The price of commitments
By nuemann
@nuemann (332)
United States
April 10, 2011 1:59am CST
What is the price of commitment in a relationship with a woman who you care about so much but you are not financially strong enough to work the relationship when you are committed in marriage. Now if you want to forstall the loss in the interest and bond alive later in life, what would you do? I intend foregoing the committal thing until am capable enough to hold the relationship later in life! What do you think?
4 responses
@nuemann (332)
• United States
10 Apr 11
Yeah definately! Its more expensive to get married and stay married happily! What i meant was that when you do not have a stable source of income it becomes a little hard to maintain a relationship that is suppose to end at the altar. Most relationships are maintained on the fly so committing to a relationship that might head for the rocks for lack of funds is a problem!
@doidgesidhuonline (55)
• Canada
10 Apr 11
I was in a committed relationship and now I am married to that person, and it is no further cost financially. Yes, weddings are expensive, but you don't need to have an expensive wedding if you can't afford it.
If your relationships is going to end for lack of funds, then you shouldn't get married.
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
10 Apr 11
You can still have a relationship while working things out financially. Hold the marriage thing for a while so you can save enough and then when you think the time is right, then you can finally settle down. It is important that you are confident in taking care of your financial needs too.
@nuemann (332)
• United States
10 Apr 11
Thank you very much for the wonderful piece of advice you gave! Well, you do understand my point and though am sticking to your advice, the lady doesn't want to understand and she is so damn bent on the vows taking the fore front of every issue we talk about these days! She thinks its not expensive to marry but am trying to understand just how to make her see that we can marry on our present state but the fire might not burn for long!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
10 Apr 11
If you're really committed to a person, you have to treat that person as part of your life. There'll always be compromises, of course, if you're committing on something or someone so you have to be ready for those.
@TriniTU (141)
• Philippines
28 Jul 17
I think there's no price in commitment..but there's value. If you love each other truly and you are committed to work the relationship in a long-term or till you die, of course you both should be ready to the possibility of tying the knot. But then, it doesn't have to be compromised to the extent of being broke after the marriage. I mean, why get married expensively if you know you can't afford? The bond between two person who loves each other does not depend on how much money you spent on each other. You are capable enough to work things out because both of you decides to work things out,not because either of you is ready to be broke..if my point is clear.
