Love from a distance

Saint Lucia
February 27, 2011 10:08am CST
There is this guy that i met online almost three years ago and we have been communicating off and on.I was without a computer for a year and just got back online and now we have been chatting longer and more personal.He said that he is becoming fond of me and i think i am attracted to him.He is sweet and seems like the kind of guy i would enjoy being with.We have never met but seen each other on webcam.He has promise to visit me since we live far apart.I am eager to meet him but is a bit scared.DO you think its possible to love someone from a distance?Or am i kidding myself thinking we can grow to love each other?I do feel a pull towards him.What should i do?
11 responses
• United States
27 Feb 11
My boyfriend and I met online. I moved here after talking to him for 4 months. I think that if you guys can both trust eachother then it should be ok. Now, if you plan on staying where you both live then I don't know how well that is going to work because love is about being with that person and knowing everything about them. Their sleep habits, eating habits, what they do on days off from work, those kinds of things. Also, being in love usually goes on to starting a family and how are you going to have a family if you are on opposites side of the world/country? I'm not saying you have to both decide right now, see where the relationship goes and how you guys act together when he does come to visit you. I think there is hope for you guys but you have to have a light at the end of the tunnel, where you guys decide, yes this is going to work out between us so what are we going to do about our living arrangements, or no it's not so we are fine where we are at. Good Luck and Happy loving! :)
• Saint Lucia
27 Feb 11
Thanks so much for giving me hope.I am happy for you guys.We are just getting involved like that and i am willing to see where it takes us.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
That was a problem of so many inlove at long distance affair because we don't know if they are sincere to their words. That situation really hurt us because we are inlove by their words online and we dont have any assurance that they will love us too. but we can feel also them by their words as we can imagine ourselves running hurriedly to the front of our computer and eager to see them on cam missing him terribly. Thinking when we meet him. All you can do is just wait and see what will happen and being inlove with the person in a long distance is not bad. This is a feelings that no one could stop us to feel. As long as we can handle our selves in the long run situation well go on and be happy.
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
I agree with your view especially on the part of handling oneself. Love and express everything online as you can but also be ready for any consequence or whatever outcome in the future. Everything can change in an instant when the two person meets personally.
@larrychen (165)
28 Feb 11
It's not easy for a love beginning from the internet come into being a real relationship in our life. After all, it's different between to chat with some one and to live with some one. It's nice that you are going to meet each other in the real life. Love is really a great feeling having nothing to do with distance or what country you come from. But a relationship does. Since both of you have attraction to each other, there may be such a possibility for you to come together at the end as long as you work hard for this. But you know that there is so long a way to go for you two. Every experience of love is worth cherishing, so just be brave to meet him and love him. Everything will turn out as time flows, as you know each other better and better. Good luck for you.
@AnnaDine (92)
• Denmark
27 Feb 11
I think you should see him in real life, before you start a relationship. Because it isn't always the same kind of person you rite to, as you see in real life. It's just my experience. But have you ever called him and talked to him? How far is it away?
• Saint Lucia
27 Feb 11
Well we are planning to meet sometime soon.He live long distance away.I live in the caribbean and he in the USA.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
27 Feb 11
There is love at distance as long as there is mutual trust. If you really love and feel is chosen, only to endure a life and you know that you and beside you.And you have to think that every minute spent away from him, I have it multiplied, then when you are together.
• Saint Lucia
27 Feb 11
This is so true.I think long distance love is as special as any.
@kh_rabbe (195)
• Bangladesh
28 Feb 11
I dont know what to say. May be it's good or it's not as i have heard both that it's good and bad. One of my friend found his life-partner from net and one of my friend was cheated my a female through net. So it's really hard to say what's wrong and good. But as the person still with you than i think he's a good man and it can be good for you.
• India
28 Feb 11
I think you should love him. Just listen to your heart what it says. Dont be scared. Its possible to love someone from a distance also. I feel you are not kidding at all. U are matured enough to take a call.
• Singapore
28 Feb 11
I can't really comment much because I do not have long distance love experience before. But it is a blessing to be in love, irregardless of distance.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
28 Feb 11
Yes, it's possible cause up to know me and my partner are miles away. We've been distant for 7 years and up to know we do love and trust each other. It is normal to both couple to think that one of you are playing or not sincere but as long as you both trust each other and the feelings are true i guess love will grow and each day distance will no longer an issue. Before you enter in to that kind of relationship i guess you are already aware of the consequences.
@dheckerz (473)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
Wait till you meet and get a chance to spend time with each other. Sometimes it's good to establish a relationship online first then meet the person because it is totally different. If you really are inlove with each other that's great. And i guess long distance relationship is very possible for two individuals who are committed to love each other.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
Love can do happen even if you have not seen the person yet but in constant communication with each other. You will soon find out whether it's really love if you meet him in person. Before i cannot seem to understand people falling in love online but it seems that the number of couples online are increasing and i have witnessed such love to happen everywhere. So i'm just wishing you luck and be happy with what you have!