Continue to study or get married?

Vietnam
March 1, 2011 1:52am CST
Continue to study or get married? That is the question which my close friend asked me. He graduated from a college. After that, he studied more to grow up university. Finally, he got the IT engineer certificate. It took 5 years. Now, he is studying more about finance and banking. This course will take about 2.5 years until he'll graduate from it. He has not worked in the time when he was studying. And all fees were provided by his parents. He is 28 years old. And he asked me that he should continue to study or get married now? What can I say in this situation?
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14 responses
• Malaysia
2 Mar 11
The best thing is to get both. I mean shooting two birds with one stone, to marry his lecturer/academic supervisor. Why not? So that he can easily reach up to the next level for Ph.D. That is the strategic life planning and be a must do if I am in his shoes.
• Malaysia
4 Mar 11
hahaha! so why he is thinking about getting marry? I think your friend now having conflict of interests making him indecisive for which one to takes first. Whatever, the best thing for him to take is to each his own.
• Vietnam
4 Mar 11
I don't think that he can does your advices. Getting married and studying need very much money. How can he does them when they don't have a stable job now? And he have not had enough money to pay his school fees?
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• China
1 Mar 11
My suggestion is that he should get mairried!Because he is 28 years old,but all fees were provided by his parents!Oh,my,god,in my impression,a 28 year-old man is earning for himself or his family now,but he is still putting pressure on his parents.After,he get married,he can earn money for his family!
• Vietnam
4 Mar 11
If I'm him, I won't get married. I'll get a good job and earning some money first. I think that a 28 years old man should have a stable job and income in order that he can care his parents and his family better.
• Philippines
7 Mar 11
You can still make money in marriage...
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
1 Mar 11
if i'm in ur situation then i'll suggest him to do job first and then he can marry but if still he still wanna continue his studies then he do it a part-time education along with his job, but he is already 28 so first tel him to search for a job and then lead him to have a happy life ahead!!!!
• Vietnam
4 Mar 11
Thank you. I hope that he'll like these advices from me. But as me, I think you're right.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
2 Mar 11
It would depend on the situation. If he has someone now, or would like to be married, then I would say "Go for it". If not then 2 and a half years really isn't that long. Women need to get married sooner so they can bear children, but for men it doesn't matter. He will still be young after his studies are done.
• Vietnam
4 Mar 11
Yes, you're right that man have many chances to study more than women. However, I like him working to feed himself first.
@kakvo35 (78)
• Bulgaria
1 Mar 11
I prefer to continue study and then get married, because then you can find better job
• Vietnam
4 Mar 11
I think that my friend is same you. But he afraid about his age!
• United States
1 Mar 11
You need to ask yourself how much do you love this person and whether you can be with him throughout the two and a half years that he has to go through school. Remember that he will not have any financial support, only school support from parents. That is definitely one thing to consider. If you can deal with that, then it is better to just have a quick marriage now so he can get started on his studying. Maybe celebrate when he is finished with his studies.
• Vietnam
4 Mar 11
I have not just asked him about this. I think that he want to study more in order that he can look for the best job in the future. However, his age is high and he loves that girls. So, I want to choose between them.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
weird ok i mean he has all these degrees and he has not work???? is he stupid or something! lol cmon he has all the credentials he want to work! hahahaha plus he is 28 and still relying on his parents??? what the heck... hahaha i mean tell him to get a life! find himself WORK,and he can study while he work and also get married if he wants to..crazy hahahaha
• Vietnam
4 Mar 11
He also work, but his income is not stable. I don't understand much more about his thought. So, I must ask you on Mylot.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
hello, So you were saying that your friend doesn't has any work/job right this moment,and wants to get married? Okay,how can he gets married when he doesn't has a work to sustain a married life? He needs to have a stable job first and has his own house for his planned family in the future. He should think if his kids future before getting married. Married doesn't stop with just two person living together,sooner or later they will have kids and that makes the financial status stable then,for education,health and other things. Tell your friend to think all of these things before jumping into situation that he will be regretting after. Have a nice day
• Vietnam
4 Mar 11
Yes, you're right. Thank you for your advices. I'll say to him. But you know, there are many men here getting married before they can buy a new house or a stable job with their parents. I think because this so he has that thoughts.
@watergirl (567)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
further studies or marriage? I think your friend should be looking for a job! He is 28 and still relies on his parents for his studies. By this time, he should be working and paying his own tuition. Unless his parents are so rich that they are the ones giving him the options to study more or get married soon, then I can understand his situation. Even then, your friend should consider building a career even for personal growth and to "put to test" all the knowledge he has gained from years of study.
• Vietnam
4 Mar 11
Thank you. Your advices are same mine. I think that we should use all things which we learned to work. If not, we'll be waste them. He is not young for dreams. He should see on fact life.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 Mar 11
I think to study, our knowledge can't be taken by no one ever, now if we can get married and continue study fine, now if we can't the best thing is to choose studyings.
@RamRes (1723)
• Argentina
8 Mar 11
They are independent things, he can study while being married, he can do both things or none at all, but there are two independent choices for your friend to make. Whatever he decides, I think he, being 28 and thinking about marriage, should find a job ASAP. It always comes an age in every man and woman life when someone should find it's own work and earn it's own money and life, and 28 years old is more than enough for that. Having already a degree and planning on another one is a good enough study to get a good job, but the lack of experience may be a serious drawback, more considering his age, so better hurry before it's too late. To the discussion again, it depends on what he likes to do. Only he knows if he and his girlfriend are ready for being married, in that case I would consider the marriage. About the studies, it depends again on his will and on his free time his future new job will leave for him, and the time he may want to dedicate to his wife. But in any case, it's not about studying OR getting married, because they are separate things and can be taken one, none, or both if he really wants to.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
5 Mar 11
I think it's better to continue her studies and then get married. Will be able to take a job and no longer dependent on his parents.
• India
7 Mar 11
First he must find a job.He can continue study along with a job.After he found his financial status is sound ,he can think of marriage.
@cgoo1980 (45)
3 Apr 11
Study anytime also can study. If got a good girlfriend why not working 1st then follow by married then only decide for study. It's time to pay back to his parents, don't expect parent pay until your fren 32 yrs old. It's time to be realistic, please work and pay back parents first.