If a teacher and a student fall in love each other do you think it's a problem?

@zhouxi (1754)
China
February 26, 2011 10:55pm CST
If in high school or in university .A teacher and a student fall in love each other.do you think it's a problem?do they should be blamed or encouraged or should be treated ordinary?
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@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
27 Feb 11
Hi zhouxi, Teacher student love affair is not uncommon, specially in the university level. We term this as Helen syndrome. Talking about the people in university - if the teacher is single and the student is not too junior to him and if they understand each other, they can settle as husband and wife. When I just joined my college there were so many girls trying to impress me with this card or that gift. But I was determined that at any cost I would not marry my direct student. As a whole there is no problem. Is anybody in the mind?
@zhouxi (1754)
• China
27 Feb 11
Haha, you are so attractive.
@zhouxi (1754)
• China
27 Feb 11
A professor married a girl who could be his daughter in our university.she is his direct student.
@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
27 Feb 11
So what she is a student.? You marry my student becomes same as you have married your own student and the circle keeps on going.
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@thatgirl13 (7295)
• South Korea
27 Feb 11
According to me, i think it's perfectly Ok
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
27 Feb 11
If your girl falls in love with her teacher,you would agree with them?
• South Korea
27 Feb 11
ACtually i'm not married and don't have kids right now but i would definitely agree. It's not an uncommon thing, nor a bad thing. And if i fell in love with my teacher and wanted to marry him, i'm sure my mom wouldn't mind too coz love is a difficult thing to find =)
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
27 Feb 11
you feel confident if you study at high school, your parent would agree with you?
• Indonesia
8 Mar 11
I think it is not wrong, as long as they are in reasonable limits, and teachers are not married. treat them like any other in love, because in fact many are already married.
@zhouxi (1754)
• China
8 Mar 11
that's all right in college.but in high school it's a problem.
• Indonesia
8 Mar 11
It also does not matter because it happened on my friend. he'd be willing to wait for his students (his girlfriend) to graduate school, they married two years later. That's the name of love, willing to wait for his beloved.
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
8 Mar 11
bless them.
@zandi458 (28107)
• Malaysia
27 Feb 11
Love is a powerful force that is unstoppable. It is seamless and comes uninvited. I don't see any problem for love to bloom between a teacher and her student.
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
27 Feb 11
I don't want blame true love.but could it lasted or fit for teacher's professional ethics?
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@zandi458 (28107)
• Malaysia
27 Feb 11
Of course it is unethical and unprofessional of a teacher to entice his student. It will jeopardize the student's studies if the love affair continues.
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
27 Feb 11
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Feb 11
Hi zhouxi, I know love is blind and knows no boundries. It can happen between any two person, and now a days even both males or females too. About a student and a teacher, well teaching is a very respectable profession and age difference between student and teacher is too much and what you are trying to tell high school ie student is teen ager so it is usually infatuation which teacher can easily tell him/her to move on. Teaching profession is based on trust parents have on teacher that they are giving future of their children in right hands and if teacher starts loving students, then the whole trust on teaching community breaks. SO i am against it.
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
27 Feb 11
yes,i also disgree that high school teachers could accept their students' love .they are too young to know the really meaning of love.In college,may be It's shouln't be blamed.i know some of them get married and lived a happy life.for the special reason.college teacher loves student may voilate the rule of justice in exam .
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Feb 11
Even if he or she is a college student, she is still very imamture at 18 or so and can be easily swopped of feet , it is like a doctor and patient, patients do fall in love with their docs, does it mean you let doc bed every female he manage to impress. There has to be some morals esxp for teachers because they are the one who install the morals in future generations in the society.
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
27 Feb 11
• India
21 May 11
i personally feel,there is nothing wrong in this,because they both(student and teacher) are major's and they are mature enough to take there decisons which will effect there life.and i feel high school teachers are soo hot.lol
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
21 May 11
Are you a high school teacher?
• India
22 May 11
nope,can i know why are u asking this?
@Bellapop (1280)
29 May 11
I think there is definitely problem with this, but it also depends on the circumstances. If so, for example, and you were talking about two adults who were relatively the same age, say, in their forties and fifties, perhaps less such a taboo, but still they must wait until their formal teacher-student relationship finishes before anything personal happens, that is the best way if they are looking to develop relationship. In circumstances where it is between an adult teacher and a school pupil, then this is very significant issue. The school pupil may be infatuated with the teacher look up to him or her, but it can never develop into the sort of romantic relationship that society is ever to accept. And it is not just conforming to the ideals of society, it is an issue of protecting that vulnerable individual, the school pupil. The adult teacher should know better, and is in a position of trust and authority, with reasonable logic and thought that teachers should be able to behave in a way that commands respect and authority, i.e. not encouraged pupil in any way and to conduct his manner professionally. If the teacher falls for the pupil, you have to really think about whether teachers still capable of being a role model to students, a lot of ethical issues come in to debate and seriously, how could a responsible teacher ever fall for one of his pupils?
@zhouxi (1754)
• China
30 May 11
yes,especially in high school.I'm not agree with that high school teacher could do so.
