Where do we go wrong?

Although I have been so blessed with my two children and have never experienced this and or any absolute issues with them. I was a full-time working mom and still provided very good quality care and nurturing to them. But in reality these days it seems that all the love, care and nurturing sometimes still will cause this behavior with some children. Although I have witness many faults in some parents, I have also seen many very loving and nurturing ones yet the children still at times, it is like they have a mind of their own and it is difficult to point and blame as to who was at fault.

A fourscore ago, I had to abandon my formal teaching post to take care of my two baby girls. It had been difficult financially for my tiny family but we did get by. My two girls are all grown up now and are reaping merits for excellence in whatever they do. I am happy I made the correct choice. There is nothing more important than the bonding of a mother and a child. Now I can pursue whatever interest I am up to. I am proud of my girls! I do hope parents would not sacrifice the well being of their children for a car, a house, a vacation or whatever... Children do grow up, and if we missed taking care of their childhood, it is lost forever...

Hi devi! Children need love, devotion, constant attention and nurturing and instilling of proper values. When this is done , when emotional needs are fulfilled and constant monitoring takes place children would not ask such questions.EVen homemaker mothers fail to do this. Not all w orking women are faulty and not all home makers are perfect. It is a deliberate , conscious effort on the part of parents. It calls for a lot of sacrifice and dedication from parents too who make their children their prime and only focus in life.

For me the time we spent in the work and have no time for the child the care and emotional.

I think there are two reasons for why this happens. 1. Parents are busy trying to make ends meet and children tend to wait someone right now not later. 2. As children become teens they get confused and just don't understand. All those new feeling they have are confusing. Most parents don't have a choice in working. They have to pay the bills. Children on the other hand would rather have their parents time than their money. Even stay at home parents experience problems with their teen though. It is just part of children growing up and dealing with the body hormones. The best thing to do now it take a brake or vacation and spend quailty time. If this is not possible, than set time each night (or at least serval night each week) to more or less revolve around the children. As a parent you will need to get the children to open up and talk. Make sure you listen fully and don't cut them off. They have a right to feel the way they feel, but when they are done you can help them to sort their feeling and explain things that upset them. I had to do this last night. Exhausted from a day of work and helping a husband get around with a broken ankle. My son was there having a more or less brake down. He didn't think we are fair for not allowing food in the bedroom to the point he hated me. Regardless that I was exhausted we sat down in my room and had a nice long chat. We chatted about how he felt and why. Why we had those rules and how those rules help to keep him clean and healthy. It was a long talk at about 11:00 he felt much better and calm. I gave him a huge hug and told him how much I loved him. Today he was back to normal. I think those little moments are what will help him overcome the confusion of teenagehood. It sure help when the lines of communication are open for everyone to understand each other.

I think most people blame something and specially someone for that hole inside that it's a place for love, but when there's an emptiness they think it's someone else'a fault. I thought my childhood could have been better, but now I think I was the one not giving enough love, respect to my self and when I started to do I don't find it's my parents or anyone else's fault. It's up the the own person to care about one's self esteem.

First and foremost, the biggest mistake parents like that make is not being aware that their children are individual human beings who will grow into their own person with their own interests, desires and decisions. Too often, parents that log their whole lives for the betterment of their children have a narrow idea of what THEY want the child to become and not who the child actually IS or what the CHILD wants out of life. Secondly, they do spend too much time and energy working and not enough time being emotionally there or getting to know their children for who they are. This does NOT mean that all mothers have to stay home, or that either parent needs to give up their own careers for the child. This means not working 12-hour days, not working weekends, taking off for vacations and family time. Being present in your child's life does not mean giving up your own, it's just a matter of balance.

How can the children found fault with their parents unceremoniously?What reason did they have to do so?Weren't their parents laborious enough?For children the parents have worked hard day and night as a result their children were just ungrateful.The parents and children must bridge their differences with understanding.