Friends = Enemies
By freymind
@freymind (1351)
Philippines
March 3, 2011 3:07am CST
i'm sad right now because a few friends of mine are quarreling and having a fit with each other and it makes me sick to be able to talk to them but they can't talk to each other. I mean seriously. those people are all my friends and yet they think of each other as enemies and doesn't want to talk to each other to make peace.
they even sometimes make it worst than before. i've already given them advice but I think I have failed. what should i do next? i'm so confused actually. 
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7 responses
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
Just be neutral to both parties. Never ever give an opinion to either of the parties, because it might be misconstrued as otherwise.
Try to reconcile them by letting them talk peacefully with each other. If they really are irreconcilable, then just stay neutral.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
11 Mar 11
Friends does not equal to enemies. NOt all our friends end up being our enemies because enemies can end up being our friends too. WHen there's just a difference in opinion, that won't make them our enemies overnight. Everybody has their own thoughts and views to things, so we can't possibly expect them to think on the same wavelength like us. U might be feeling awful, stuck between them, but there's only so much u can do too. Just let them be and things will be solved eventually.
@julise (494)
• Indonesia
3 Mar 11
fight doesnt always mean a bad thing.
when they get through this, it'll make the friendship stronger than ever.
you did what you had to do.
now, you need to give them space.
dont take side. keep in the middle.
keep objective.
they'll think it on their own.
they need the time
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
6 Mar 11
This is something that I've encountered many times in my life and it is something that led me to the realization that I cannot have all of my friends in the same circle because there are a lot of times that friends end up quarrelling. That said, I have two friends that I am pretty close to right now and ironically, neither of them have ever met each other. And, this is really what is the best for me because I don't want them to be friends because it just makes things too confusing.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
My friend is in the same situation as you do. I know you may be able to give them advices for them to reconcile but as of the moment, its still depending on them if they would really go for the reconcilation. What my friend did about it is that she let things happened the way it will be but she did pray always that things would go well soon. Hopefully things would go well for your friends.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
7 Mar 11
I think the best thing you could do is not to change how you look at both. Treat each as your friend, but stay away from whatever issues they have. Let them sort it out for themselves. After some time, ask if you could mediate between them once in a while, but don't push it. If they don't want to resolve their issues, then it is certainly not your place to resolve it for them.
@lilaclady (28206)
• Australia
3 Mar 11
All you can do is be friends with both maybe at different times but what ever you do don't trash the other one to which ever one you are with... and then maybe oneday they will be friends again..tell them life is too short, a friend of mine passed away not long after we made up after a tif..I don't know how I would have been if she passed away when we were not friends....be there for them both until they work it out...