@syoti20 (5293)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
I have encountered this incident way back in high school to my fellow classmate. Student-Teacher relationship is forbidden. Many parents and teachers disagree on this case. Ending the Teacher resign to the school and the love affair continues for the Teacher look for another school. Controversy between the two stopped after that.
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
21 Mar 11
If they have true love,they could continue after graduate.
• Saint Lucia
28 Feb 11
Well to be quite honest i dont agree but there is a possibility that it can happen and high school students can love their teachers.If you can remember the story of the American teacher who chose her student over her husband and they had a child together and even after the arrested and sent her to prison the guy waited until she was free. Some people are just meant to be.I am not supporting such behaviour but what can we do?.It depends on the both of them. I would not allow my daughter to be with her teacher.Its just wrong.
@zhouxi (1754)
• China
1 Mar 11
That's in high school.It will change when in college /university.
@youless (107842)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Feb 11
Yes, I think this is a problem. If a teacher and a student fall in love, then the teacher may not be fair to make an judgment because their relationship is lovers. And the student is still too young, it is better for him/her to focus on the study. As you know when a person is fallen in love, he/she will be very emotional. I love China
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
28 Feb 11
I think so.
@larrychen (165)
28 Feb 11
If in high school, it may be too early for the student to fall in love with the teacher. After all, they are still teenagers and not so sure about love. There is also a great age difference. It's not easy for two people with different ages and growing experiences to understand each other well enough. But the fact is love is blind and it's just a feeling which sometimes may be out of our control. If in the university, it may happen for both the student and teacher to fall in love. Because the students in the college have been 18 years old, and they have got their own thoughts. So, it's their own choices about whom to love.
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
28 Feb 11
many people would worry about the justice of the teacher.
@doggydimon (1371)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
If enemies can be lovers why not a teacher and a student? I see nothing wrong with that kind of relationship. I know of someone whose father and mother is like that. I think the only one who gives malice to this kind of relationship are those people around them.
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
28 Feb 11
I would like bless them.wish they could happy and don't have bad effect to others.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
if it's really true love , they'd wait until the student finishes studies so the relationship could be "legal", know what i mean? it's always unethical for a teacher to have a relationship with a student publicly I mean... I'm sure a lot of people won't approve of that...but relationships are like gambling. you never know if this time you'll win or you'll lose, so you can never really tell if it's something good or bad until it turns out to be something...
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
28 Feb 11
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
In the Philippines, if it's in a high school that would definitely be a problem but in a university, it depends on the school rules. In the university where I came from it is okay, as long as it would be discreet. I even knew a male teacher who had a relationship with a student from other department.
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
28 Feb 11
yes,many cases in university.many of them live a happy life.
@Des_diva (56)
• Trinidad And Tobago
28 Feb 11
i think the only problem with that situation is that sometimes the student may feel that he/she can get away with anything, probably start to disrespect (not intentionally), when you have bedroom disagreements you probably will not be able to leave it there because they have an intimate relationship with the teacher, and the student may not participate as usual, as well it could be a weird feeling the person your sleeping with is teaching you. But in the law of science there is the exception. I do not know of anyone that married from that or the relationship went on for long. But you never know where you find love so why not.
@zhouxi (1754)
• China
28 Feb 11
@elisse27 (181)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
I think this situation should not happen in any level especially in the secondary level of school. This would give problem to both the student and the professor/teacher. I f they are really inlove with each other,the other should give up or give way or just wait for the student to finish studies so that no issues to both of them
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
28 Feb 11
yes.if they love each other.it's not too late to continue.
@amirev777 (4119)
• India
27 Feb 11
Hi There's a saying that love is blind and it knows no barrier like age, religion, race, country, etc. So a student and a teacher can very well fall in love. The best looking girl in our school, fell in love with one of our teachers, who was 11 years older and they got married and are doing fine.
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
28 Feb 11
In college?bless them!
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
This looks like a scene form the TV series Pretty Little Liars where the English teacher falls in love with one of his students and the student likes the teacher too. I think it would be very complicated for the two of them since the teacher has to keep his integrity so as not to lose his authority tot he other students, People may think that he is favoring his student-girlfriend or something. It's still better to keep things professional between them while they are still in school. And when the right time comes (like when the student graduates), then love will find its way back if they are really meant for each other. Love has its own time and it is the sweetest when it is cultivated at the right time.
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
28 Feb 11
yes,otherwise it's fragile.
@elmiko (6633)
• United States
27 Feb 11
yes, but only if the teacher is a guy,lol.
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
27 Feb 11
@sender621 (14918)
• United States
27 Feb 11
A romance between a teacher and a student is going to be filled with confusion. There will be people that don't understand their relationship. It might be seen by others that they are taking advantage of each other in the name of education . their true feelings for each other might be something swept aside. I don't think this relationship needs encouragement and it is not fair to place blame either. Consideration has to be taken in for thoughts of such a relationship.
@zhouxi (1754)
• China
27 Feb 11
It's difficult to judge.