The wheels of the Gods grind slowly lol I have just got one more point

@Hatley (164094)
Garden Grove, California
April 10, 2011 10:35am CST
oh my got to be careful here so as not to make a milestone discussion and there by be deleted. Just thinking how long it takes whem you have a large number in your star to raise just one point. after months at 92 I just routinely expected to see the same old 92 in my nice red star and voila it reads now 93 so progress in our stars move very slow. now my fellow mylotters how many of us are really rating every one as we should instead of just skipping over this detail? It does help but only if we all do it just routinely. oh I know we are suppose to rate plus only if its outstandikng but still a lot are good and all should be plused or just reported if you feel they deserve a minus. too many here minus only because the person had different views than y ou which my lot itself says is not a reason to minus anyone.
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@mysdianait (66224)
• Italy
10 Apr 11
Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!! It still works! It takes ages because you have so many posts but you will be blue one day! Too many are minusing for none of the reasons that you mention Hatley but simply because it is the only way that they can can get their kicks!
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 11
hi diana y es indeed it does work. I admit I do sometimes forget to rate but if I do this while I am making a response it does become sort of automatic then. I hate it that some minus just to get some sick charge out of it. cou ld it be jealousy or just pure spite?
• United States
10 Apr 11
So well deserved and underdeserved Mrs. Hatley! You if anyone deserves to be on the top of all charts with a BLUE star. It does take longer to achieve the lift in points but sadly some play with ours. We have no choice as good people to continue to be us and hope someday the abusers stop. If not oh well, Mrs. Hatley you have shown me to remain as we are and continue doing our best. Sadly some neg simply out of spite, not much we can do outside of never allowing anyone to change our characters. You are a fine example Mrs. Hatley!
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 11
hi hardworkinggurl thanks for the kind words. I keep telling myself I am not here just for a blue star but because I love coming here and sharing and caring for all my mylot friends. I remind myself that these who love to minus are almost to be pitied because evidently they have no other life than just to be spiteful and pull others stars down, I believe they are driven by jealousy and spite, two emotions that will ultimately do them in too.Spite and hate are two real killers according to medical studies. I hated my dad for years because he molested me as a little girl until my dear husband saw it was really making me ill doing all that hating. he suggested I go tell my dad I forgave him, ask him why he would do just a thing to a child. so I did just that, and he refused to even answer my question. I told him also that I still respected him as he was my father. however I would not let him be alone with my son when he was little. I never forgot the incident but I did forgive him. the hatered was gone and I felt like I was now free of an unseen weight on my shouldrs.So hatred only hurts the hater not the one who was hated. my husband taught me a valuable lesson there.
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• United States
10 Apr 11
And that lesson your wonderful husband taught you spills over to you teaching us to be true to ourselves. I owe you a great deal for showing me the way early on in my membership. It is because of you that I have progressed as a person on myLot, offering my humble advice where ever I can. Thinking only that I can allow someone to vent and I can hear them out. You told me to remain true to me, and I remind myself that daily.
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@saphrina (31650)
• South Africa
10 Apr 11
Hi sweetie. Whether we deserve that darn - or not, that thing is freaky. Keep it up, i might add another color one of these days. What do you think of a nice baby blue?
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 11
sahhy oh good you sound much happier today. yay. yes maybe baby blue 'think we would look great in baby blue. anyway blue is my favorite color but reds okay.
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@saphrina (31650)
• South Africa
10 Apr 11
We love the same color then.
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• India
10 Apr 11
Brought it for me too. I'll give my all mylot 95 referals ok?
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@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
10 Apr 11
Mine was red for some days, next suddenly it became yellow, and for about a month is is still yellow, may be due to my less activity here, i have many comments to be made on responses to my discussions, some are yet to be resolved.. After that i expect a transition to blue through red, hope your health is better i find difficulty in walking, so also hubby.. Thanks for the discussion Happy posting, cheers. Namastey. Kalyani
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 11
hi Kalyni I a m better now but at breakfast it was so cold and my twisted knee was screaming i am gold so had to ask for a pain pill. I had my red go yellow too then red for several days before it started to climb just a little. hope for blue some day. you know diabetes sometimes can be the pits, one day you are fine then your legs hurt the next day. last night my blood sugar dropped to 52 and I was really shaking. but thank goodness I kept some hard candy on hand so solved that problem. it was nice to find just now I have reached to 93 specially as I got up and my blood sugar was too high. I overdid the hard candy. hope your legs are better now. odd but when my hubby was alive we also both were diabetics.Do not fret your star will move soon to red again then to blue. yay do take care. love hugs from hatley.
