do you think long-distance relationship really works?

This is the same condition with me friend but now minor difference is that my husband received a lot of opporutnities for working abroad in Dubai but I am not accepted this and I put the condition I will also go but he is telling me after one year he call me but I cant live alone because my family is so silent no mother in law and father in law they talk very less whole day I cant live. Not necessary long distance relationship everytime works but you want to take the risk then you will ready for facing the future which may be bright or bad. Good discussion and you will received nice reply

Hi purplehaze! There's nothing wrong with long distance relationship as long as you have these four: love, honesty, trust and communication. Though there might be times we feel lonely being far from the ones we love, in those time, we have to be strong. My husband and I had been through a long distance relationship. We were friends but not that close, then I had been dating him for more that two years before I married him. Most of those times within two years, he's away from me. I don't get to see him frequently because he lives in Korea and I am from Japan. We both have cultural differences and beliefs as well. Being far away from each other made our bond more closer. Being far away from him makes me realize that I love and miss him more and we both learn how to trust each other. If you really love each other then both of you should take the risk of being far from each other, grab the opportunities for your career but make sure you both have even the least time to communicate with each other. Take courage and also pray for relationship. Well, it really worked for me. I hope it could also work for you. Happy Mylotting!

Hi Purplehaze, I am currently in a 2 year long distance relationship with my boyfriend. The last time i saw him was October 2009. It sucks to be away with someone you want to spend every minute of your life with. You missed a lot of things like normal couple do, like be together, kiss, hug, travel and stuff. In my situation, I take things work out because we both put effort to feel like we are not too far away from each other. With the technology right now, distance is nothing. Communication is everything. Besides, if that career will be good for you, your boyfriend should be supportive. Then you would know that you have the right man. goodluck!

If you want the honest truth most long distance relationship doesnt work. That is the truth. But that is still dependent on the nature of the person. Your mate would have to be absolutely faithful and trustworthy for you to take that chance. But seriously if i was in your shoes I would have to take the chance and go abroad providing that those career opportunities that you are talking about is better than your present one. You see even though you dont want the relationship to end. You need to think about your own life as well. Those jobs could be used to sustain your life. Anything can happen in your future where you and your mate broke up, as well as he could meet in an accident and something terrible happen, maybe he cant work again or something of the sort and everything is left on you. In that case those job opportunities could have help you well. Think about it, you might not even get another opportunity to get a job abroad. Like the saying goes. A great opportunity knocks only once at your door. You need to know how to identify it and dont let it escape from your grasps. You need to think about your actions wisely. That is my best advice to you. I hope you understand what I said. On the otherhand I am not the one experienceing what you feel right now, so you are the only one which could actually make the decision which will benefit you. So decide wisely, anything you choose i hope it was the best thing for you.

Sometimes. The only problem is that at some point, you always hit that cross roads where someone wants the other to move to there state to make the relationship work or break up. I faced it.

Why not.... If there is true love and care then long or long-long distance also works good...

usually a long distance relationship will not last long because many obstacles and temptations that would interfere with kelangsunagan relationship. relations which are separated by a distance that is too much required great sacrifice from both parties and a strong will to always maintain permanent contacts with maintaining harmonious communication is always maintained there is a relationship not to falter without which eventually can bring a sense of disappointment and frustration

hi,i dont knw actually wht is ur opinion on love and long distance relations.If u trust him no need to worry of distances.However a slight distance also can bring clash between u and him.some times many years u will not forget him.i am sorry i dont hav much clarity about this .

