn't.

I am a firm believer that everyone deserves a second chance. A cheater may cheat again but then again they may not. It is not fair to judge so i would give a cheater another chance. If i am proven wrong, then I am.

Hi.. I would never ever take someone back. Especially that you've already move on. It has never happened to me before but I heard a lot of stories like that with my friends. And so I told my lover to do almost everything but not cheating. Because I will never forgive him. :)

it depends..theres a loy of instances where a person could cheat you. maybe another person is involved and it makes you think that he cheated you.just confront him.