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• Philippines
12 Apr 11
Hi everyone. I am trying hard to become blue. I had been inactive for quite awhile, but now I'am back. I hope it turns blue soon. I saw one lotter here with less than 300 and had gone blue. Wow! Wished I could do that.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Apr 11
hi kathyglim yes me too I once had a blue star too but trolls took it down toi a five so reported them, they were caught and kicked out but mylot only put me back to an 8 so I worked up to a 9 and now maybe one day a ten.
@dpk262006 (58071)
• Delhi, India
10 Apr 11
HI! I am in the same boat as you are. My rating is almost similar to you for months together, it neither decreases nor increases. I do hope that my good friends here rate me positively and some of them forget to rate.. I enjoy love and respect of my friends here rather than star rating and I know I have some very good friends here.
@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 11
hi dpk I did notice you also had much the same thing with your star too. I think you were here when I joined. I did have a blue once but gremlins] thought they would fix me they stayed up all night minusing every thing I had posted so went down to a five so reported it to mylot admind. they caught the two men and they were kicked out but I was put back up only to a yellow so over the last years I did manage to get up to a red. now aqm hoping to reach blue star one day. but anyway I do so enjoy just being here and sharing and caring with all my mylot friends more than anything. anyway 93 per cent is a nice number so there.
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@dpk262006 (58071)
• Delhi, India
11 Apr 11
I am here for pretty long time and am startled to hear that you star rating once went down to five due to some mischievous users' activities. I agree with you that 93% if pretty good score and it is appreciable.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Apr 11
hi dpk I am happy with 93 percent as it helps my earnings and its a respectful amount. but of course if I got blue I would not cry. lol lol
• United States
10 Apr 11
You can count on me Hatley, I always rate the discussions I respond to with a plus sign. And the responses after that too. It is a habit with me now to do this as it helps that person along. That is of course, unless it's just downright nasty or someone looking for money. There are too many people here who just don't bother or rate with a negative for their fun because they don't agree. It's a shame they have nothing better to do but create havoc.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 11
hi kashmeresmycat this is my second time to make a comment so copy to clipboard.I have been pretty good at doing that rating automatically as I respond to other's discussions but sometimes I do forget. so I am now making myself consciously do this as I respond then it becomes a habit. I think a lot of newbies will not do anything here if it does not pay them which is sad and kind of sick. have we all got so money hungry we cannot do things that do not rake in a penny but do help us and our mylot friends?I mean I know our economy is bad but not that bad?
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Apr 11
I do agree we can make enough to pay a bill but what we get in help and friendshop to me is so much more important. I was so lonely and lose 'when I treired not having a lot of money to do like some retirees and travel all over plus my crippled leg does n ot help either. but my fingers and my keyboard and internet take me all over the world and I enjoy friends from places I will never get to see but I learn all bout them too. Like my friend in Thailand who tells me all the time about the beautiful weather there. had I not been on mylot I would never have met him and thats so good.
@ANTIQUELADY (36457)
• United States
12 Apr 11
HI HATLEY, Hope all is well w/u. I rate everybody. I think that's the least we can do for our felloe mylotters. The omly time i minus anybody is when they are rude in some way. That does not happen often, thank heavens.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Apr 11
hi antiquelady I did get out of the habit so now am trying to always remember. I have not given a minus for ages but if someone insults my mylot friends I will minus them. lol.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36457)
• United States
16 Apr 11
i Know u are loyal to youe friends & i love that in u or anyone. U sure took up for me one time & i really did appreciate it. I would do the same as u if somone was being ugly to one of my friends. Hope your weekend is going well.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 11
hi antiquelady six days well maybe I am getting caught up. I have been skipping back and forth between responding to my friends discussions and commenting on my own disscussions and seemingly never quite get'caught up. but am trying .
