who is 100% frank with their friends?

Hi kwylima and welcome to myLot. I see being frank a bit differently, see with my good matured personality I believe I am frank with everyone I come in contact with. Being frank to me means that I am honest with all who I come in contact with, not just because they are friends. There are ways to be frank, even with strangers and still be polite. I certainly would not lie to a stranger if asked if the dress looked good when it didn't. I would perhaps, it being a stranger tell them that it is not my style and I can see such and such style being a better fit. I have not had any issues to date in being frank/honest with anyone so I think I will remain me. What do you think about my honesty?

I could only be truly and cruelly honest with my real friends. The genuine one, who knows that no matter how painful and hurting the words I told them, they know it's true and I did it because I want them to be aware of something not so good I perceived about them. Some of them even thank that I could be frank enough to tell them the truth.

I think it's 100% necessary to be frank in terms of being truthful, even if it hurts oneself. As a Christian for me, truth is black and white: even little white lies are unacceptable. But at the same time I also think that sometimes it's good to keep one's counsel to oneself, when one is at risk of hurting someone's feelings. For example, if a friend has written a poem that one doesn't think is very good, I think it's good to look for all that is best in the poem, and tell that friend this, rather than point out what is bad. This is not being dishonest, because I feel there is often great nobility in tact.

Hello, kwylima. I am a realist. Being honest and candid about the way I see things is just second nature to me. Once people learn that this is just the way I am, they can choose to be a friend or not. I can give my opinion and then give the reason that I feel the way I do which is usually acceptable. It's not the opinion that is hurtful but the way that it is addressed.

For me I would done that to my friends they are nice to go on my way of my life after that they feel good to me try it.

hi friend... i have lot of friends. and i think i am frank with them. but sometimes i really try hard to not to make their hearts break. because it is really bad to see someone sad or heart broken. i will try in a better way to make them understand without any feelings. any way its nice to respond to such a topic

hi kwylima yes I see you are indeed frank but hope you do not get angry if your friends decide to be super frank back. I think telling someone to change clothes as their dress is ugly is hurtful and sort of demeaning. frank does not have to mean blunt. perhaps you could have said the party is going to be really dress up so perhaps you would like to wear something really dressy? telling someone their dress isugly goes too far for me. sorry just my take on things.

This is the negative side of being totally honest - not having many friends. But you know what? Sometimes it's better to have one single friend who can trust you completely and why you can absolutely trust, than thousands of people who claim to be your friends. How many of them will be honest with you when the time comes for honesty? The example you gave above is a good illustration for what must be done. A true friend would be honest and tell the dress will provoke mocking therefore this dress should be changed immediately. A coward friend will keep silent and won't risk a quarrel, which eventually lead to humiliation to the friend with the funny dress. You do the math what's better to do...

i dont think anyone will say that his not frank with his friend. Everybody will say that i'm frank and i'm frank. But i will say that every people i can guarantee every people think about themself first. If it's about his/her best friend too but he/she will think about his best first. If you ask me i will say yes i'm one of them too. It's may be bad to see but it's true. Universal true for all!