How Long Will U Wait 4 Him or Her?
By Aloevera521
@Aloevera521 (178)
Australia
March 26, 2011 4:28am CST
I am in relationship, a very happy one, never like that before. already 1 year and a half. And I'm sure he's the one.
But he's not approved by my family. He'll never get a chance to be someone my family loved.
Well I don't care what people say about him, especially my family. All my friends love him, think he's a nice guy. a blessing. It's just my family.
I can only be together with him in 4 years(in 2015). that's the time I can cut off with my family, make own choices .
And he says he would be there in 4 years. he will wait for that. (his family want him to get married early)
I believe what he said, did and everything
But I'm not sure a person can wait that longer.
So how Long Will U Wait 4 Him or Her?
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13 responses
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
It's too early to say that you really are for each other, try to know more about him and his family. And try to show your family that he is really worth marrying with. Just be positive that it will really last. don't let others choose the guy you truly love. God bless and good luck on your relationship.
@Aloevera521 (178)
• Australia
26 Mar 11
Thanks! O(n_n)O!
I guess I already knew enough about him and his everything. We do have a gap, like the different culture between people from the North and South of the country.
But I'm sure he's the one.
The actually problem is, I have to pretend that I have nothing to do with him in front of all my family and their friends. Otherwise, I'm sure, er... he's not safe.
My family even moved to where I live to monitor my movements for 3 months! Sick.
Hope we can be together.
@Aloevera521 (178)
• Australia
26 Mar 11
It's not get use 2 it. There's no chance 4 me to meet my family if we got married.
@Aloevera521 (178)
• Australia
26 Mar 11
I don't want to speak ill of my family. But U don't know how sick they R.
I have 2 pretend that he's not my BF in front of all my family and their friends.
That's really sad.
I have to hide for 4 years.
He says that he didn't care. But I think, if we actually hide it...
I just feel selfish and guilty
@Aloevera521 (178)
• Australia
27 Mar 11
Thanks, (*^__^*) ……
the chance of winning lottery would be pretty thin on the ground.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
It is not a matter of how long will you wait for the person, it's a matter of also the love for that person over time as well. Waiting can be done my many but the problem is can you both have that love for each other up until that time. I know a lot of people who have waited but did not get the fire burning and thus ends up having this gap between them. There are also some who cannot wait forever unless they can see a reason to wait.
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
Hi,
If he truly loves you.. He can wait! He will! 4 years is not too long to wait..
For me, I can wait until forever for the guy who is willing to wait for me too! If we really love a person, nothing is impossible! It seems like we can do everything and everything is possible! Like what one said in one of my discussions, in love we are all like a fool!
@annapplez (208)
• Australia
27 Mar 11
That seems to be a really long time to wait. I don't know if I could wait that long for someone, but then again I already have him. If it's true love then it will happen and I sincerely hope for you that he loves you that much to wait that long. It seems you will have a fairytale to share with us all in 2015.
@Aloevera521 (178)
• Australia
27 Mar 11
Okay.
I'll tell U, in 2015
If 2012 is not coming...
(I don't actually believe the Doomsday, Judgment Day, or whatever people call it.
But look back, Japan, it can't say)
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
26 Mar 11
Hi. Aloevera521. Welcome to myLot!
If he says that he is going to wait on you for four years, then take him up on his offer. He has to really love you if he has said this to you. If your family does not approve of your relationship to him and a marriage then, oh well...
If his family wants him to marry you early, then they will have to wait. It is only about you and him. No one should be able to come between your love for each other. If you both agree to wait until four more years, then I wish you all the best of blessings and love.
If he says that he is going to wait on you for four years, then take him up on his offer. He has to really love you if he has said this to you. If your family does not approve of your relationship to him and a marriage then, oh well... If his family wants him to marry you early, then they will have to wait. It is only about you and him. No one should be able to come between your love for each other. If you both agree to wait until four more years, then I wish you all the best of blessings and love.
@llsling (331)
• China
26 Mar 11
I am Chinese,i never got out of my country to the west. But from what i've known of your culture ,i feel kinda surprised that your family won't be approval of your relationship because of being afraid of losing face for having a poor son-in -law. And it kinda makes me feel your family ain't gotten no faith in the people who are not successful temporarily and that's also what i hate 'bout my folks and people around .In addition ,tell what your point is and try to convince your family ,there is no second chance for life ,be yourself ,buddy .
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
If I still have a chance, I will wait no matter how long she wants me to wait though I can't promise I will due to different life circumstances. I may suffer an accident and I would have lost the ability to take care of her due to my injuries. Waiting is something that requires patience but modern life can provide help that the person waiting would be surprised to find that time has passed swiftly.
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
26 Mar 11
Personally i am ok with waiting as long it is not long distance relationship because too far away will made my heart lonely and such.However, if it is closeby i have no problem to wait and such.However far distance relationship is no good for me since i am intimate guy and cannot stay too long without seeing and feeling the gf. I don think i can handle family objection and such.I usually avoid them all.However, if the guy is staying with the family then he have to move out i guess.
@Aloevera521 (178)
• Australia
27 Mar 11
He lives with his friends, Uni guys, rent a house.
We R kind of distance, I stay in somewhere 450km away from him.
We meet once every two weeks. I go 2 his place for a couple of days.
I'm fine with distance, he's okay with that.
@rage35 (344)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
There's nothing wrong to wait 4years if the person really loves you. He can sacrifice if the reward will be marrying you. It's possible that a certain person can wait that long period of time because love do conquer all. If the guy is really serious about loving you, then he can make it to 4 years without any problems. If I am in the same situation, I will also wait how long does it takes because I love the girl, and I want to be with here...Forever.
@Rapuncille (597)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
What's with 2015? Why only then? May i know why your family won't approve of him?
@Aloevera521 (178)
• Australia
26 Mar 11
A very common reason: He's poor.
Don't laugh, I'm sure money is really big problem for many people.
His family is poor. And he has a brother.
Although he's been working very hard since high school, do part-time jobs...
They just don't like him, hate, I should say.
I'm in my early 20s, my family, parents make every decision in the past 20 years. I can't even choose which Jean I buy, must be a brand my mother like, her style, her color. Her taste is really good. my friends are really jealousy. But it's just, surely u can understand, my 20 years of misery.
I won't be able to pay back the money I borrowed from my parents until 2015. I don't even know if I can finish the payment.
See, 20 years, tuition fees, daily spending. from kindergarten to Uni. It's a lot
