Birthday Wish : To be SINGLE again
By xien2xien
@xien2xien (1382)
Philippines
March 22, 2011 9:16pm CST
The current situation of my life was like this:
I have a boyfriend and we are already 1 year and 6 months
I have this second boyfriend we are already 9 months
and i have this third boyfriend we are already 3 months
NOW my birthday is this coming April 4,2011 and my birthday wish is to be single again
i know i make my life too much complicated by entering into three relationship all at the same time and now i don't know how to drop them one by one i'm afraid to hurt them cause they don't do anything to me but to continuously loving me and accepting me from who am i and trying to be patient with my style.
Can somebody help me to fulfill my wish?
PLEASE :(
20 responses
@acey76 (1276)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Just wanna ask wha does it does for you to have many boyfriends, you already hurt them the time you give your yes to them. I see you being selfish haven't thought of the things that might lead you. Sorry don't want 2 offend you for the things im saying but this is all your fault... Don't give an excuse that you don't wan't 2 hurt their feelings. You have to let go of them, for them to find new love that they deserve
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@jeffreyallen (298)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Lol you put yourself in that situation. Sorry. Figure it out on your own. Hate to say three guys being played like that. Karma will come back around.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
well them i'm ready to take my karma and being played by a boy sadly things were being so hard that it's better to be played than to play three boys at the same time..... why don't you try if you can play with me... but be ready to be played also..... my rules were like this.... everybody's playing with fire and whoever gets burn first looses the game... in relationship everything is like a game who falls in love first looses the game and end up getting hurt ...i'm sorry but that's just for me.... i don't know what's yours but just be happy okay
@jeffreyallen (298)
• United States
25 Mar 11
I`m very happy. With my girlfriend that I know isnt cheating on me. All I`m saying is, theres no way to not break their hearts and they NEED to know. So, do them a favor and just tell them the truth. Falling in love is not losing. It`s taking a chance. It`s the best feeling. And truthfully.. It feels more like winning. You`ve lost, because you divided your love into three(If you even have love for any of them.) and I`m sorry... that just isnt enough to keep up three relationships. It`s funny how you put yourself in this situation and now you wanna get out. Hats off to you!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
I suggest you just hangout with friends and enjoy life like that. You might have developed a habit of getting a boyfriend after breakups. You should enjoy being single first because you might regret it.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
i will surely enjoy being single after this mess. i loved to hang out with friends and don't talk about boys for the meantime, it really makes me sick talking about boys over and over again....
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
i will surely enjoy being single after this mess. i loved to hang out with friends and don't talk about boys for the meantime, it really makes me sick talking about boys over and over again....
@Fireheart (683)
• India
24 Mar 11
how do you manage all three of them, and also it seems too much to spend time with all three, you should have seen this thing coming. Anyways all you can do now is say to all of them that you need a time out of this and you no longer interested on continuing this relationship, if they loves you they must have understand your feelings, one more thing do these people know each other about you having relationship with them all.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
the first one don't know for i can't tell him the truth but the other two they know that i'm taken and still they want to give themselves a chance with me so they both know the situation and they kinda understand when i said i can't be with you i'm with him, they both understand that....
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 11
Having three bf at the same time? Wow, I envy you, and not envy you.
In a way you must be a very special lady, in another you must have headache dividing your attention between them.
Break them all by saying that you need to focus on your life at the moment and would not date anyone in the meantime. Usually, focusing on career and re-arranging own life are the best excuse to break a relationship.
In a way you must be a very special lady, in another you must have headache dividing your attention between them.
Break them all by saying that you need to focus on your life at the moment and would not date anyone in the meantime. Usually, focusing on career and re-arranging own life are the best excuse to break a relationship.@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
28 Mar 11
I know when someone said that he/she enjoys life to the fullest I always have this imagination that he/she must have been living unscrupulously and irresponsibly. I don't really like the phrase, so I guess I am enjoying life to its limitation. You are right, I don't like complications. I like everything to be simple so I can understand better.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
i don't know what's the real catch with me... if ever that i'm born a boy i would prefer and lady with a good personality. not like me full of bad things in my routine and definitely don't possess a good personality, i'm just enjoying my life to the fullest..... don't try this, sooner or later you will end up like me, too much complication my friend
@Aloevera521 (178)
• Australia
23 Mar 11
3 relationships are not easy.
U must be good.
Do they know each other? or the each relationship?
The only way to be single is broking up, u have to hurt someone, or three people.
PS: just a matter of interest, how many "Same time" BFs R U planing 2 have after Ur birthday?
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
have you tried to have more than one relationship at the same time before?
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
wahahahah, i don't have any plans after my birthday, please don't think of me as that really bad, but i can't blame you for having such thoughts but if ever i finished my business with this three bf's i have today, i will share it here in my lot my next escapades after my birthday :)
@Aloevera521 (178)
• Australia
25 Mar 11
I didn't mean that U were bad or anything. It's fine 2 have more than 1 BF. If U really need, have different styles.
Happy Birthday, will U?
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
23 Mar 11
mmh yes 3 relationship at the same time are too much!!If you want ai will be your 4 boyfriend ehhe..
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
wow nice but with just having three whew my head aches like heal, and it's hard to divide my precious time... but maybe next time friend..... enjoy my lot
@marguicha (215154)
• Chile
23 Mar 11
You could share xienxien
. I find it absolutly unfair that you have 3 BFs and some of us can´t get even one
.
