What would you do when your heart is broken?
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
March 9, 2011 6:09am CST
I have come across many discussions in mylot about love affairs that have gone astray. Those brokenhearted need pacifying words from the experienced and seasoned lotters who have experienced such bitterness in the world of love.
There's no getting around it. Breaking up is hard to do. Having your heart broken for the first time, when this whole love thing is still so fresh and new is especially painful. What's worse, everyone seems to know. You feel suicidal, and it seems the whole world is watching.
At times like that, you'd probably like to buy a heart repair kit. After a few days, you'd be all better, with a fully mended heart and the vague feeling that something kind of bad happened awhile back. The reality is, however, that you were born with a heart that can't be repaired that easily. 
Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever -June Masters Bacher
Will you ever forget the first time your heart was broken?
Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever -June Masters Bacher
Will you ever forget the first time your heart was broken?3 people like this
21 responses
@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
11 Mar 11
i think no one can ever forget his heart broken experience. My experience has emotionally changed me so much now whenever i feel sad and i go through a emotional trauma i like to stay alone and walk alot on roads and in parks, this helps me to recover well.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 11
Sometimes the hidden part of us surface when our emotions are triggered be it in love or other problems. I can see you are able to handle it well. As long as the pain of a broken heart does not haunt you for long, then you will be able to come back to normalcy quite fast.
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
9 Mar 11
You think if we humans had a little more power we wouldda be better off ,on this Earth?For example, control our own and the other person's actions.We don't/can't control our own actions,which is so important,to elaborate this point,,when we are asked to improve/make changes in our day to day life, it appears to be so hard ,only because the other person asked for it,,,similarly it is hard for the others to follow suit.The idea is that if I(any person ) wish to make changes IN ME( the person),, I will do it when I like it,it doesn't happen when the others ask for it.what happens in general is that when u allow it once ,, it is taken for granted that u will allow it the second time around.So I see that we get more broken hearts now, as life is so different,, since NET is available.and the world is getting smaller.Best wishes
@mac_fish (723)
• China
10 Mar 11
Hi,zandi
Well,I'm not afraid the heartbreaker,the heart-broken is not a big deal for me ,I think I could walk through it easily.
When ur heart is broken usually means the disaster of emotion and love ended,and there is something new waitting for u,and u have a new hope at the same time.
The worst thing is,ur heart is trapped in endless pain,u are supposed to suffer from it day and night till u lose the last hope for the new love story...
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@rsmegan (13)
• China
10 Mar 11
I don't know if it is a kind of brokenheart.But he was the first man who came into my heart.I felt in love with him for the first sight.But he never gave me any response.I did many crazy things that I didn't think they were crazy at that time.I even told him that I liked him.But he asked me to wait for him until finishing high school.However,we were completely out of touch since then. It's been almost ten years.I still remembered how I spent the summer vacation when I thought I lost him forever.I cried and cried...Now,sometimes I will surf on the internet to look for him.But I have not had any clue.Yes,maybe I've lost him forever.
It seems kind of funny,right?But I think maybe everyone would have this kind of experience when we were young.There is always a boy or a girl living in your heat deeply,no matter what your story is happy or unhappy.
@shibham (16977)
• India
9 Mar 11
Hi Zandi...
When, i was a teen ager.... all girls were far away from me as i was like a savage...lol. When i was in my university and college life, i better concentrated in study yet i needed a heart... but no one came to fall in my love... i was proposed but i did not think that they were right girls for me. But i really needed someone special, even now too. Alas.... no body is here, have a nice day.
@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
zandi, when the strings become discordant, it is time to change. Find a new love and you'll realize the heart was never broken.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
I am experiencing my first ever major heart break now. It may not be official since we will still have to talk to make a closure or if we can still work it out. But I am really feeling that it's over for us. Most of my friends here know how much I am in love with my bf and how I am positive of our relationships outcome. Anyway, I have already been feeling the heart break for 5days now and it all happened so fast. I cry every night and try to call and text him to know the standing of our relationship but he doesn't respond. I feel really empty without him for he is my life. I feel so sad even if I go out with my friends. I really don't know what to do after this. SO many questions, but I know I can do it. I am strong and I have faith in God that I will somehow pass all these pain.
@armourofgod (7)
• India
5 May 11
It's good to hear that, You think positive. Keep this positive attitude with you. Don't think about break out now, as you had not talked to your boy friend. If you really believe your god than whatever may happen, will be good for you.
Go meet your bf and clear all misunderstandings
Have a wonderful life..
@pogi253 (1586)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
You believe your relationship might be over. Your pain is awful. You feel so lost, by yourself and confused that sometimes you feel like heaving in a hole and dying. You just want someone or something to stop the pain so you can feel normal again.
But you can check it out this link:
http://depression.about.com/cs/psychotherapy/ht/Broken_Heart.htm
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
I won't also forget the first time I had my heart broken. I told myself then that it should be the first and the last heart-brokenness that I'll have. It took me a long time to recover and move on but that experience made me strong. It's like a wound that leaves a scar and marks so it also leaves a mark in our lives that is why it remains in our memory how painful it was. It's also like a broken vase that can be repaired but the pieces aren't perfect already.
@erncom11 (46)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
i think no.i don't think i will ever forget about it.but i feel that it was a blessing in disguise.it made me more mature and that you just have to accept whatever things might end up to be.my heart was broken, yet it taught me a very good lesson in life.it made me stronger.especially when you have people around to support you and God to provide you with strength and wisdom.
@muzicworld18 (11)
• India
9 Mar 11
I would try to keep myself busy in some work or listen to music or watch comedy movies for refreshing my mind and try to keep away my mind from the situation(break up). I would try to maintain distance from her as well as from things related to her for a few days.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
9 Mar 11
No, i will never forget the first time that happened. I don't think it's anything u ever forget & i don't think i have ever forgiven him either to tell u the truth . It's been a very long time ago but it seems like yesterday.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Mar 11
couldnt even tell you how many times mines been broken. nor how many times ive had to break them. ive been on both ends of the spectrum and i do believe most people over 30 yrs certainly have. 
but i have learned as i tell my kids it wont be forever even though you think it now. 
@savypat (20216)
• United States
9 Mar 11
I remember but now I know that hearts don't break, pride, selfworth and ego bruse and break. I guess it's all part of living and you have to be thankful that you can care that much to have that much pain, then pick yourself up and go on just like the rest of us do.
@Eugene126 (124)
• United States
9 Mar 11
Hi Zandi,
Yes I can never forget that time when the person I loved the most broke my heart. It does hurt when someone breaks your heart specially for the first time. But people tend to get use to everything. Its always been better not to make your heart control everything, and let your mind to decide.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
9 Mar 11
I don't think I'll ever be able to forget the first time my heart was broken. It was horrible, like seriously. I loved him a lot but I guess he never realized it. When he broke up the relationship we had, I didn't know what to do. I was like crying there like crazy for weeks. I couldn't eat much and couldn't sleep and even if i did, the next morning when i woke up, i had this feeling like I had a huge hole in my heart and it felt so empty. If it wasn't for my friends I don't know what would have happened to me. I'm so glad I have the world's most awesome friends and they helped me move on. But i still clinged on to him for a long time. It was 4years ago but I still remember everything.
@jaymze2010 (34)
• Canada
9 Mar 11
I have had my heart broken a few times before. The only way to move on is to realise that your friends will always be there for you, and that sooner or later you WILL find love again. The moment you fall in love again, your heart will mend :)
