do long distance relationships last?
By rencarl
@rencarl (620)
Philippines
March 17, 2011 6:58am CST
my girlfriend migrated to london for work.i stayed here in the philippines.as much as i would like to go there,financial issues prevent me from doing so.it has been almost 2 months since she left.i miss her badly.i am left with this question 'do long distance relationships work?
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10 responses
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
I have been in a long distance relationship for two years now. All I could say about LDR is that it takes a lot of courage to go on, a lot of effort to sustain and a decision to hold on. The measure of love is not between distance, not out of reason, not out of emotions, it's more of a matter of decision. A decision that amidst the shaking, the troubles and trials in your relationship you would still decide to hold on in the end.
Always bear in mind that it's always the relationship that counts. And if you truly love your girlfriend it wouldn't be impossible to hold on even if it takes months, years or even decades. God bless you and your relationship! :)
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
thank you for the kind words. Yes, I've already accepted your friend request. keep coming here in mylot. I have few discussions you might want to read or even respond. Welcome to mylot! God bless you!
@rencarl (620)
• Philippines
18 Mar 11
thank you for this wonderful message..i am sure you are a better person. lucky are those who have you as their close friend...i hope to hear from more of your comments as i enjoy mylotting. pls do accept my friend request..i want to keep posted on whatever you write..
@Rapuncille (597)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
For some it does. We'll it actually depend on your foundation and on how far are you two both willing to work hard for it. It's not easy to love somebody from afar. The are things to nurture your relationship that you cannot do when you are physically apart so you have to devise ways on how to make-up for those. You both will have to be more open minded and patient as long distance relationship can easily fall prey to misunderstandings. Also, make sure that you are both aiming for one thing, that is to eventually be together. That goal should be clear and you should work on a plan to make it happen. If you don't have that, there's no point in staying in the relstionship.
@rencarl (620)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hello rapuncille.i like it when you said 'make sure that you are
both aiming for one
thing, that is to
eventually be together'.this is also what my girlfriend said to me the last time she called.she said she is working hard for the sake of our future.i was happy and delighted when i heard that.hopefully this long distance relationship thing will really work as i have heard so many unsuccessful ones.i am optimistic though.what i do is that i send her messages thru facebook everyday and every spare time that i have..
@Rapuncille (597)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
That's good rencarl! At least you are both on the same page and on the right track. I have nothing but best wishes for you. I hope one day you'll be together spending your happily ever after. As you look back, i'm hoping you'll have only words to say, "it was all worth it". :)
@lizzyt2007 (1312)
• Craig, Alaska
18 Mar 11
Sometimes long distance relationships work and other times they don't. It all depends how series you get with each other while your apart. I talk to my ex and hope to get back with him some day. He wants the same. We live in different towns for now but next month he's leaving state. So then he'll be farther away. We're doing good as friends but we want to be together one day. How I don't miss him so much is I don't think of him much then a friend. I've loved him since back in the 90's when we went to school together.
@rencarl (620)
• Philippines
18 Mar 11
i like it when you said "takes a lot of work to keep together". it seems that when i succeed in keeping the relationship intact, i get fulfilled. hopefully i can survive this obstacle in this relationship. with mylotters like you who gives treasured advice, i can sure survive this problem.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
17 Mar 11
Sure they can :)
I've been involved in a long distance relationship for 3 years now.
It's really all about dedication, commitment, honesty, trust, and communication. If any of those things are lacking, it will be difficult for the relationship to work out well.
Best of luck!
@ddnj2006 (652)
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
kababayan!!
I think long distance relationship last depends on how long your partner is away, or how long both of you can hold the relationship inspite of the distance..
There is many means of communication you can used to close the distance and take out the gap, but still, it really differs when you are together physically..
So in short, it depends upon you, and your partner pre!...
@liumirror (138)
• China
17 Mar 11
Many people say distance makes the hearts fonder.How many people love each other after they separate some times? Maybe it depends on your feeling ,how deep do you love each other?
