my mini emotional con-artist strikes again lol...

@nadooa247 (1096)
United States
February 27, 2011 8:12am CST
My little boy of 2 years has taken up a adorable habit that makes saying no or getting angry close to impossible! I hit the back of his hands and restrain him when he starts throwing himself on the ground and/or hitting his own face/head! He does this when he doesn't get what he wants and thankfully my insisting on not giving in works.. his new method? He sees me upset or angry with him.. he rushes at me with those tiny hands stretched out hugs and plants a big drool covered kiss on my face! IT IS ADORABLE.. and I can't help but hug him back and kiss him.. but the alternative for his cute behavior is screaming and hurting himself till he gets what he wants which sometimes is dangerous for him.. (like playing with the stove and such). Question is what do i do when he isn't being Mr. hugs and kisses and decides to be a mini terror out of hell?
2 responses
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 11
I know many little boys of 2 years old don't like the word 'no'. They moan around when it is said to them. Therefore I use positive language when my little boy used to throw things I said "Hands in your lap". Then he did this and calmed down due to my gentle tone of voice. I suggest you have a buggy out with you and if your son throws himself on the ground you pick him up and fasten him in the buggy. You could say "Now sit down". You should say it in a gentle tone of voice. If you son begins hitting his own face or neck you should say "Hands away, please be gentle". You could gently move his hands away to assist him. You need to get into the habit of giving your son praise for the good things that he does. Then hopefully he will end up wanting to make you his mommy smile. You need to put safety catches in your kitchen. When your son is a little older you can have a mat where he will take time out when necessary. He should have the number of minutes for his age. You need to get your son to behave well now or he will be very challenging for you when he is older. The age group two years to three and a half years can be difficult. It is called the terrible twos. I am a primary school teacher. My baby daughter is 21 months old, my disabled son is almost 4 years old and my teenage son is almost 16 years old. Good luck.
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
26 Mar 11
You are right he does go nuts when someone says no... strapping him down and all your other advice is very much appreciated :) i already do the positive reinforcement at times i must admit i find myself going into the no phase again.. i celebrate every little thing he does lol.. he now searches for garbage in the house to throw in the garbage can so he can get hugs and kisses:P (picks up the bits of food he dropped when trying to eat:P) Thank you for your well thought out response :)
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
28 Feb 11
Everybody wants to rule the world. Kids are smart. This one is doing a pretty good job. If you give in to his demands, you are teaching him this is the way for him to get what he wants. Wishy washy never gets it. Tell him no cartoons when he acts like this. Missing a few cartoons or maybe a favorite desert will teach him the consequences aren't worth the actions. Kids are very smart. They teach us many things. We must out think our kids or it's going to be a long road ahead.
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
5 Mar 11
Well i do take away his toys.. restrain him (holding him against me with his back to my chest and try to talk him down..) but he doesn't seem to get it at times.. :( as for restricting him from his toons he could care less he IS 2 but still doesnt understand that type of punishment. He seems to get taking away his toys or scoldings and such. Thank you for the advice Bird, but i could do with more good advice.. im still having this problem with him :(