saving relationship

Before my husband and I got married, we broke up because he was extremely jealous and I just couldn't stand it anymore. Then I met someone and fell in love with that person. My husband came back and begged for my love which I took back out of pity. He swallowed his pride and even accepted the fact that I was dating another man too. In the long run, my husband won me over and we got married. That's what he did to save our relationship.

i could really relate to this... saving my relationship was really hard... ive been lied and cheated by my partner..knowing that she courted my close friend in high school and his bestfriend's friend... i don't know if he had done this many times.. but i caught him twice or thrice... and through it all i begged him to stay and changed because he said he has done this because of my attitude.. even if it wasn't my fault... i guess when your in a relationship there really comes a point that one partner is not that inlove anymore while the other is madly, deeply inlove... so one should not give up, how would you know if it's all worth fighting for ..when the the two of you already gives up? but right now.. im still here saving and trying to forget everything, maybe ill do everything to save our relationship, but if the time comes that my heart will be too tired ..then he can't blame me anymore...

You're right, most people and even I, always want to save or even make the relationship to last. For me, commitment to the relationship and trust to our partners are the vital elements in a relationship. There are some things that no matter how we valued them, but still it slips from our grasp. In a relationship, it is best to do our part - understanding, commitment, and trust as I've said. But we should not over protective as well for there is no perfect relationship, but we can try to have atleast a good one, if not perfect. But we always have to be open minded that, if despite of what we have done did not work to survive, it did not meant to be. There are things that meant for us ahead or in due time. But wishing that we could make our relationship survive for I know this will what make us happy. Happy mylotting.

Been there and done that. Now i am at the point in my life that I can say I've had enough. For the past 9 years I've been trying to save my marriage but nothing happens. Same problems occurs because my husband refuse to do his part. Now he says he is a renewed guy..but so am I. I guess it's way too late for the change I no longer needed. I have found a new great love and we really wanted to be together. We're planning things but we don't wanna rush things up either.

Hi Prime! Welcome to Mylot! I think communication plays a vital role in a relationship. There is no problem that can't be fixed with a heart-to-heart talk. Pride doesn't have any place in a relationship. If you are wrong accept it.

Place GOD above all, let him straighten it for it says that what GOD has joined together-a husband and a wife, let no one put asunder.

To save the relationship or not depends on how this relationship weighs in your heart. If it worthy saving, we can try different ways to save it. Well, i am an open-minded one, so if it was my fault, i will admit and apology to him directly. If he doesn't accept it. I will leave, and not beg him any more. I won't regret because i have tried to save it, and i won't try more because he refuse my goodwill.

proud to say that i have a relationship that doesnt need saving. so far me and wife have a good relationship. no one is lying and no betraying happening. i myself wanted to stay this way. no 3rd party or what so ever. we enjoyed each others company in the 8 years of marriage plus 3 years of relationship so that would be 11 years of being together. glad to say that i found the one that is perfectly fit for me.

Your exactly right ..And sometimes we cannot blame others to be eat their pride or lower their dignity .Because they really love someone but i hope not to the point that they'll be martyr just set limitation if when we stop ..

Hi prime74j :) Well in saving a relation depends on different cases. I tried to save our relationship but sometimes things really won't work out fine. It is not the pride that matter at all but when your partner keeps on hurting you and not being contented with you is like putting yourself in the middle of the sea. No one can save you but yourself. Girls are worth loving.

Saving a relationship? in my past boyfriends i get tired of doing a lot of sacrifices. we always fight and fight, well thats for my past boyfriend. Now I finally found one, well i can say he is the best and our relationship is i think the best too. i know as we go on we have lots of things to discover and lots of things to understand,well that's part of it. we never do the part that we are going to lower our dignity or try to ignore as if nothing happens. During our relationship we have up and downs, however because of love and understanding we are currently doing good. If we had a misunderstanding well we take a moment or give some time to think what did we do, what happen. As being a girl i don't nag my bf when something is wrong. when you do that to your partner you are creating a gap between your partner. So when there is a misunderstanding we just don't talk, give some time, then when we are both ready to talk then that's it. we share our pain together, then after that we just laugh at it. The only thing we hold on to our relationship that WE ASSURE EACH OTHER "HONESTY"

Good relationship is very important.Good relationship will give you positif.Good relation ship need mutual tolerance and understanding

I'm not trying to save any of my relationship. in my opinion you don't need to save it if it's already gone. While you still both love each other do everything you can just to show them your love. don't waste time always think that it was your last time so you'll be always at your best. when time comes that it won't work out and both of you decided to finally fall out of love with each other. then at least you can say that you did your best and nothing to be ashamed of or to be feel sorry for.

i talk and confide to him honestly what i feel. sometimes, we thought our partner knows what's in our mind, but it's not the case most of the time. communication is one of the best way to pre-empt any misunderstanding.

I think the best way to save a realationship is to talk with your partner about what is causing the problems. This can be hard at times, but it opens the line of communcation that is so important in a relationship and allows you to learn more about each other and how to solve issues...you can not run from things that bother you or it will not work out...

Have a serious talk about what makes your relationship fades. Hear each others point of view about what's going on. miscommunication has always been the root of having broken relationship. Everything can be solved in good communication.

First, he asked for forgiveness. Second, i felt that his love for me has become intense when i forgave him and i love him so much still also. Third, i accepted my shortcomings too and that i was mostly to blame. Fourth, i can see his transformation as a better husband.

I had a very long-agin g and complicated relationship with a boy,still referring to him by the name the love of my life.but this is actually stupid as it is stupid to call pur relationship log as we had been together for 4 years only.But I am 22 so four years of being with one person are really along time for me at the view of my age.I loved that person very much with the dedication and desperation of the first loe we all know how strong and endless it appears to be.He was a very tough difficult to deal with person so I had to do a lot of compromising to keep us together.I had done everything you have mentioned.I tried to ignore the problems and pretend nothing bothered me - that is a great mistake because you cannot make things better that way,they only become worse.I put my pride in his legs and tried and tried harder and harder to please him.I have done a lot of really stupid things - let down my friends and family , abandoned a lot of my goals and aims.And as expected at the end we any way broke up.Well may be the things I've done were really stupid and he actually doesnt deserve any of them,but I dont regret it because in my mind I have done anything to be with the person i love,i made all the effort and kept trying.That made me go through the break-up easier.

You can save your relationship by using the common interest of your lover, start from there, build a communication link, and resolve the differences in the relationship. If you are in love use understanding a patience,it will pay off.

to save your relationship both of you must have a good communication.. misunderstanding leads the relation broke