Dont say yes when you mean no!
By Gothicana
@Gothicana (458)
United States
April 1, 2011 2:12pm CST
When I was younger I had a big problem.I never could say no cause I was afraid that I hurt people with that.
Here an example:When I went to work(I was taking care of disable people)any coworker could ask me if I can make a double shift and even when I had something better to do then that I said yes.
Later they even didnt ask me if I make a extra shift they only said make my shift.
Finally a friend of mine gave me a book the title was How to learn to say no,and i needed 5 years with babysteps how to learn to say no,but I am feeling much better now.
I was wondering if enybody is out there who has the same problem
1 response
@zukichucha (991)
• United States
1 Apr 11
I do not have a problem with saying no. I did have a problem with asking someone for help or for something because I was so scared they would tell me no. It would get to the point where I would be petrified of hearing no and would worry myself sick. But when I told my mother my fear she told me that I would never know what someone would say unless I tried. The worst thing that could happen is that they say no. They are not going to belittle you or assault you. This made it much easier for me.
Your case is the opposite. You are worried you will hurt them by saying no. My advice to you is the same. You are just saying no. You are not going to yell at them or harm them. Most likely, they will just ask someone else.
@Gothicana (458)
• United States
8 Apr 11
No, I am a long time over that,I am finally my own person but it needed me 5 years of hard work to get there where I am today.
You are totaly right with what you are saying.You have to try it or you will be a slave for the others
