why do we have the tendency to fall out of love?

Hi fellow sg-rean, There are many possible scenario, for now consider the following few to go along with your discussion: a. start out as friends and continue as friends - platonic friendship b. start as friends, on to lover, (on to marriage), happy ever after c. start as friends, on to lover, (on to marriage), takes each other for granted The ones in bracket may or may not need to happen, so you see there are actually countless scenarios. For (a). you know that you can trust each other without taking each other for granted because there is no over-rated expectation. For (b), this is a rare event. Somehow (c) is more likely. We tend to think that the longer people stick around us, they should also know how we think. When they don't, we think they are not understanding, therefore misunderstanding happens. It takes effort to make love work. Love is not a feeling. Love is a decision to make things work regardless. Courtship is the lovey-dovey ideas in the beginning of love, but it cannot last. Last requires real work to make it happen. Have you ever considered the bible's definition of love? It is found in 1 Cor 13:4-13. Famous words to live by. Do not cast unrealistic expectation on your partner, then you won't be disappointed. Tell him the same too. Wishing you all the best in your love, and maybe catch you in orchard road, happily courting...hehe..

I don't think it is a myth, I feel that love changes, whether you are going to change with it, that is the question.

Sometimes i think we fall into too much routine in our lives. We need spontaneity to keep the spark alive. without that spark, we can find ourselves falling out of love and not caring about what comes next.

For me because of not content to your husband even if he are not good to you since he is good in you for the beginning then at the end is change.

I think love is very hard to define. You just feel it. Even older people can't define love bacause it's a feeling u just knew when you feel it. About falling out of love, maybe you thought you love that person and even came to a point that you marry them but it is not really love that you feel. If you really love the person you can accept whatever she does and just tries to understand.

i think a majority of the people who use the word love don't know what it means. a lot of people mistake being in love with their partner for being in love with the idea of being in love. i think most people who claim to be in love - especially early on in a relationship -are deeply in lust the two feelings feel almost exactly the same. the difference lies in how long it lasts. if you are only lusting someone the feelings will soon begin to fade. when you are truly in love the feeling is just as intense a year later and 5 yrs later, and maybe 10 yrs. if you're really lucky.

If you truly loved someone then you'd never fall out of love. They may do things to make you mad but love should be love and that shouldn't end. If you've lost that loving feeling then you have to think about the reasons why you were drawn to that person. Maybe it was just attraction or lust and not really love in the true sense, the universal sense. Love for humanity, love for family. Why does "romantic" love have to be different? If you choose to love just love and only love. If you choose to lust then that doesn't last.

Love for me is a mystery even I almost crashed thinking of the right definition of love. Those who are inlove can define well the meaning of it but those who do not believe dont know the true meaning of it. As for me i can say that love is so really a magnet inside us the who catch up us will magnet our heart into falling inlove. In love there is no old and young married or single and no calculations and measurement. This is shapeless and we cannot pretend of when and how it will come. But one thing is it is happy to be inlove.

Because love is fleeting like all other emotions. Once you see it, the next time you don't. But being in love is a decision. We can not just be in love because we feel it, we must decide to stay with it no matter what especially when we have made a promise to that person and to the One from above. Love should be a commitment and not a passing fancy. So, why do we fall out of love? Because we are disillusioned thinking that love is a box of chocolates and a bed of roses. We expect more than we deserve. And when such expectations don't get satisfied, the tendency is we feel sad, disappointed which lead to ultimately backing out from love.

u r talking about love in a personal way,in unconditional love there is no falling in or out love ur just love because u r that magnet of the universe that was created by love so there is no falling in and out of it,the bottom line with personal love is we have gotten use to each-other so a break now and then can help to keep that flame alive that started the ignition in the 1st place,space in relationships work,i know i have a 10year old relationship and it works so much better for us when we r apart but together,space helps to keep it alive,

Love is a complicated word to define because the meaning changes based on the people. People tend to show love a little bit different then other people. Not every relationship you build is love some of them are just flings. If it was really love then you would've lasted forever. Love is a nice feeling that doesn't go away.

Hi jpaxxx21, Love is something you have to work at to keep it alive. Try going somewhere for the weekend. Do something to bring that love back. Love is a full time job sometimes. If you have kids get a babysitter and do something wild with your mate. Spice up your life bring back the love in your life. Make a date like you to have never met before. There are so many ways. Just think of the first time you met. Good luck in falling back into love.