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• United States
11 Apr 11
Hatley I do not know how your star ever dropped to a 9 as you are not very opinionated in your responses and never confrontational. You just sail along never rocking the boat. I never check my star as first of all I really speak my mind. I give my opinion regardless whether some members do not agree (or even like what I say) with my views which attracts trolls and all their friends who all go on a campaign of negging (-) every post. In other words I do not think the star is a true indication of one's reputation as it can be too easily manipulated.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Apr 11
hi whiteheather oh the trolls got to me early on as they hated my disucssion saying smoking is bad for your health. two men were caught spending all night minusing me just because I wou ld not cave in and agree that smoking was not dangerous to your health,. thats when I decided to stay away from controvery. the admins caught the men and booted them out but only gave me back my star to am 8. no the star system is definitely flawed I think. as gpod people can be minused down to fives.It does help our earnings though to be at least a 9 or 10
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
18 Apr 11
I do understand the milestone discussion being deleted. I have had that happen and as a matter of fact I had the first reponse to this discussion taken away cuz MYLOT thought I needed to log in. It's no wonder I don't do much on mylot any more. This is the second time and they don't seem to understand my personal problems. But as it goes, you are right. Hang in there, hugs, quita
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 11
hi quita I am cheating and have for a long time as I just stay logged in and bypass so many problems that way. I am on and off mylot all day so no sense in going off and on all day. I had that log in thing happen to me and it has to be a glitch as I was already logged in. hugs frrom hatleyh and Happy Easter.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 11
hi I am getting better only a few days late here.lol. No Easter eggs here it was so odd but I think because people are so afraid to upset people who are not religious they did hardly anything here to celebrate what to me is a religious Holiday;no eggs no candy no hyms no nothing well MOnday they called it a party lunch in that we had chicken pot pie and a saldad with a tiny sliver of watermelon. that is a p arty? the sliver of watermelon was supposedly our desert. I think something went wrong in the kitchen and they opted out on dessert.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
29 Apr 11
Well, don't complain too much.I didn't have an Easter her either. WE are just two old faR%s living alone and the grandkids have better th ings to do. WE had chicken noodle soup LOL
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@MsTickle (25214)
• Australia
15 Apr 11
I don't know why it is the way it is Hatley. If anyone should have a blue star, it's you and many that have blue stars absolutely do not deserve to have them. My own star has been 93 for a while now, I was once blue too. It has gone to 94 for a day ...twice I think but it goes back within 24 hours
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Apr 11
hi mstickle I once was 100 percent 10 and because I irked these two trolls they stayed up all night minusing me from ten to a 5. I contacted mylot. they had some way of finding out who it was and] it was all because I made a discussion that smoking was a killer'and I wou ld not change dmy opinion to theirs.so they shot me down to a five but mylot kicked them out and upped me but only to an 8 then I worked myself up to an 9 and that is okay . 93 percent is a good percentage.
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@MsTickle (25214)
• Australia
17 Apr 11
That's wrong. You should have been put back to a blue star at least. I wouldn't mind except that it affects our earnings.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Apr 11
hi mstickle I never did figure out why they did not just return me to a blue unless some of the guys pals kept negging me bu t anyway Im getting up there now. lol
@zralte (4183)
• India
10 Apr 11
After all the discussions about how a member's star rating has gone down, it is indeed refreshing to read about the increment. Like mysD mentioned, you, obviously would take a longer time to push it up even by 1 as you have more than 40,000 under your belt. Let's all hope that we all can be responsible in our rating system and NOT abuse it. Earlier today, I left a comment on one discussion in which one responses said 'You can use the neg button if you don't agree with the member or you disliked the member', Gosh...horrors of horrors . I corrected him straightaway that that should not be the case.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 11
lost my comment and my roomies adding to my irriataion by nonstop talking. okay copy paste clipboard each evedry word. I have heard this same refrain from one newbie who has never read any mylot information yet made up rules and gave them to other newbies She said you can rate negative if the person has an opposing viewpoint or you dislike the person. and I am going say what?!Where did they get this?not from mylot thats for sure.listen all newbies do not minus anyone because you just dislike them or because their opinoinon is not matching yours. do not minus thats against mylot guidelines. read the info. read the info please.
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@zralte (4183)
• India
10 Apr 11
It is sad how many members don't read the information FREELY available here. Some members started saying something authoritatively and some other one just took that to be true without verifying it. I don't know which one is worse, the one who started it or the one who does not check. Aaaaannnddd.....they complain that their discussion get deleted or their earning/reputation is not increasing..... May be myLot should make it mandatory that no member can start posting discussion or commenting on a discussion without reading the FAQs...Wait...they will not let you register without agreeing to the term and not many seems to have read that either
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Apr 11
hi zralte its sad whenthey do not even read the terms then come up all wounded because something happened to them .I think your response should be instegated by mylot admins. it wou ld save a lot of problems for sure.
