does that kind of person worth your love?
By betty110
@betty110 (66)
China
April 1, 2011 7:55am CST
I am a little angry and sad now. To tell the truth, I love a boy. We were lovers before. But right now, we are struggling our relationship.
Once before, we are nearly get married. Because I was pregnant at that time. But he and his family would not like to marry me, because there is a tradition here, people could not get married in his calendar year. But I could not understand, I was pregnant about 4-5 monthes already, why he avoid to take the responsibility to marry a girl who will devote all her own to him. I was so sad during that period.
Right now, his calendar year has passed, and he start a proposal with me. I do not know I should be happy or sad now.
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8 responses
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
we dont have that kind of tradition here, but i do respect anybodys tradition. maybe he just followed the tradition that he can not marry in his calendar year which i do not understand but again i respect traditions. now that he is proposing again to you then you need to think and make sure what you want. you can not marry just because... you marry because... got my point? marriage is a sacred thing. if you will marry its because you love him and you want to be her wife, do not marry just because you are pregnant. good luck. hope your decision is what you like to happen.
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@betty110 (66)
• China
1 Apr 11
My dear friend.Thank you for your quick reply and thank you that you can consider for me. Yes, I think I should consider well, as you said, I will marry him for what or don't marry him because.. Thank you. That is a good way to talk with your real heart.
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@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
i think that this is the time you have been waiting for! he really loves you so much because he kept his word of marrying you right after his calendar year. This is your chance to have a complete family of your own. Good luck betty. Happly mylotting!
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
Well, look at it this way, that calendar year was a good time for you to really think. Are you really sure you're doing this because you love the person and would devote all her own to him? or did you want to get married because you were pregnant?
Perhaps his ideals and tradition is really important that is why he'd rather follow what the parents says.
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@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
6 Apr 11
You need to look back and answer some questions from yourself like:
1. Did he show his affection to you even when he could not marry you at the time?
2. Did his family take care of your while you were pregnant?
3. Do you still love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him?
@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
Be happy my dear. Love is full of sacrifices, even if it means that you'll forgive what he's done to you. Maybe he's so in to the tradition and really waited for it to pass and marry you. And besides, think about your baby, do you want him/her to be born nameless?...Forgive and forget and you'll be happy :)
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
I think your bf is not having excuses,like you wrote here,it's tradition,then respect about it.
Besides your bf is now asking you to marry him and will take all the responsibility.
This means that,he only follows tradition and he was caught between love and tradition.
Accept him,he's asking for good now.
If you really loved him,you must love his family and accept his tradition too.
@huruxiao (39)
• China
2 Apr 11
Oh,you needn't to know you should be happy or sad,you just need to feel you are happy or sad.if you feel happy you can happy.and you need to know he and his family don't marry you really only because tradition,you know you were pregnant about 4-5 monthes already and that time,don't marrying really hurted you.Of course,if he and his family really will like to marry you,you shall receive his proposal.since you love he.