Hi purplehaze, I would certainly agree with you that many long term relationships don't last. Before people start to criticise this comment though the fact is with 2 people in different countries where your in a relationship it is so hard for that to carry on, you may talk often over the phone or internet, but it is never the same as having them in your arms, knowing they are close by. Knowing that if you need them it won't take long for them to get to you, yet if you are in another country it would take ages. Relationships are about trust, we also need to live our lives and follow our heart and dreams. I am so confused by what you say though. It seems you do want to work abroad and this is a passion of yours, although you say you love him you do state that you have turned these jobs down because he may find another girl, that shows a lack of trust really. When you move abroad there are so many changes. You aren't married so things can't get bad, but why not see if he will go with you, he could find work there. You never know how long your relationship will last, you do seem to want to go abroad, you need to chat to him, i guess in your heart you know the relationship won't last if you are in seperate countries, you may stay in touch often but as time moves on this will cut down and the relationship could end. It is or you to decide, go and see if long term relationship will work, go and end the relationship before you go, stay and always regret those missed opportunities, stay and the relationship may fail anyway in time, or ask him to go with you, you have made sacrifices for him by staying, surely if he loved you then he would stay with you and join you abroad to be by your side. It is a hard one but we do all have to think of ourselves and be practical, it seems you have given everything up for a long time, lets see if he is willing to give things up and move abroad with you, are you important enough to him to do this? only he can answer that, good luck.

The only one who could answer that is that in that relationship for they are the only ones who new the real score. It depends in the situation actually. I think it will work if you both still communicate and especially if the two of you trust each other. TRUST is highly needed in cases like this...

Long-distance really works but not to every couples. For those couples who love each other deeply, long distance doesn't work for a long time. But they must try their best to be together. Otherwise it really works no matter how deeply do yo love him. When we have to make a decision, it is really hard to know which is more important for us. If your boyfriend is more important than your career, then you can stay with him, which doesn't mean that you are wasting opportunities for your career and you can search other opportunities. But if your career is more important, you can just do what you want to. Good luck.

where ever you may be but you love will remain so you need to worry about it.

where ever you may be but you love will remain so you need to worry about it.

you should go ahead to work abroad or more opportunities,if he really loves you he will undersand you and insisit staying with you.A friend indeed is a friend indeed.lovers are the same situation ! you should grasp your good opportunities to let your self improve

hello purple, It works if the relationship is strong enough to face any trials. It depends on you and your bf. If you trusted each other and love each other that much..not even distance can fall you apart from each other. Just hold on to each other's love and trust with all your heart.

Yep, it works for for me and my hubby. Separated for a year and now were living together. IF you both think it will work and have faith in each other then it will. Its just a matter of understanding and trust to each other. That's too bad that you passed on to those opportunities. Especially nowadays, were experiencing economic crisis. Its not a good idea having those doubts to your bf. You can talk it out to him and have a word with it. Whenever I had doubt, I always say it out to my hubby.If you two are meant to each other then it will work it out. You should understand when you two will get married, what life will you have without money? What if even if you stay by his side he will still cheat? You will think its a regret to lose those opportunities. Speak up to him, so you two will have a better understanding.

Hi purplehaze, yikes the matters of the heart certainly cloud our thinking at times. Only you know where he and you stand and reason why I say is that some people say it can work and that is great. You are not saying how long it would be that you two would be apart. At any rate I say that since there is a goal in mind you two will need lots of communication between you and full trust in the relationship. If you feel you truly have that then there should not be a problem in following your career and him awaiting. I definitely think you should continue on your career because not only will your love and his potentially grow but so will your career. However if you do not go then perhaps a bit of strain may be put on the relationship anyways because their may be some resentment each time you have issues because the little issues will burst into I stay here because of you type of arguments. I do hope you can decide what is best for the both of you and wish you well.

Hi, you know what it is just up to both of you to make your long distance relationship works, its just a matter of gaining a million bunch of trust. There are even couples who sees every day but still their marriage does not work.

it is true that long-distance relationship is a risky option in any relationship. it is also true that physical intimacy plays a role in maintaining a healthy relationship. therefore, being away from each other will enable the intimacy factor to be eliminated or reduced from the relationship. many relationships are broken eliminating this factor because they believe that this play a major role in any relationship. but there are still relationships who are saved and lived despite the loss of this. most of the relationships who pass this test are those who have a good relationship foundation which are built on trust, understanding and love. if you believe you qualify and you can surpass this, you could be away from each other. and i believe if you are meant for each other, no matter what will happen, you can survive any test. and you will be made for each other in the end.

where ever you may be but you love will remain so you need to worry about it.