@jujunme (2514)
• United States
10 Apr 11
Hi Hatley: Terrific!if anyone deserves a ratings jump, it's you!it just goes to show, that even when you have a high point total,people that use the rating system for what it was meant for,can be a big help in raising a members star to somewhat where it should be. It just goes to show that we can have "some" control over those who for whatever reason use the rating system for their own purposes other than what it was meant for.I always said that if our responses are respectful and of substance, we should (+) those who took the time to respond to or discussions and should do so regularly.
@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 11
hi jujunme thanks for the kind words. I am going to be a lot more careful to rate from now on as the system really does work if a bit slowly. I used to do this as a habbit then I got lazy and now its time to go back to being more careful to rate always as its helps all of us. I just hope newcomers will also follow this and do not minus people just because you do not like them or do not agree with thbem as if they made a quality response they deserve to be plussed.
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@dragon54u (31623)
• United States
10 Apr 11
The only time I minused anyone is when I saw someone that was just plain rude and offensive with no contribution other than spite. If I don't like their opinion, I don't do anything. I routinely, plus the person I'm responding to and when the entire discussion appears after I submit, I try to take time to plus the other respondents. Although I don't care about the color of my star, it is nice to see it rated highly!
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 11
hi dragon54u I am the same way only when I see someone really insulting the poster and all the others then I do minus but usually I will just hit the exclamation point and report. all others I do plus if I can remember to do so. I a m now going to be even more diligent. It is like you say its nice to see my self rated more highly
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@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
10 Apr 11
Since the rules say we are to rate discussions, I've made it a habit to rate BEFORE I reply on EVERY discussion/response/comment. I read the discussion & if I decide to respond, the first thing I do is hit the + button. If somebody takes the time to respond to one of my discussions they automatically get a + from me. If I don't agree with what they have to say, I just pass them over & do "nothing". Some people say things that don't make sense or I can tell they didn't even read the discussion before responding & then I hit the - button. It has ALWAYS amazed me around here how fast a star can drop & how long it takes to go up. I PO'd one person not long after I first started & mine dropped 3 points overnight. I've read that it takes 15 hits to affect a star. I find it hard to believe I ticked off 45 people that night mine dropped. Maybe I did, but I seriously doubt it!!!! I TOTALLY AGREE with you that EVERYBODY should make it a top priority to rate EVERY post they come in contact with!!!! And I think they need to learn that the - button is NOT there to show disapproval of a response!!! I consider doing nothing as showing my disapproval as I'm not upping their rating. Then there are some people who disagree with me who do it in a way that's so well said that I just have to give them a +
@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 11
You know in a way just because you do not agree does not mean you do not need to give them a plus as they did not do anything to hurt you but just think for themselves which is all our rights. so in other wor ds a lot of people will not rate us simply because they do not agree this is almost as bad as minusing. I hate this attitude as its saying only those you agree with are worth rating. so this is why a lot of us are sitting on stars for months or a year before we move up at all. in other words only people who agree with us get rated at all. this thinking is keeping hundreds of us from moving up and making more earnings. thoughtless I feel. If the response is well writtten and makes sense even if it is not matching your ideas why not just plus them as it will help all of us.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 11
that last paragraph is totally insulting and y ou must think me an old idiot not to know that. I have made many more discussions than you have and have many friends here. you did not need to write all that down as I am not blind nor senile.I know all that i have read it many times.this comment had been rewritten several times as my lot glitch keeps erasing it.I do thank you for plusing someone whom you seem to dislike totally.so we interpret all that differently so what .,we both have the same rights to do as we both see fit. okay. lady I had a blue star and 99 percent rating the first year I was here and some two men minused me down to a five= I reported the overnight drop a nd mylot watched and caught them and they were booted out. so I had a blue star then was just put up to a 8 and since then have made it to a 9. please do not lecture me further. I do not need it nor your insincerity and false advice.
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
10 Apr 11
Hey Miss Hatley, I really understand your frustration. When I first joined mylot, like many, I neglected to read all the guidlines. So it took me a little while to realize what the rating system was. As you know, I am not a regular responder anymore because of health issues but I try and keep up with your posts and many more that I've grown fond of. As for rating, not everyone is a writer. But I will rate a positive if they put some real effort into their response. Anything less than 2 or 3 lines is not rated at all by me. I don't believe in a negative rating for anything but a vicious response. Sweetie, remember you are here for the interaction of all the wonderful friends we have come to love as a family. That is the only reason I won't let go. You are worth a thousand stars so just know that we love you. Leenie
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I had no idea how my star was doing but I rely on my friends and the love and care they show me.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 11
hi leenie oh I d o so appreciate all the kind words that have been given to me here. right its the coming here and sharing and caring thats the most important things here. but if we wish to see our earning increase a little its good to have higher ratings as the rating do affect our earnings here. I rate almost e veryone postitive as they put in the effort to respond and to reach out to their fellow my lotters. too m any rate negative for every little thing. this is going way way too far.
