How do I help my husband with his dependancy?

United States
March 29, 2011 3:53pm CST
Today my husband went to his doctors appointment. He was told that if he doesn't stop drinking he will be in real trouble health wise. Now, let me clarify somethings. He works 50 hours a week, he doesn't drink while at work but does drink 3 or 4 times at night. He doesn't pass out or black out. He isn't mean or nasty when he drinks. He is also a big guy. A little overweight and tall. I always knew he drank more than the average person, but maybe from denial, I didn't realize it was that bad. The doctor wanted to put him on some pills to help him not drink. He chose to see if we could do this without pills first. I was glad he told me what was said and glad he asked for my help. Now I pose the question...How can I help him? I don't drink much or very often, but I will stop completely. I will take walks with him at night, try to keep his mind off of it. I am looking for ideas. I really want him to succeed in this and I know it will be difficult for all of us. We have been through so much already in our lives and hope to have many more years to spend together. So mylotters, thank you for listening to my plight. I appreciate any ideas or insight anyone can give me.
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5 responses
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Mar 11
I would ask him what help he wants. Does he want you to buy less alchohol? Say something after he's had his second drink, what? Let him tell you...
• United States
29 Mar 11
Thank you for your response. He says he wants all kinds of help but we will see what happens when it really comes down to it. thanks
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
30 Mar 11
I'm so sorry. If it's everyday it seems he have a problem and he has to go to get help like AA or something.
@dodo19 (47082)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Mar 11
I'm sorry to hear about your husband and his situation. I think that the best thing to do is to talk to him about it, and maybe even talk to his doctor about what he might suggest. I think that this might be the best thing. There are a lot of options, but not all might be the best for your husband. I do hope that you are able to find a solution to your problem.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
29 Mar 11
first he needs to realise his problems. there's nothing you can do as long as he doesn't accept them. it's all about his will of changing. try listening to him and be there for him whenerver he needs you
@azskull (90)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
I admit that habit is hard to break..I'm a drunkard buddy before but my wife change me.,how she did it? I guess by bringing me along with every time she goes out I mean she wanted to be with me always.,she create the fashion and togetherness oftentimes she would call me and arrange me for something like going out just to see the beautiful sunset in the afternoon then drop by some store to buy for food then goes home and she is the listener type she always wanted me to tell what had happen to me for the past 8 hours that I'm working..what did i do.,where did i eat my lunch..she always wanted to stay at my sight after office hour,but she ask it nicely to me every time..no man can say no to her wife,if the wife ask it with so much alluring and respectful manner..with using the line..honey can you stay with me tonight? because i miss you so much..and i think no husband can say no to that...