My "little" love story.

Portugal
March 30, 2011 4:11pm CST
Here's my little "love" story. So there's this girl that I met about 5 months ago. We met at school, at the entrance to be more specific. A friend of mine "introduced" me to her. My friend was after her. But they didn't feel nothing for each other so between them it's over. They were both at the entrance and so I asked if I could go with them to the bus stop so that I wouldn't go home alone. And so I went with them to the bus stop. I liked her personality since the first time I saw her there. So once, I was on messenger and I asked my friend to add me to a conversation with her. And that's where I got her e-mail. So I started to talk more with her. At first I, basically, tought that I wanted something with her. Because she was a very nice girl. But then I realized that I wasn't getting in love with her. So I started hanging out with her as a friend. We were together a lot of time because we liked each other company. As the time went by I started to realize that she was talking to me in a different way. On the text messages she was calling me different names. She was "teasing" me. Calling me names like "cute" constantly and from that moment I started to realize that she was on to something. Then, as the time went by, while she kept on teasing me, she couldn't hold on to her feelings and she said what I suspected... she said that she liked me. When she told me that she liked me I wasn't really surprised. Because I could tell that she liked me and I already knew. She asked if I felt the same way about her. I responded directly that no, I didn't felt the same way about her. I was kinda harsh on her. I said "not really". She said that there was no problem and that she was happy to know the truth about my feelinga about her. She actually cried when I said no and responded that way to her... So after that we kept on with our lives. I backed off from her since she said this to me. Because at the time I was finding her to be quite annoying to be honest. Always calling me those names. And so because of that I didn't talk so much to her for about three weeks. After that time I started to give her a little more confidence to her because I realized that the way that I said no to her was wrong. I didn't respect her feelings and simply said no without saying sorry or anything. So I had to redeem what I did. And so we started talking more again. We were actually talking a lot at this time. I took her to the bus stop a few times and I was with her at school more often. One day,I was on skype talking to a friend of mine wich I talk with everyday and I added her to the conversation. I introduced them to each other since that I was the first time they talked. After she left, I showed to my friend her Facebook page and talked about her to him. He really liked what I said about her and got interested. So he started to talk to her more often until he got her cell phone number. So they talked and talked and they started to get really close. Then my friend wanted to meet up with her in real life. So we went on a Saturday, me, him and her to have a walk to the beach. And so that's where they met. They really liked each other and so they marked another date. In that date they started "flirting". They only dated for 1 week and we're only together 2 times. Then they broke up. My friend told him the whole story about him and her. He really has a lot of confidence with me and he wanted to unburden to me. So he telled me the whole thing. He said that basically she was dating him to basically try to forget me... yes, she still liked me. She didn't continue with my friend because she basically couldn't like 2 persons at the same time. Nobody can. She was trying to like him but she was already in love with me so she didn't want to hurt him by being with him but not liking him and being constantly thinking about me. And so I kept this story to my self without telling her anything. So the other day at school I decided to go and talk with her about this and she told me the whole story (that I already knew). She told me face to face that she still liked me and at the moment I didn't had the courage to answer to that so I didn't say anything. Yes it was a little awkward, but I didn't have the courage, not my fault. So when I arrived home she was online on messenger and I told her what I felt for her. Before that I asked her something that I predicted.. that was that she was so obsessed for me that just for giving her that little attention of taking her to the bus stop and just for being a little bit more with her she tought that I was showing interest for her. I asked if that was true and she confirmed it. So after that I told her what I really felt and she was okay with it. She told me that she just didn't wanted to lose me as a friend because of the things she done to try to forget me. I told that she was one of the best girls I met in my life. I told that she's the type of girl that I wanted as a girlfriend but I didn't felt nothing for her. I can't be with a girl that I don't like. We don't choose who we love. So we decided to be just friends. At the end I said that maybe one day I could like her because love is unpredictable. Bottom line is that this time I said no but I said it correctly and without hurting her. And maybe made her a bit happy with that last phrase. Who knows that one day we can be together, right? =P And so that's my "little" love story. If you would like to comment about it you are free to do it and also I would like you guys to post your love storys here if you have one and if you feel like it. All your commentarys are appreciated as long as they aren't flaming/spamming. Very much appreciated.
2 responses
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
30 Mar 11
Well I used to think our story was pretty sweet. I guess it still is even though our marriage is falling apart now. I actually met my husband in the first grade. I even have pictures that we were both in. My mom chaperoned our field trip and he was put into our group. We weren't together at that point, I don't even remember talking to him. He is very quiet and shy. Well in 10th grade he moved back to our school. I was one of the few people who remembered who he was. I felt bad for him having to move back into a school where he was basically new again. I invited him to start hanging out with our group of friends. I had a boyfriend at the time. So for two years we all hung out together. Our senior year I started to notice him a little bit. Especially right after school let out. He wore this black tank top and his arms were nice and muscular. I was still with my boyfriend though even though it wasn't going well. (He had cheated on me the year before so things had been shaky since) One day in the summer he showed up to visit me at my work. I worked at a pretty laid back daycare so they didn't care that he hung out. He started visiting often and driving me to work or picking me up. Before I knew it I was in love with him. We used to have great conversations. I couldn't imagine my life without him. I broke up with my boyfriend and he and I started dating. We were already roommates at that point and we've been together ever since. This July will be our 10th anniversary. I hope that we can make it through this terrible patch we have hit but I'm not sure.
@XiaoLin (289)
• Italy
31 Mar 11
From the way you talk about you two it seems to me that you still love him a lot. Does he know? If I were you I would let him read what you wrote...
@Filigs (122)
• Portugal
31 Mar 11
What XiaoLin said is so true, I totally agree with him, you really should tell him to read this, he will like I'm pretty sure of that...
• Portugal
31 Mar 11
Yes, it's really a incredible story. The love is really hard to explain, just happen. When happen, we can't do anything with that. As you said, and as i said, we don't choose about love someone, even when we want forget that person, and basically, don't worth. So, because that, i'm not sad with you, because i know, you can't choose. Ilike be your friend, and just this, already is very important to me, really it is. So, i'm not sad. :) ...you said: "she was dating him to basically try to forget me." Is not true! Befora, i have said to him that i wanted forget you, and saw you just like a friend and he too.. and we hadn't others intentions each other. But we started talking a lot, and he made me felt so good, i dnt know aa I know that i did, was wrong... i couldn't started to talk with him "that more" s: I just thought that i could, but i didn't. I made a mistake, but i learned.
@Filigs (122)
• Portugal
31 Mar 11
People learn from the mistakes they do, thats just the way of life, you can't live without doing a mistake, no one is perfect, you aren't an exception. Since we all have read this, I'm the other guy of the story, the guy that was with "likeastar" for a week, and I, hardly, apologised her, because shes so nice, I don't want to loose her as a friend, but after what she did to me I can't have more than that with her. You got feelings and you know what mistakes you do and you admit it and try to fix what you do, that's just nice and I really admire you for that, thats why I apologised you, and if you don't hurt me anymore I dont think you will ever loose me as a friend :)