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@gabs8513 (48703)
• United Kingdom
22 Apr 11
Hi Sweet Well it took me ages to to get the blue back I don't know why it took so long or why it is taking so long for anyone to get their Points back But you will get there Big hugs
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 11
hi gabs yes I remember that so am hoping maybe in months ahead I will see blue yes I will get there by and by. hugs to you and my little man in the doggie suit Gissi.
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@millertime (1396)
• United States
17 Apr 11
You are right when you say that people minus rate for all the wrong reasons. It is a major flaw in the whole rating system but I don't know how MyLot could fix it. They can't really control about how people decide to use or misuse the rating system. I don't do a lot of posting here but I know I can post 20 good responses to various discussions and not receive any positive ratings, but just one post to a political discussion that certain people don't agree with and my rating will drop overnight. That is actually one of the reasons I became a little disillusioned with MyLot and don't spend very much time here. I can make much better use of my writing time on other sites where I don't have to worry about the whims of users that simply might not agree with a view I have on a subject, or even had on a subject 2 months ago. I always try to make a worthy response, on topic, never disrespect anyone, etc. but that obviously doesn't matter. I actually spend more time on MyLot reading discussions and responses than I do writing them. I read a lot of the work of people in my friends list and others that for the life of me, I can't figure out why they have the rating number that they do. Some that I just don't understand how they ever achieved a 10 rating and others that clearly deserve it but don't have it. I really don't think the system works the way they want it to and it probably never will. That's just the way it is...
@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 11
hi millertime yes the one flaw is that minus tab in the hands of someone who seems to hate for anyone to have a nine or ten. thats really sorry but like you say cannot be helped. as for politics i learned early on that you will get slammed if you do not agree down to every sentence someone writes and here I had thought a discussion was to air all viewpoints not just the posters viewpoint.I have struggled to get back to blue but its slow going now but 93 percent is not bad at all really.I just do not understand what makes people like that in politics and its worse now than ever before.so now I leave that interest strictly alone.
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@bounce58 (17441)
• Canada
14 Apr 11
I think the other way is also the same. It takes a while to increase it a point, it also takes a while to decrease it a point. For the longest time, I have been contented at being perfect. Only to realize that it was about to go down. It just took a long time to get to it. Hopefully I stay at one less than perfect for a long time.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Apr 11
hi bounce I am told the higher your number the slower it will be to increase and I think it works about decreasing too. I did haved 100 percent but it changed when I was trolled then got b ack to an 8 then to an 9 where I am stuck but 93percent is good too. 8
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@KrauseHome (36637)
• United States
11 Apr 11
Personally I am one to try and Rate especially if I feel it is worth rating. I feel rating is a very important part of being here, and can really effect the way someone is seen in here. The only times I have ever minused someone is if I feel they are being RUDE, or when it is just something I feel unworthy of being able to share in here. I often think too many times people have went on rampages here just because of someone disagreeing with them not taking time to really understand or wanting to relate.
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@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Apr 11
hi tina some people seem offended if anyone has a different idea than theirs and believe some do go minusing because they hate having people disagree with them which is wrong and mylot adcmins says do not minus peple just because they differ in their viewpoints from yours.
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 11
I share your happiness for finally having one point added to your star rating. For most of us it is a laborious task to climb the ladder but going down is only a twist of the fingers. You are a blue star material and couldn't understand why you are still in the red. If only I have the magic power I would place you among the elite blues as it is long overdue for a person who has earned a gigantic credits to your name.
@Hatley (164094)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 11
hi zandi sadly the first sev en months i was here I got a blue star at once and 99 percent so two guys were jealous and mad at my discussion about smoking being bad for your health. they stayed up all night negging everything i posted and took me down to a five.mylot admins did catch them and emailed me that they had kicked them out but only put my star to an 8 so I worked my way up to 9 where I am stuck at 93 but thats pretty good percentage 93 percentliked me. lol lol