Maybe you should ask a fairy to unravel the mess for one day. I bet you don´t want to have just one BF for the rest of your life. LUCK
. I find it absolutly unfair that you have 3 BFs and some of us can´t get even one.
Maybe you should ask a fairy to unravel the mess for one day. I bet you don´t want to have just one BF for the rest of your life. LUCK@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
hehehe, you could have if you're just looking ehind you, most of the singles today are blind enough cause they don't look around there were many boys who loved them but they are closing their doors, i'm not saying open your heart to everyone, but please give them some chance cause sometimes who you think they are, were not really who they are..... i'm planning to have just only one husband and i don't care about the mistress, i don't know whats a male version of mistress hahah how fool i am
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Happy birthday
oh My... I cant imagine how you are able to manage 3 boyfriends when having just one is already a handful.
I'm sorry dear, as the song goes.. "There's no easy way to break somebody's heart" but have to do it sooner or later because whether you like it or not if they find out about the other BF's someon will get hurt.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
i don't know its just my first boyfriend will be hurt if he finds out that i'm not being faithful, the other two knew that they were three, yeah that song is definitely right, it was hard to break somebody's heart especially when you had loved them.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
if things gets worst, and i have to break them all 3 im sure it on't be the way that they will have to know this worst part, i'll be gone in their lives before they could knew that i've just played with their hearts.... but not for my second and third boyfriend because before they court me they knew i have a boyfriend, so i'm just keeping this secret to my legal boyfriend ;)
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Advance Happy Birthday! Wow share some of your boyfriends to me!
You alone can fulfill your wish as it all depends on your decision. It's really easy to let them go if you are absolutely sure about it. You can tell each one of them that you have other boyfriends and they might just drop you off like a piece of an old hat in the corner. But you don't want to be treated like trash, so you can simply tell them that you want to be free for awhile and take care of yourself.
I hope that you can decide what to do before your birthday. You got a week to think about it. Good luck!
You alone can fulfill your wish as it all depends on your decision. It's really easy to let them go if you are absolutely sure about it. You can tell each one of them that you have other boyfriends and they might just drop you off like a piece of an old hat in the corner. But you don't want to be treated like trash, so you can simply tell them that you want to be free for awhile and take care of yourself.
I hope that you can decide what to do before your birthday. You got a week to think about it. Good luck!@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
thanks for the greeting my friend,,, maybe you could come at my birthday party and i'll introduce you to my boyfriend maybe you can get along with them and soon steal their heart away from me :) first thing, i thought you were married :)
@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
uhm yeah i wish the same for you xien. that can really be hard to get away with. i dont even suggest choosing one among them and drop the other two as i know, and it always has happened, that none of these guys, had they known your secret, will ever stay with you.
whatever your reasons for doing so, i really wish you peace of mind. learn from your mistakes and never allow a second chance for it to happen again, ever.
goodluck dear friend 
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
wow thanks friend....it was indeed very hard to drop them all, besides it so hard to choose because each one possess something that the two doesn't have, but still i'm wishing to be single on my birthday and just celebrate it with friends without boyfriends hahhaha
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
sometimes friend, breaking up is hard to do, especially being me, i hate to hurt other's feeling, starting with my first bf until now i don't do the break ups, they just feel that my love is gone and i'm always waiting for them to say the words about breaking up, im afraid to see those tears in their faces when i hit the word break... i'm really sorry
@shuaicoolmating (22)
• China
23 Mar 11
Your life is really complecated. But you have to drop at least 2 of them no matter how sweet they are. Noboday can heip to fulfill your wish except yourself. Good luck.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
wow you are one busy lady. there is only one way to fulfill that wish. no one can do that but just you. tell them that you need to think. if you will not tell them you want to be single then you can not be single. saying this of course will hurt them and i am sure you will feel bad as well, but to be single needs to start from you. hope your birthday wish will come true. happy birthday to you.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
23 Mar 11
Hi,
I would say staying single is actually good,at least
you are full of freedom and you can go anywhere you like
without a need to get a permission and you can also
do what you like without the need to consider another party's
feeling. I do enjoy my single life.
Of course, after having a boyfriend,my life is getting
wonderful too,at least I don't feel lonely and I always
have someone to eccompany me. Although we may not be meeting everyday,
but we still chat on phone every night. and dating life is
the most wonderful moments for me.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
24 Mar 11
I think you should definitely find time to get to know yourself better. And don't take this the wrong way. Being in three different relationships all at once? Thats completely unfair to these guys. To help you fulfill your wish, I would suggest to tell every guy the truth, that you've been seeing someone else, and decided that you need to take a break, get your life in order and that you've come to reason that its better to tell you guys now, than continue relationships that has all be a lie. Sounds good?
@lakshmi11 (278)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Yes xien2xien,
You have to let them all go. Don't worry about the feelings of those boyfriends.
The one thing you really need to do is, you need to be alone and figure yourself out, then try again.
To tell your three boyfriends that you will let them go, you probably have a couple of solutions in your mind and don't know which one to follow, try to let your gut feeling guide you not your intelligence.
@Maikel631 (18)
• Morocco
23 Mar 11
Yeah, this sure is no good. Multiple relationships at one time is only going to cause trouble. Be honest, because none of those boys will stay with you when they know you've treated them like this.
Not a smart decision, if you ask me.
Tell them the truth, don't drop them without them knowing what really happened, they deserve to know the truth?
