Keeping our love alive???
By melvelasco
@melvelasco (356)
Philippines
March 31, 2011 10:09pm CST
On our 9th year wedding anniversary last 22 march, my husband and I realized with amazement that we have been together for almost 10 years now. An entire decade! Before we met my husband was famous for his very friendly to woman, within almost a decade there are the time that we have boredom, I mean everyday routine... wake up early preparing him for work, and then also the kids preparing them for school, doing some work inside home etc... sometimes I feel bored specially when my husband never appreciated the things I'ved done...Sometimes I'm asking myself if "Am I too much expectation from him" I miss those time telling me that he loves and asking if I am alright..I miss those time. How about you mylot friend have you felt sometime you are bored with your relationship? If yes what did you?
8 responses
@DanaS2011 (351)
• United States
1 Apr 11
Ten years is a very long time and I can see how things can be boring.Have you tried to be innovating and do some of the things your husband use to love to help him remember who he fell in love with and why or do you talk about the past in a dreamy way to let him know that you miss these things. Write down all the things you love about your partner and see if he will do the same then swap list and I bet by the time you are both done reading each others list you both will feel like each other deserves a huge affectionate kiss
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@melvelasco (356)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
thank you for suggestion, one of this day I'll try that.. My husband so busy.
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
Well, congratulations! You are passed that 7 year itch. My husband and I have been married for 26 years, still in love and happy together. Those usual routine were part of married life so you should not be burned out by them. I can only suggest that you unwind once in a while, leave the children to your nannies or grand parents and go out of town you two, so can keep the love burning. Cheers!
@melvelasco (356)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
Well CONGRATULATIONs!! I really admire those relationship still keep growing, I hope and pray that our relationship grow like yours or even more.. He was so busy the only time we've been together is when we are buying food to the market, and buying some school supplies for our kids. Maybe that's a date.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
1 Apr 11
Me and my wife have been together for more than 18 years.
And there are times, we even joke,
"Aren't you bored with our lives, honey?"
"Why don't we try something new for a change?" 
But no we aren't.
Even with our jobs,
Sometimes we feel the same boredom,
When you are always doing the same thing everyday.
Nothing had changed for ages.
Just say "I love you" to him everyday.
And let him answer that with "I love you too, honey".
This worked with us very well,
And I hope this will also work with you too.
Unless, one of you stopped loving the other.
Or one of you may have found a new love. 
But no we aren't.
Even with our jobs,
Sometimes we feel the same boredom,
When you are always doing the same thing everyday.
Nothing had changed for ages.
Just say "I love you" to him everyday.
And let him answer that with "I love you too, honey".
This worked with us very well,
And I hope this will also work with you too.
Unless, one of you stopped loving the other.
Or one of you may have found a new love. @neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
1 Apr 11
That's okay, continue doing that.
Your husband is just like me before.
And my wife is the one who always initiates it.
@melvelasco (356)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
My husband not a type of a man always telling that he loves me, he is kind of person that is so quiet and I was the one always telling that I love him, and his answer i love you too and kiss and embrace me, but he never said it first.
@miranda521 (427)
• China
1 Apr 11
First,congratulations!So great!
The photo is your sweethearts?Are they triplet?Which is so small ,and they look the same,so cute,and in same clothes.
Men always get used to our presence,and always forget to appreciate what we have done,or they are lazy to say the honey words.But,they always love us and love our family.They just forget or is so lazy or busy.But I think we must tell them our feelings,and we need their honey words.
@melvelasco (356)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
Thanks miranda for response, me and my husband seems forget to go on dates maybe because we had lot of kids and we are both busy, I think our dates is when we go to the market together and eating halo-halo to our neighbor's store.. but in fairness to him he never forget to call me love... by the way the three kids appear to my avatar is my youngest daughters. yes they are triplet and they are 5 years of age.
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
1 Apr 11
Relationships do change over the years, it doesn't mean the dedication isn't there. Now you have a family, and you work together as a team to raise your family. It's like a comradship, I suppose. I think it's really good to have the family together like this, especially since the divorce rate is so high. Anyway, sometimes a relationship gets so comfortable we tend to let down our hair and end up taking for granted the things the other spouse does or doesn't do. Perhaps a good old chat will help if you're facing some issues. When you two are relaxed, anyway.
My husband and I go out on little dates here and there, always on our wedding anniversary, and sometimes it's spontaneous.
I just made a choice to love my husband, after all, he's a family member! :-)
@melvelasco (356)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
Thank you masihi for visiting mylott, It's right this is my choice to love my husband, and to love him unconditionally to make our relationship grow and keep growing.
@areshstarfreak (238)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
It is unevitable to experience boredom in a relationship especially if it has gone through a long period. I, myself have experienced such. As adviced by my boyfriend, whenever our relationship gets dry, he said that one has just to reminisce the first few days that we've spent together those happy moments we had. I followed such advice and it really works. Why won't you try it yourself. Of course, share this as well to your husband. i hope I was able to help you.
@melvelasco (356)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
thank you for your suggestion, i will try that one, I think i could help..
@shynepapin101 (1879)
• United Arab Emirates
1 Apr 11
Bringing back relationships is a feelings no one would say they don't relate with or sometimes think about. I as an individual have so many issues in relationships with friends, girlfriends and even parents, its quite bad not to feel bad when you are missing those few peoples who takes most of their time to make you happy.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
1 Apr 11
I think it doesn't to feel like being in the stars all the time, when it seems it's boring or something is gone just to give it a time cause I think it is another part of the relationship.
Now going out, remembering the begining or some other good times is a great way to get into the feeling of the rush again.
Giving a present, going out for a week or weekend of romance it's also a nice option, if the couple date again then it will be fine, I think datings bring all a couple need.
